I am so sick of being rejected by guys because I prefer to use the dating services email to communicate until I get to know them before giving out my email address or phone number. I lose more guys' interest this way because they think I am a flake. I explain to them that I have to get to know them first and they seem to think I am just playing with them. Every dating service will tell you to never give out your phone number, last name, email or anything to someone you don't know. That's the purpose of communicating through the online service. And if the guy has simply taken a free membership and can't comminicate for long through the service because his free time expires, well I am not interested in him anyway since I am paying for the service and he should be willing to pay too. I'm not hiding anything or playing games with them, I just want to be safe. What is the best way to get this across to these guys who can't understand me wanting to be safe?
2006-09-12 15:34:45 · 12 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know some guys are weary that the woman might be a set up, but then again, anyone can set up an email to set someone up too.
2006-09-12 15:35:41 · update #1
Maybe it has something to do with those pink glasses of yours YIKES!!!
No in all seriousness. Your safety is the most important thing. You have to protect yourself. This is not anything you should have to defend with any man.
If he is a good person he will be patient and willing to wait until you are comfortable. If he is not a good person then who cares. At least you figured out that he is pushy and not interested in you right out the gate.
In your profile just explain how you feel. Tell them you are so excited about dating again but due to safety concerns you will not be giving out your info until you feel ready.
2006-09-12 15:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by hisgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin, don't worry about that. To hell with how they fell or think. It is YOUR safety that is important. If that little voice in your head says "who, hold on.. " its probably with good reason. Now, more than ever women need to be careful. VERY careful. Your feelings are the most important. Your honesty is what needs to be up and front at all times. If a guy respects you as a woman, and a lady, he will be patient until you decide whats best for you- sex, friendship, etc.
Consider a double date or two until you get to know the guy. Be sure the dates are in public, and take your own car, meeting him there till YOU feel comfortable. good luck, good hunting
2006-09-12 22:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are 100% correct. Don't give that information out right away. You will regret it. I know it stinks to be rejected for it, but look at it this way--maybe one of those guys who rejected you was up to no good. You may lose a date or two, but you need to be safe and any guy who won't understand that isn't worth it.
2006-09-12 22:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of times it has to do with the father figure in a mans life find out the men in his life. Hint: if it is an entertainer or someone from a video there will be minimum security for you. He doesn't know security unless he has been secure himself. Sad to say everyone does not grow up with a father figure and it shows look for a man with a real role model.
2006-09-12 22:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Scooba22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget this online dating stuff.....give it up. Just go out on your own, join a club with something you are interested, see friends, go places and don't prowl around. Some day when you least expect it......you will meet someone who is just right for you!
2006-09-12 22:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are so rushed to meet you they are not serious and only looking for one thing thats why they dont want to waste time getting to know you if they are interested in a relationship with someone they want to know they will get to know you by email first.remember they dont know you yet either so if its not a good match they want to know that just like you before they give you their number.be patient
2006-09-12 22:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by down800 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it either.
A girl can't be too careful nowadays there are alot of weirdo guys online. Guys don't get it because they don't have to worry about stuff like that.
2006-09-12 22:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kayte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
internet dating is just weird!!!! go out and party!!!!! you'll meet some body nice. even if you dont, you have fun ....and you get drunk......???? wouldnt that be easyer than meet some freak off the net......or at least safe
2006-09-12 22:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by rhisklee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what kind of guy u know...I care about my grl like allot. if I drop her home, i call her and see if she went safely or no.
2006-09-12 22:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by kams2999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie its just thier egos gettin in the way they don deserve you anyway! love...
2006-09-12 22:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by "Chanel-o" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋