This guy is very attractive and he did everything just right. It was incredible. Thing is he is a bad boy. He drinks too much, doesn't have a job, and doesn't seem to have any goals in life at all. BUT, he's very sexy and I'm extremely physically attracted to him. That day I had with him was awesome. Should I keep seeing him just as a friend with benefits, nothing more?
2006-09-12 15:09:56 · 19 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If that is the type of guy you are seeking and want to see yourself with 6 months down the line then go for it. I wouldn't especially if I had goals going for myself. i would just be honest and tell him exactly what it is that I am really after and if he didn't have that to offer me in return what i could offer him then I would tell him lets just be friends who no intercourse involved. When you include intercourse into a meanlingness relationship it can come with consequences later. He may not really like you but you may fall hard for him or vice versa. Either way you could end up with a loser who you will probably end up taking care of and him bumming off you all the time or he will end of with a dishonest woman. So be true to yourself and to him and do what you know is right........Tasja
2006-09-12 15:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by MsMilitaryLova 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there isn't such a thing as "friends with benefits" you're only lying to yourself......we girls make that mistake, we think we're just having a blast, no feelings involved, nothing.....only physical attraction......and when we realize we're deeply in love....I say find someone else, guys like these are always expecting women to do everything for them....at the beginning they're all nice, that's how they do things, and we always buy that......we should be smarter and think before, think about it, if a guy has no job, how will he get money to take you out, or things like that....if he asks his parents for money, they won't always be with him, right? so, what's he going to do then, steal?? guys with no goals at all, are just guys that want to have fun, nothing but, and if he drinks too much, he will also be an alcoholic?? Physical attraction isn't everything, there's got to be something else.....I really hope this helped you!! Good Luck
2006-09-12 22:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, the decision is up to you. Do what ever you feel right. But the thing is is that right now you are infatuated with him and he is very attractive. If you get involved with him eventually that initial attraction will fade and you will be irritated at the fact that hes a "loser" with no goals in life. Trust me, My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years is a "loser" with no job or life and I feel like I made a big mistake and wasted over a year on him. And now I don't even know how to get out of it. So be careful, think about what you will be feeling in the future rather than the "lust" you are experiencing at the moment
2006-09-12 22:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heya orange, seems like we're having the same things to face...
well actually, if u've already "good" side, dun forget to consider about the "bad" side that would appea anytime..
but as long as u know the risk that u would possibly gain, such as uncertainty, or the future u two has is blurred...and u r ready to face whatever things that could be happened..that would be OKAY!!
loving can encourage us even get us the box we "lived" in before..
having a relaionship, even with a "difficult man would help u to regocnize and know how much ur love is...
but in another hand, love and relationship are all about the compromise...be patient but never put urself as the "second" man in the relation.
and would be great if u can help hi to change him, u'll get happier, and he'd always remember you as "the most wonderful woman i had.."
p.s: it's workin for me!
gud luck!
2006-09-12 22:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by ribbon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say as long as your not looking for anything serious have some fun with him but you know that if he doesn't have a job he is probably not going to get one anytime soon & if he drinks alot he isn't done with the party life..Just go into it knowing he has no goals, no job & is a party animal. Don't expect to much from him because he probably wont change.......
2006-09-12 22:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him for a while. If you decide you need someone with goals and a job, just break up with him.
2006-09-12 22:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by Vballplayer2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends...what are you looking for?
are you looking for a relationship? If you are look and see if you think this will develop into anything more, since you are both different in mindset. if you are just looking for fun, then i say go ahead, but dont develop feelings for him...if you think you will start liking him more mentally than just attraction, and hes just not there with you, then move away...itll just end in heartbreak!
whatever you feel more comfortable with...go with your heart!!
2006-09-12 22:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, aint nothin wrong with that. As long as you make it known that yall are just gon be friends with benefits.
2006-09-12 22:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by sexykitty614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are thinking of long term with this guy, my advice is NO. If its just casual dating, why not? since you mention that he's like the best.
2006-09-12 22:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by JC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell all of us here on Yahoo........Were you born this stupid or did it evolve to your present state???? If you even had a brain........you would be dangerous!!! By all means.....Stay with him....you deserve him. After all, you had an "awesome" day and he is "very sexy".....what more do you need for a successful relationship????? DUH!!!
2006-09-12 22:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋