2 things, my girlfriend wants to have a baby. were both 16 and i want to alot. please help?

Question

my girlfriend of just a year and a half came and told me yesterday she wants to have a baby.....were both 16 yrs old and i actually want to have one to...this is the gal that im gonna marry....i just have no idea what to do or say....and if i had it what would i do....please help me

Answer 1

U are still young...

PLEASE ASK U'RE GF N U THINK off this problem when u have kids(if both parent wont't support)....

1- Do u know how to take care of babies???
2- Do u're both parent agreed about marry???
3- Do u have enogh money to raised a kid???
(( grossery stuff *pampers-milk powder-napkins-cloth- food....* ))
4-Do u have money to support u're family (( u're wife allowance n u're allowance ))

that's only half still a lot more but u think about that first

anything message me, my husband 21 went we have kids (still need my parent to support)


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Answer 2

Ok, i first wanna say u r too young. She should at least wait 2 more yrs to have children. R u in school? Ur baby will cause problems since ur at such a young age, and honestly, not tryin to sound mean, but u havent grown up. U got plenty of stuff ahead of u. My parents werent married til it was after 2 yrs. I dated my ex-bf 2 yr and we didnt click that fire. Ur too young. It takes alot of many to support a new baby. U guys gonna just rely on ur parents? what do they think of this, or do thay have the slightest clue? Also, not tryin to sound as a judgement b-itch, but i dont think u should have ne children until ur married. Basically, u need good income, some1 always to be around ur child , best if it would be u or ur gf, and an appriate play off live, which will be hard for u to get since ur under 18. U need to wait, and think about what could happen. Theres good and bad. I just think that most definitely, in my opinion, u need to wait...awhile

Answer 3

I think both of you should seriously sit down and set out your finances! the last thing that you want to do is bring a child into this world and not be able to support them. And don't think that just because you are 16 that mommy and daddy (meaning your own) will take care of the baby for you. If you are set for having a child and are willing to make all the sacrafices in the world and working 40hrs a week and buying all the needs that the child will have then go for it. But being 16 i don't think that it is such a great idea because you have so much more life to live before settling down and giving up your life for the next 18 years just for a desire that is just a phase that you will get over. If you two are seriously considering this, have a talk with your parents and see what they feel because I would imagine that they aren't going to give you the support you want and aren't going to raise this child.

Remember YOU are bringing a child into this world and it is YOUR responsibility to take care of it. that might mean, no junior proms, no senior balls, no class trips, because you have to take care of your child. If you are willing to give up your child life youself and produce another human be ready to shut out your life to give your child your total devotion!

I don't think this is a wise decision for you and your girlfriend at this time. if you say that you are going to marry her then you two have plenty of time to decide things. Don't you want to life live first. be able to take vacations or go to clubs and not have to worry about where your child is going?..... just take some time to really think about what you are doing.....

Answer 4

My advice: you're too young for a kid right now. You have the whole world ahead of you, and you want a baby? A baby is a lot of responsibility and finance's to boot - you're parents won't be there to help you forever, and a baby is also time consuming both to you, your girlfriend, and your life. I suggest to concentrate on your studies, see the world, and raise a kid when you guys actually get married and are over the legal age. Preferably over 25.

Answer 5

I think that you and your girlfreind should wait...i mean if you two are both in love then you guys can wait till marriage to concieve a child..having a child at this age is very difficult trust me....i know alot of my girl freinds who wish that they didn't get pregnant until they were old enough to handle them...Unless you have a stable job that pays you good money and your living in your own place then mabye you guys can consider it...but still being 16 years of age and then having a baby at 18 is going to be tough...depends on what you want to do...???

Answer 6

WAIT!! Having a baby when you are a teenager is very hard in three main ways, physically your body goes through shock, second your emotions are haywire anyway...add pregnancy hormones and you feel like you are going crazy..
Third financial....Babies are expensive. You have diapers,clothes,bottles, cribs,stroller,car seat....ect.
I speak from experience. I had a baby at 18. I love him dearly, but I wish I had waited.
If you don't want to wait then give it serious thought. Speak to someone in your area that knows about teen pregnancy. Look at all the facts, and choose wisely. A baby is not something that can be undone.

Answer 7

ya think 16 might b a little 2 early 2 hav a baby. finish school and uni then think about. u got plenty of time.
geez people

I hope u both good luck on watever u decide though

Answer 8

DONT DO IT,,,, First off have u gone out and priced the items that you will be needing every day? Diapers, clothes, shoes, Formula, crib, etc and you will probably be doing that off of flipping burgers at mcdonalds only making your life 100 times worse than it can be -- SO STOP AND THINK BEFORE U JUMP INTO THIS

Answer 9

Id say you should wait till your atleast out of school first. So prolly 18-22 depending on college.

Having a kid while your in school is the WRONG way to go.

Answer 10

you are both so young and have a lifetime ahead of you to have kids when you get married . enjoy being young while you can , dont put the added pressure of parenthood on yourselves. babies are not cheap and at this point you probably cant afford it.