I know this is impossible....if its really bad you can do anything and it wont fix it ... but i need something... no i didnt cheat but i said something wrong and it almost ended it and i told her how sad i was and how bad i felt it ripped me apart to see her hurt by me and i just want to do something to make it up to her we are actually ok no but i still want to do something....nothing cheezy please and shes not a huge fan of flowers... i just want some original sweet ideas that you girls would love for your man to do... i will do ne thing i totally love this girl with all my heart! anything helps!!!!
2006-09-12 16:40:25 · 28 answers · asked by stiffler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i got a card with a note in it to meet at a certain time. and then i was blind folded, and he took me to a hotel , where there was rose petals all over the bed. a box of candy, a bottle of champagne, and a home made card on my pillow that said how much he loved me and was sorry. then he took me out to eat. and back to the room and we talked, and had a wonderful time.
2006-09-12 16:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by plummer7cat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
# 1) You can't make it up to her.
#2) As long as words are only in your mind they are just a thought, but once you say them you cannot take them back, nor can you erase the pain they have caused.
# 3) if you are still doing things to make it up to her, you are fighting a losing battle. It will never happen!
# 4) It is nice that you want to do something nice for her, but you need to be doing it simply because you love her, not as an apology & you need to make sure she knows that the reason you are doing it is because you love her.
# 5) Anything from the heart! That means you spent more time and effort on it than money. Cook her dinner yourself, & don't cheat in doing so either. It is not so much what you cook, as the fact that YOU cooked. Pack a simple pic-nic and head for the park, or a lake. Make her something: A card, draw her a picture, write her a poem. Take her hunting with you, & don't complain because she is there! Not a huge fan of flowers? Neither am I, but once in a while a single long stemmed rose is ok, and a handful of wildflowers tied with a bow that YOU tied mite be ok. A new houseplant, or something the 2 of you can plant together in the yard, or window garden. Something else you might want to consider, just because you think something is cheesy, does not mean she will agree with that statement. Even the most hard core tomboys are still women, and still have a feminine side to them, even if most people do not see it.
2006-09-13 00:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by missouriaunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLD IT! I ain't a woman... but I think you might want to pay attention... here's something that works for me...
Try honesty and sincerity instead of a grand performance that is false and deceitful. Isn't that simpler?
Why would you do something that is out of the ordinary and simply not YOU? Don't you give her credit for being smart enough to see through all of this parade and pomp?
Honesty is something that you should describe YOU at all times, and it is something that intelligent, self-sufficient and secure women appreciate the most because it shows you respect them and you treat them with the dignity they deserve. Buying her a present is making a whore out of her under the circumstances.
Being sincere and honest will always win the day over and above trinkets and candy (more calories to fatten her?) or flowers that wilt and die in a few days, and acting out of character (doing something you wouldn't ordinarily wouldn't do) is hypocrisy.
Try being a bit more considerate of her feelings; too often we're really out of touch with the feelings of those we love and WE are the cause of so much hurt and tears... unnecessarilty so! Be a nicer person, be the person that would make her proud to be with you! I'm sure she does the same for you, and she would really appreciate it if you would reciprocate... if she has to tell you this, then she knows it's best to keep on walking and leave you behind...
Good luck and best wishes.
2006-09-13 00:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the fanciest restaurant you know in a limo then out for drinks and dancing. And maybe a gift like jewlery. She will forgive you three times for that!!! If thats too expensive how about a bubble bath with candels and champagne followed by a massage.
2006-09-12 23:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by LETICIA P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you could write her a letter telling her how much you love her men never write love notes women like it that would win any womans heart or maybe write her a im sorry poem maybe something like this when we first met i knew you were the one for me you are the one who brightens my day when when everything is dark and grey you are the one i want to fall asleep to and wake up to for the rest of my life i know that all relationships have there ups and downs but ours means everything to me for everything that i ever did i truley cant appoligize enough for you are my soulmate i love you now and ill love you forever i hope this will help i know this is what ide want to here from a man but men are not as senseitive or romantic like woman good luck
2006-09-12 23:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by mell14716 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I,m sorry to say this but you're not at the right place. The thing that would touch her the most is if YOU search for something you know she would like you to do and do it. Something that comes from deep within your heart. Not something that comes from ideas from strangers on the net...
Anyway, good luck!
2006-09-12 23:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by germ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
.... i'm not a female.. but anything that shows you made the effort to say "i'm sorry" will work. most girls like simple things. it's not what you say. it's what you do that's more important.
my gf isn't a fan of flowers either, but the fact that I made the effort to go out and buy it. that made her happy.
try ask her to go on a date. tell her you will go and pick her up from her place. bring flower. go to a nice resturant and then a movie. take her home after. :D
2006-09-12 23:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by LeoRS250 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRY TAKING A WALK IN HER SHOES, TELL HER WHAT YOU SEE. IT SHOWS YOU HAVE EMPATHY, WHICH IS THE MOST ADMIRABLE HUMAN QUALITY. YOU MIGHT BE WRONG ABOUT SOME STUFF, BUT IT GIVES HER THE CHANCE TO SET YOU STRAIGHT. "HONEY, IF I WERE YOU, I WOULD BE FEELING REALLY HURT AND DISAPPOINTED WITH ME....." FILL IN THE BLANKS, AND ELABORATE. WHEN SHE SEES THAT YOU "GET IT" SHE WILL MORE THAN LIKELY FORGIVE YOU. AND AS FAR AS GIVING HER A MATERIAL GIFT, MAKE HER A LIST ON YOUR COMPUTER ON NICE STATIONARY; A LIST OF HER TOP 10 PERSONAL CHARACTERISTICS THAT YOU ADORE ABOUT HER (NOT HER LOOKS, BUT HER GENEROSITY IF SPIRIT, HER KINDNESS AND COMPASSION, HER NEAR-PSYCHIC INTUITION, ETC). THESE THINGS TAKE EFFORT, WHICH GOES A LONG WAY WITH A WOMAN. CONSCIOUSLY DO THINGS TO INSPIRE HER TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT HERSELF WHEN SHE IS WITH YOU. YOU CAN DO THIS....
2006-09-12 23:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should take her some where she LOVES to go. You should try talking to her with your HEART and not ur BRAIN. your brain got you in this mess in the first place. I think if you really talk to her from the heart and are truly honest shell know your sorry and shell forgive you. GOOD LUCK :)
2006-09-12 23:50:51 · answer #9 · answered by helpful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Ex once said some ****** up shyt to me and he bought me a card with a bear on the frount and wrote inside ..thank you for not being as hairy and scary as this bear and for accepting my appliges (yeah im a bad speller) but that was the sweetest thing ever. and plus you cant go wrong with a card.
2006-09-12 23:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋