I work with this guy who is just wonderful! He doesn't act like your typical forty year old. He's very athletic and we have a lot in common. We have great conversations and can talk for hours. He really makes me laugh. He's a single dad (This is not really an issue for me. His daughter is great!) Neither one of us has pursued it, but if he does should I even bother? I really do like him, but wonder what I should do.
2006-09-12 15:23:41 · 52 answers · asked by BJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're thinking strictly in terms of dating, I see nothing wrong with it. However, if you're thinking about a committed future with this person there are some things to consider. In a few years if you decide you'd like a child of your own, will he be on board with that at his age? Down the road when you're old enough to retire and want to do things will he still be able to do them with you? Will you have to stay at home for years taking care of him? If you love the person enough, these could be sacrifices you'll be willing to make. It is something to think about, though.
2006-09-12 15:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
While a 13 year old age gap is not common, it's not unusual, especially if the man is older than the woman. If you find that you still have a lot of stuff in common despite the generational gap, sure, why not? At 27, you're responsible adult, and he's 40 with a daughter, so hopefully he's a responsible adult as well. I simply don't see an issue.
Nobody is going to really raise an eyebrow, it's not like you're say, young enough to be his daughter. As opposed to my uncle, the dirty old man, who is 60 years old and dating a 19 year old, who is younger than his own daughter...
2006-09-12 15:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sinai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not friendship Guru but what I see here a man likes a lady and he expressed it too. At the age of 40 with a child, he may have seen many girls around and if he had good feeling about you, it may not be just physical attraction alone. Some thing more in a mental level.
You may test his resolve and if he is good in your opinion go for it. Men are physically, sexually healthy for longer ages than women, so 12 year age difference does not matter. How ever you have to make sure why the first marriage is divorced, if it was so.
Good luck dear!
2006-09-12 17:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rammohan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how mature you are ...do you have some things in common...I am 24 and I dated a guy who was 40 ...it didn't really work cause he had a daughter and I was a senior when she was a freshman ....it was weird.....I am not trying to discourage you if you feel that there is a connection go for it..."AGE ain't nothing but a number"..After dating him for a while I got the impression that I was something that he could hang on his arm to show off kinda like "Hey, I am so good twenty year olds wanna date me!" Like I was a prize or something...He was nice to me but outwardly to others I was a toy...His daughter even told him he acted like that....Good Luck with it...
2006-09-12 15:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by teacher4u25f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not a problem when it comes to the affairs of the heart. I think you should dig deeper into the problem which is the status of the guy. If you are thinking that that is not a big issue, well, I am telling you in the future days to come, that will be an issue you don't even want to think about. Why settle for less? Look for a guy that is 100% single, meaning without kids without wife.
2006-09-12 15:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you're the only one that can know what to do....follow your heart, if you feel comfortable with him and his daughter....and if you think the age difference between you two doesn't bother you....then give it a try, it's way better to try things....than keep wondering the rest of your life "what would of happened if...." Life is about taking risks, right? so, like I said if you feel comfortable with the age difference and about his daughter, try it! All these people can tell you what to do, but at the end it will be your decision to make, right??? So make it! If you really love someone, age doesn't have to be an obstacle. Good Luck
2006-09-12 15:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you already have the answer too and you answered your own question. He is Wonderful! He makes you laugh! Great conversations! Girl go for it all the stuff works. Age does not matter. Never has and never will. The heart is always working just like it it suppose too.
2006-09-12 15:28:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you two enjoy the time you spend together and you have fun-GO FOR IT!!! You're both mature adults. If him having a daughter isn't an issue either, then I'm sure there aren't any other issues?! You have nothing to lose. Date him and see how it goes.
2006-09-12 15:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age shouldnt be and the 13 years is not to old for you. If you love someone then no age difference matters. Stop worrying what others will think etc. REMEMBER its your life and his life. Dont let otheres stal and ruin your happyness. Love and TRUE love is all that matters. I say go for it. I am 35 and I care for this 21 year old girl. It doent bother me at all and neither does it bother her. Is say GO FOR IT.
2006-09-12 15:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not too old for you at all. If you're happy go for it! and I wish you both and his daughter all the best!!!! I'm 35 and went out with a 46 year old. We were very happy together. It ended but it had nothing to do with the age gap.
2006-09-12 15:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋