how do you feel about your teen dating another teen out of their race?..for example..whites and blacks.
i am white and i have been with my fiance for 5 years.. and he is mixed. (white/black) and my parents never agreed with it..until not too long ago. i just want to know why parents are like that?..whats the difference we are all people and come from the same place and the same world?!..i always told my parents.. would you rather want me with a white man that beat me and was abusive and didnt care about me.. or a black man that takes good care of me and loves me and would do anything for me..but im just wondering and just want to see your opinion.
2006-09-12 16:28:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Unfortunately, your parents are racist and many people are also the same way. Good for you though to stick with the man you love despite your parents opinions. It's your life and your parents need to look passed their ignorance and at your happiness.
2006-09-12 17:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 15 year old daughter. I am very glad to see that race is not an issue in her social group or in her high school. Where I live, the "mixed" kids are the coolest... (Sexual orientation is not an issue at her school either).
In my opinion, things have improved greatly since I was a teenager. I have been very careful to teach my children that everyone was created by God and we are all equal. I am happy because not only did my children learn this lesson, but it appears other parents passed on the same accepting values.
If your parents do not seem comfortable with your dating situation, try to understand they grew up with totally different attitudes than you are experiencing. I am not excusing their ignorance, but they are going to have a different perspective than you are. In the end, they just want their children to be happy healthy adults no matter who they choose for their mate.
Good Luck!!!
2006-09-12 19:20:12 · answer #2 · answered by LasVegasMomma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that the world is going to be more difficult for interracial couples. That is just the way the world is. Since the rate of divorce is so high for same race couples, it is going to be higher for mixed married people. I should know, I am married to some one out of my race. There are times when outsiders question our relationship but being that I am so old, I don't care what people think any more but I can imagine for younger people it is more difficult. Teens want to be part of the group, not singled out.
2006-09-12 16:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by pleeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm A teen who is dating a guy who is mixed (white/black) and my parents and family didn't agree with it at first, then after they seen how well he treated me and how much he loved me, they've finally include him as part of the family. We've Been dating for almost 3 years, and are now engaged to be married.
2006-09-12 18:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by *Proud Mommy Of 2* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents think that way because they are older and know the hardships interracial couples go through. I agree with you when you say people are people and it doesn't matter if they are white black purple green blue or yellow, but in society today people believe you should stay with your own color and look down upon interracial relationships.
I say do what you want if it makes you happy. Your parents will come around once they see you are willing to try hard to make it work.
2006-09-12 19:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by Miss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All parents should ask themselves "Did my parents approve of everyone I dated,and did they like who I ultimately married?"At 15 you are still learning about relationships and parents worry that "their little girl" will get hurt.Over the course of time you will experience love,pain (of breakups) and an entirely new range of emotions.You will draw upon these experiences to make better choices in your dating.Parents are suspicious of almost everyone who dates their daughter until they get to know him.As long as your date treats you respectfully your parents will eventually come around.
2006-09-12 16:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just because that's the way they grew up. It's diffrent too... It's getting to be more and more typical. I'm sure your parents want you to be happy, they just didn't imagine it would be with a black man. As time goes by it will become more normal for them. Try to be understanding. Obviously they didn't raise you to be racist.
2006-09-12 19:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step-daughter was dating a guy from Brazil (Exchange student) and we didn't have a problem with it. They still communicate through email, but she is now dating someone of her same race, but as long as the person is respectful it does not matter.
2006-09-12 16:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as the other person is pleasant, polite, and sincere, and they allow me to meet their family as the time is right, then I have no problem with it. I would have these expectations no matter what the race.
2006-09-12 16:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by whatthe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 4 sons and 2 of them have dated out of their race there is nothing wrong with it i have 2 wonderful granchildren that are mixed black/white and they are my pride and joy my grandson says i have a white granny and a black granny and they love me thats what its all about
2006-09-13 02:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋