How do you cope with being pregnant without having your own mom to see you through?

Question

I am newly married, and just found out I am pregnant, well i have known for a month now, and I miss my mother. She passed away in Oct of last year and she always wanted a grand baby. WHat should I do? How do I cope with all this? Is there anything that makes it easier? Thanks so much for your help.

-Faye

Answer 1

I'm going through about the same thing. (Except my mom's alive, just doesn't have anything to do with me. ) Not much is going to make things any easier. I've found that talking to my mother-in-law and other female relatives that have been through pregnancy helps. Don't let yourself get upset or stressed out. It doesn't help anybody. The baby, you or your husband. If your having a baby girl maybe name her after your mom. From what your writing you seemed very close to her.

Answer 2

Losing a mom is the one of the worst things you can phathom. I'm sorry you won't have your mom there with you. However, you are not alone. So many are raising children with no imput from grandmom. I would suggest that you lean on friends and maybe your mother-in-law for advice and understanding.

Most women who have had a baby are more than happy to share the experiences and to educate you about the dos and don'ts.

No one will ever replace your mom but you are not without comfort. If all else fails you can always come here and some one will do their best to answer your questions.

Good Luck with the new baby!

After thought. You can also let the baby know your mom by showing pictures and telling her stories.

Answer 3

Faye, you are gonna be just fine! I lost my mother in December of 2000. I thought that I would never want kids, but here I am the mother of a beautiful son. I cried to my poor husband "How am I going to do this without my mom?" You just do. There are good days and bad days. But you have a whole new life to worry about. Good luck and God bless!!

Answer 4

I know how you feel from a mans view at least. My daughter was born the day after my mothers funeral, 6 days after her death. My daughters mom, who is no longer with us either, did not have her mother or father during hers either, and my mom took that place for her and it helped a great deal before her passing. I thought of my moms death as a gift, not from god because I dont believe in any, but a gift from her in exchange for a healthy baby girl. Nothing replaces a good mom, but you must find a way to cope, everybody does it in a different way. I almost drank myself to death the month after her death and my girls birth, but I got it together by accepting what is real and the fact there is nothing you can do but move on, but remember her and keep her alive by teaching your child the same things your mom taught you. Take Care.

Answer 5

Congrats! A child is a true blessing. Talk with your husband, he should be your best friend anyways. Also, if you go to church talk to people who have had children, someone you can trust. There are a ton of good books on mother-hood. Read up on the subject, any book will help get you started. Ask anyone else in your family or co-workers. If you ask, you will be surprised how many people will be willing to offer assistance on the subject. Not sure if this helps.

Take Care,

Jon

Answer 6

I am sorry for your loss, but happy for your upcomming gain! First of all it is sad. But what is even sadder is my friend just had a baby and her mother is alive and well and was not there. My friend has 3 brothers, two of which each has a child. Her mom was there for both of her brother's baby's births...but not hers. She is not a bad person, and has always respected her parents. At least you know your mom cared about you and any baby you would produce. This poor girl doesnt even get the support of one of the most vital people in your life on the most important day of her life.

Answer 7

You look to another woman for the support your mother would have given you. I went to my grandma and my great grandma since my mom and sisters are all in really bad places right now. or you can look to a close female friend. I know some of the other answers were your husband BUT men don't really know what you are going though lol!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Dear Faye.....such a special time in your life and you must miss her terribly.....get all the books you can about pregnancy (to keep you from going crazy when you have 10 million questions) and keep a journal or make a scrapbook of your pregnancy to present to your child as a keepsake in the future (or to keep yourself)....include pictures and memories of your mom....Your mom is in heaven and smiling down on you and your future baby....this activity will bring peace to your heart and joy to hers.
God Bless!

Answer 9

Im so sorry, my mother in law passed away last november, and my husband and I have a hard time not seeing her anymore. but we keep remembering all the good times we had with her. she was so special to us. Also knowing that we will see her again in new system that god promises. He is going to make all things knew and resurrect our love ones. I just remember that right now she is sleeping waiting to be resurrected.

Answer 10

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