The man I am dating just recently got divorced and has 3 kids, we have been dating for 7 months and so far everything has gone smooth. My feeling are strong, but im still unsure of the situation of the relationship, should i go any farther with this person? since he has been divorced allready he is practicly all tramatized, and is scared of commiting again.
2006-09-12 16:37:09 · 20 answers · asked by flirtatious155 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh my gosh he is afraid of commitment
im telling you if you feel he is unable to commit
give him space and time go away for a while
you have strong feelings but you dont want to end up getting hurt by an undecided man
go away first let him realize that he needs you in his life
and hey its not easy you see he has three kids you would have to be emotionally, physically and mentally strong and capable to be able to handle all of this
ask yourself are you ready for this really tough responsibility in having this relationship with him?
you see this is not only you its also them
2006-09-12 16:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely practice safe sex in the future. It sounds like you have enough stress already, but give marriage counseling a try. You have a lot on your plate right now especially considering the fact you're only 26. Why not ask your wife to start looking for a part-time job for extra income? Only use your credit cards in an emergency or last resort. Start paying down your debts (smallest to largest) and create an emergency fund by saving money each and every month. You should also create a budget and spending plan for the entire month. You are probably overspending each month based on the income you have coming in and the household expenditures. Do you have Fox Business Network? Then watch Dave Ramsey and give him a call? You need a money makeover for sure and this might fix your marriage as well. Financial problems are the number 1 reason for divorce in America today.
2016-03-26 22:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is huge and just coming from a divorce is not a good sign either. Give him some time alone before you try to make a relationship with him. You need time to live the single life before you settle down and he might need some single time now that he is free again!
2006-09-12 16:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'll tell you a secret. All guys want to have a 18 yr. old girlfriend. I don't care if he's 75 yrs. old. I will tell you what you want to hear. I'll sprinkle treasures on you. If I'm 29 with an 18 yr old, she'll never leave the bedroom.
The problem is yours. You want to run. To party. To hang with your buddies. If you don't do it now that part of your life will be irreversibly be gone. In 2 years you won't know anyone ,close, anymore
2006-09-12 16:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by da_hammerhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not to say that you are immature, and you two probably get along great, but you are on two different levels, he's got kids and although he may not be ready to commit to someone so soon, he is in a very stable place. while you don't need to be in a stable place, you're most likely getting ready for college, and if you aren't it's still a time for you to explore, meet new ppl, and test your boundaries. it's not a huge age difference, but it's the same as a 12 year old and a 16 year old, they are just two worlds apart. best of luck!
2006-09-12 16:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by sweets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your his transitional girl...the rebound girl? There is no way on God's green earth that a recently divorced man is going to make any kind of committment (other than not to commit) to a woman.
3 kids is a lot of responsibility. Are you mature enough to share him with his children every other weekend when he gets them because that's the reality of dating a man with children,
2006-09-12 16:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience. you might be look for a mature guy who can take care of you but look at the three children. they are that '29 guy ' problem if you both got maried it will be your both problem unless you have a caring heart if not this relationship is not going to be long, you might be the '4th 'he got divorce. From i read, the 29 guy is looking for a young, naive, looking for a mature guy girl to drop into his 'trap' so girl be careful who you are dating.
2006-09-12 16:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if you're unsure, best 2 stop it now. In your situation it rarely works out anyway- Don't mean to upset U, thats just the cold hard facts
2006-09-12 16:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd first be worried about his 3 kids. Do you want to be the mother of 3 kids that aren't yours? That's a pretty hard job to have.
2006-09-12 16:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by Janet lw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run baby,run. Live your life. Don't tie yourself down to this mess now. It seems romantic because you feel needed. Trust me in a year or two you will feel all used up.
2006-09-12 16:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋