I am moving away from my boyfriend, and we both sort of decided that it would be for the best if we didn't "date" anymore. Meaning he and I are no longer "together" we still hang out and say I love you...but we basically don't sleep together...I miss him, I miss our relationship...not so much the sex, but just having someone there for me. I don't know what to do...except get him a job where I am going...anyone have advice on long distance relationships?
2006-09-12 16:22:21 · 19 answers · asked by kate5484 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I AM IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP AND IT IS ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL! IF YOU AND YOUR BOYFRIEND ARE MEANT TO BE, THEN IT WILL BE AND THE DISTANCE DOESN'T MATTER. WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT EITHER HE WILL MOVE TO YOU, OR YOU WILL MOVE TO HIM, BUT TRUST ME, YOU WILL END UP TOGETHER...IF IT'S MEANT TO BE. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-12 16:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by CHASE_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you fall in love with someone that doesn't reciprocate the feelings yet that person is a genuinely nice person, and is nice to be with and speak with... if you hadn't dated that person, you'd want that person as a friend... is that so wrong?
If you love that person, truly love that person, then you'd want the best for him/her and you'd want to advise and help guide that person away from difficulties and problems. There's nothing wrong with with being friends with someone you really care for... after all, you MUST have seen some good qualities in that person in order to like and fall in love with him/her, right? There's no law that says that you have to hate or despise a person you no longer date.
I am still very friendly with some of the ladies I dated and their husbands know I dated them before they got together and we're friends and have dinner together... because the husbands know that I respect them and I also respect the friendships that exist, and that I would never betray the trust or friendships.
My dad was very friendly with his ex-wife while he was married to my mother; the lady's husband and she would come over for dinner with my older brother and we'd have music and have a very nice day together. My mother and the lady were very good friends and my dad and the lady's husband were also very good friends, too. That was way back in the 50s and early 60s. Since then, my dad has passed away, the lady passed away, the gentleman passed away and my older brother passed away, too. The only ones alive are now my very elderly mom and me.
I have no ill feelings for my ex-wife and I still send her a Mother's Day card and a present. She deserves it (she put up with me for so many years and she gave me the most wonderful daughter any father can wish for). I still love her and I still wish her well, and I will always be there for her, too, even though we've both moved on with our lives. It IS possible.
2006-09-12 23:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance never works out. Why would you break up so long before you leave? You need to savor the time you have left... every minute... Staying in touch with someone is almost more unbearable than just ignoring them. It's like a carrot being dangled in front of you! I would patch things up with him until the day you have to move. Once you are away from him, it will be much easier. You'll meet more new people and have all new experiences. good luck!
2006-09-12 23:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by lester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do really love him, then stay beside him! At least try to build more trust before leaving him and go for a long distance relationships...
Many has told us that long distance relationships doesnt really works, but why believe on them? Get a life and prove them wrong. Make a Difference and surely your sacrifices will be paid off soon.
2006-09-12 23:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are emotion people, you once dated a guy , broke up with him and you expect to forget him just like that?you are not a robot~! just press delete and all gone~! it take time and slowly wash away but memory still remain. yes, you can go out with him but not dating no 'i love you' word, cz this is make you much more confuse and this will never end unless it stop. lone distance relationship is hard to maintain. pls put 'ever lasting love' story aside, we are not in a movie or novel,we are in reality life. we fell pain inside us when we saw people passing by holding hands but we are not cz our boyfriend is 'out of town'. Unless you both have gone through a tough situation to be together if it is not i would advise just be friends. the pain Will never go away.
hope you have make up you mind remember Chinese has a proverb 'you sacrifice a forest because of a tree'
2006-09-12 23:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think first you need to decide if you really want to remain "just friends" or you are still trying to pursue him.
At one point you are asking "how do you stay friends" and at the end you ask about advice "on long distance relationships." So which one is it?
It sounds like you need to decide which path you are on. If you "get him a job" where you are moving you will only compound the problem if you remain "just friends."
2006-09-12 23:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by Tim43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch Seinfeld, I look at it as a daters documentary to staying friends with someone you've been intimate with. Truly, if you step back a little, some things you have to let go of like, before being a girlfriend every aspect of his life virtually was your business and now you have to realise that to be just friends there are things that are no longer your business, make a list stick to it and things should be just fine. It is also up to him too you know, what if he doesn't want to remain just friends. He may well, not be able to handle it.
2006-09-12 23:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok , well i think it's putting salt on a wound!! In other words, you can't just be friends if u are in love with this guy. In time when u go away. You will move on. In the beginning it will be hard for you but when u meet another hottie you will feel better!!
2006-09-12 23:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand. If you are no longer dating him then there is no long distance relationship. If you think it is best to be apart, make a clean break from him.
2006-09-12 23:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im basically going through the sam thing girl. im going to move away from my bf, and go to chch. me and my bf fight too much. I f you really love him, just stay with him, and try to get along, if that can't happen, then i guess moving is not a bad idea. I cant really say much cos im havin trouble with my bf, but i always try to help out.
2006-09-12 23:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by mariah k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋