when we first started dating he said he never wanted to get married, but throughout the two years that ive known him, hes changed his mind about that.
do you think this is just how some guys are and that he'll change his mind, or should i slooowly start, erm.. helping him.. change his mind? lol.. and if so, what can i do?
2006-09-12 16:36:07 · 22 answers · asked by koifox_104 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He'll change his mind. I did. It has been beat into our heads that getting someone pregnant is the worst thing that can happen to you. Then you hear about the reponsibility and all. But ONE DAY, you wake up and realize that something is missing in your life. You'll realize that your life has stopped progressing. This year is the same as last, and the year before and the year before that. You start wondering what legacy you will leave behind one day, if you'll be remembered or thought of 100 years from now. Youl'll start wondering what your life is going to be like when you are old.
2006-09-12 16:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old they are and what type of family history they have.
When a guy says he doesn't want to marry, that is something you need to take to heart. After all, you still aren't married right? Why would he say that? Did his parents have a rocky marriage or divorce?
Don't be foolish and be one of those women that thinks she can "change" him into what she wants. Big mistake. Its a wake up call to you not to settle. If he doesn't want them and you do, you have to walk away and go for what you want. Too many women make this mistake and then are angry and disappointed when their life turns out to be what he wanted and not what she wanted.
Be true to you and what you want for your life. There are many fish in the sea and there is one out there that will want what you do. Don't settle for less or you wil have regrets.
2006-09-12 23:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until I met my husband when I was 30 I didn't think I would want kids either, and we now have a 2 year-old son. I would not get married, though unless you find out for sure if he REALLY doesn't want kids if this is something that is important to you.
2006-09-12 23:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never wanted to get married and have kids, but as I got older, I changed my mind. Now I have a wife and two beautiful kids. Give him time. He will want them eventually. Until then, have him hang out with a bunch of guys with little boys. That will make him want one of his own to play sports with and such.
2006-09-12 23:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should think a bit about this and make sure this is the right guy for you ..if you want children and he does not why force someone ?..would you like to be in a situation that you don't want to be in ..maybe he is uncomfortable around kids ..maybe he just needs more time ..you should honestly let him make up his own mind ...kids can be just as scarey as they can also be great joy ...I wish you two the best of luck in this issue and hope you do the right thing ...Good luck
2006-09-12 23:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes3605@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is dead set on it he wont change his mind! and you should not try to get him to change his mind because then it will mess up your relationship and he will come to resent you! also do not try to trick him into having a kid! and if he changes his mind on his own later with no help from you then thats ok! but don't force the issue. besides being with the man you love and who loves you should be more important than having or not having kids is!
2006-09-13 14:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 37 years. My husband did not want kids either. After 6 years of marriage we had twins. He was not interested in them until they were grown. He wasn't abusive, he always provided financially for them, but they have never had a close relationship. He regrets it now, but it's to late. If children are important to you, find a man who shares your vision.
2006-09-12 23:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by sandi c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he doesn't wanna have kids. Has he alwayz been like that ? Maybe you can tell him the benefits of having kids...having a fam... raising them... being a parent... If you can't convince him to have kids w/ you, then maybe you need to rethink whether or not you wanna be w/ him. If he still doesn't wanna have kids, then maybe it's time that you stop dating him & find someone else who does wanna have kids... Good luck.
2006-09-12 23:40:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never is probably the most abused word in our vocab, almost all guys say the same thing. His natural ambition of passing on his genes will eventually prevail. No don't trick him or pursued him it has to be his decision too!
2006-09-12 23:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that might be a bad idea to try and change his mind. the worst thing that you could do to a relationship is change the person....the chances will sky rocket that later on they will only resent you because you changed their life plans. The more they change becuase of you the more you will regret it, because the more they will resent you
2006-09-12 23:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by Kiwi 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋