I'm just sort of curious to get some opinions. After getting out of a relationship it's hard to get back into the swing of things. Do decent guys ever tend to be attracted to us average girls if we have a good heart and personality. It's not a big thing. I just have curiosity about it. I'm hoping to one day find a decent guy but after having an ex who treated me like crap it's hard to know if it'll ever happen. Any opinions?
2006-09-12 15:28:33 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By some answers I got I want to clarify that I do my hair and makeup and I dress nice and I'm outgoing. I just know that I'm not all that great to look at. I'm average as most girls are. I do have confidence because I know I'm a good person.
2006-09-12 15:44:38 · update #1
if somebody falls in love with your personality, you will look beautiful to them no matter what
2006-09-12 15:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by itslate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am of the personality that is usually called a "nice guy". Personally, I am attracted to girls who are stable, independent, and normal. But, right now, all I can find are freaks who want one night stands. So I started just looking for friends.
Making a friend first gives you a chance to meet people without pressure. You can learn who they really are, and you can decide if you really like them without all the drama of a romance getting in the way. When you have that friend who is just right, it will turn into a romantic relationship without even trying. All you have to do is let it.
If you have a history of being treated like crap, then there might be something about your personality or habits that attracts the jerks. I know that I used to attract girls with problems because I wanted to help, I wanted to fix them. I got tired of that when they all took me for granted and never helped me out. So take a look at yourself, what you look for, and what you seem to attract, see if there is an adjustment you might need to make that would attract the kind of men you really want.
Good luck!
2006-09-12 22:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, we want a decent girl, we don't like games and we don't someone cheating and back stabbing us. At the same time, we don't like getting smothered or being mothered. Problem is,hot girls become bitches, and average girls have low self esteem and it just shows. Especially when a relationship becomes abusive and the girl stays in it, it becomes more and more apparent we can walk all over her and thus, we lose interest. A boyfriend is not everything, take things slow, if it happens it happens, so many people end up divorced and cheat. Your a good looking chick, hang in there!
2006-09-12 22:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by bilbissi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always treated women with respect, yet I remain single. While looks do matter to some degree, I feel that personality is the most important thing. I want a girl that will appreciate the nice things that I do and will respect me as well. Hopefully, I will find that one day. You will find a decent guy. Just be patient.
2006-09-12 22:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by GB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sort of true but thats isnt it all. You should also be fun and be caring and be able to show it. Dont look for love but do fglance around and show intrest if someone shows a hind of intrest because if you run then guys wont chase and if you chase then guys will wait for you catch up and use you mostly. Its a sort of a balance and so its sort of a two way street with cars in each lane and they coexist with a mass up. Good luck and remember do dress up nice and cute, get a nice hair do and be presentable and kind and have a plan for the future. Guys like girls who hacve their act tother and have a bright future plan at least.
2006-09-12 22:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what I really 1st attracts me to a girl, is when it's really obvious that she cares about herself. I mean it shows in the way she takes the time to do her hair & makeup just right, & really knows how to wear the right clothes. Beyond the superficial stuff, she also has an aire of confidence, can talk openly with guys as well as women. I have often witnessed this in so called "average" girls, & gone away with a 1st impression that this girl is totally hot.
Remember this rule: The 1st impression is everything!
2006-09-12 22:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody tell you were average. Average is a state of mind. First thing you have to do is start thinking out of the box and above average. Guys are attracted to self confidence and someone that is sure of themselves.
If you want the best, you have to set your sights high and don't settle for less. He will find you.
2006-09-12 22:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by rikv77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decent guys you speak of really do want average girls. Let me give you a little tip. The perfect woman as my grandmother used to say, is a lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom. This is not just me talking, but more the wisdom of the ages.
2006-09-12 22:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by MAD MEL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell u sumthin. dont ever let someone treat u lke crap. Its always best to be alone then to be wit bad company. plz understand this. As for your question, u might or might not meet a decent guy. Dont believe all this chit of fate or destiny. Its what you make of it. Do not assume your dream guy will just appear on your doorstep. If you want a decent guy, go search. If u want it to happen, make it happen. Trust me
Good Luck
2006-09-12 22:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im just an average guy myself. I have always had better relationships with the so called average girls. To me they seem less self centered, and not so stuck on how YOU will look on their arm. They are concerned with that loving feeling, and the comfort of the relationship. good luck, if that is your true pic, its a great one
2006-09-12 22:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"...‘Tisn’t beauty, so to speak, nor good talk necessarily. It’s just IT. Some women’ll stay in a man’s memory if they once walked down a street."
Find your "IT" and your find your decent guy. By the way could you define "average" for me. I've met some of the most beautiful women in some of the ugliest places and by the reverse I have met some of the ugliest women in some of the most beautiful places. Only the shallowest of men base their judgment of a woman's beauty solely on her outward appearance.
2006-09-12 22:44:17 · answer #11 · answered by JReb_67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋