I am so sick of this ....I am doing my best to keep this LDR thing afloat, but i am always feeling like when I call, I am bugging her...but I think about her every freakin minute...am I a nut, or should I just stop calling until she calls me. When i call she says I am not bothering her, but I feel otherwise...I don't think i can handle a LDR, I think it is time to find someone else....argh...
my question is this...Should not a Long Distance Relationship(LDR) be 50/50...one person hould not feel like they are carrying the burden of it should they?
2006-09-12 16:39:47 · 7 answers · asked by O Jam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand how you feel. I'm with this guy who I always end up calling him and he doesn't call me (or calls me very little). Each time I call him I feel like I'm always bothering him, although he says he loves to hear from me. Yes a LDR should be 50/50. If not then there's no use for it. It doesn't work if only one person is working at it. You should tell her how you feel and see what happens from there. Only then can you decide whether you want to stay with her or move on. Good luck.
2006-09-12 16:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by SimpleGurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be more equal. Sounds like you need to end the LDR, it dont seem to be working for you. Good luck
2006-09-12 16:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should be 50/50 if the relationship has been going on for sometime. If it is new, then you should be the one to call until she feels comfortable with the idea that You are ok with the idea of her calling. Most guys prefer the chase and women know it. Once we are comfortable with the guy and know its alright to reciprocate, then we will call him.
2006-09-12 16:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Scottish Dachsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long Distance relationships are difficult to maintain. If you are sensing negative vibes from her and you are uncomfortable with the situation, it's time to cut your losses and move forward.
2006-09-12 16:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if something is bothering her...if she says no than take her word for it, you can't be a mind reader, so if there's something you feel like she's not tell you and she feels or seems to be bothered by you than let her initiate the phone calls.
2006-09-12 16:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel so bad about it stop beating yourself over the head and stop calling her otherwise call and bear the consequences
2006-09-12 16:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by Totoru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound to needy and she probably senses that ,If I were you I wouldn't call her again , wait for her to make the next call If she likes you as much as you like her she'll call.
2006-09-12 16:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋