Not being racist, but why don't white people know how to discipline their children?

Question

because i have seen a lot of white parents, and when their child is being loud and rude all they say is "jimmy quiet down." or "thats not nice honey". or if the kid did something REALLY bad, all the parents do is just sit down and have a talk with them. then say "just dont do it again. if it were my parents (i am filipino) they would yell at me and kill me. why are white parents like this (not all of them)?

notice i said "not all of them"

Answer 1

hah hahaha... Not to be rude.. BUT STOP GENERALIZINNG!!!

my parents are white, and believe me, they disciplined the hell outta me! I know the power of an extension cord!

Answer 2

Parents of all races are ineffectual today because they spend way too much time trying to be the child's friend than they spend being an effective parent. Your parents yelling and threatening is also inappropriate, no matter if it worked or not.

Being clear about the rules and what is expected is hard for people who have no discipline in their own lives. People don't protect their children, they take them into inappropriate places and then expect their kids to act like adults and get mad when they don't. They are afraid to follow through with a threat, and they make wild open ended threats that no kid would ever believe.

Parenting is not for the weak of heart, and there isn't any one "right" way, it depends on your culture and your goals as a parent. A parent who's culture dictates that the children don't really need an education isn't going to have the same needs as a parent who's culture demands an education, for instance. These parents are going to parent completely differently.

However, your question was put in a way to inflame and you know it. You could have posed the question without ever bringing race into it, and you choose not to. So don't pretend you aren't racist when your words say something else.

Answer 3

I don't think that u are being racist. I work in a toy store. The amount of disrespect that i see coming from white children towards there nanny's, grandparents and parents is unbelievable. It all depends on how the parents were raised. Some may be scared of there children, or don't believe in causing a scene in public. Others believe that if u ignore it, then the child will get better. As for the comment made by ryan' s mom, I think that was totally inapporiate. What does inmates in jail have to do with disciplining your children. Most people that are in jail are in for murder. That comment was uncalled for.

Answer 4

Can I ask why you are stereotyping??? That is like saying oh they are black so therefore they must be ghetto or they are mexicans so therefore they steal. Dont get me wrong, I am not a racists, but you should really think before asking a question like this. You just assume that ALL WHITE people DON'T discipline their kids. Most PEOPLE these days don't discipline their kids with an iron fist because they are too afraid that someone will step in and call social services on them. If my children are doing something that they know they shouldnt be doing, I put them in the corner and if that doesnt work then I spank them. People are too afraid of what others will think so therefore they don't spank.

Answer 5

Not being racist, but there are parents of ALL races that do not discipline their children. just go to a Wal-Mart in Texas and you will see. I am a white parent, one of my children still sit in the buggy and the other walks right beside me. They do not run all over the store. "If" they say anything ugly to anyone, they get a few pops on their butt and are in trouble for a little while. They know that being ugly is one thing they WILL not get away with it as long as they live in my home and are with me. I may let it slide if they forget to pick up a mess at home, but I do expect to have polite respectful loving children. BTW their ages are 8 and 11.

Answer 6

I agree with this to a point (by the way, i'm white) But, over the last couple of years all the races have gotten a lot worse with parenting. The other day I saw an asian child yell **** you at his parents in public. They did nothing other than look embarassed. I was surprised by that. Although if he'd have been white, it wouldn't have been nearly as unusual. My parents would have whupped my *** for cursing at them. And now I'm a parent with a perfectly behaved child, go figure.

Answer 7

Its about priorities. If you want your children to be assertive, you can't beat them down or yell at them. If you want your children to communicate well, you won't beat them down or yell at them. Children can reason. They just need a little guidance. But the way, your not racist. Racism is about racial superiority. For example, White people made more discoveries then black people, because white people are just plain smarter then black people. That is racism. But to describe a family the way you just did isn't racist because you are comparing other families from other races to your own and using a description to make your generalization a bit more specific. By the way, not all white people are nice to thier children.

Answer 8

I agree that a lot of parents act as you say, but they are not all white. There are a lot of Mexican families here in southern california and their kids are all over place while they do nothing. Other ethnic groups too, it's not just the white people!

I have noticed that on the flip side, little Asian children (Japanese and Chinese in particular) seem to be so well behaved and quiet, I've often wondered how their parents do it.

Answer 9

Well I must say that you are right and wrong. There are a lot of white parents who are like that but not all. I am white and I raised mine with discipline. They are grown now and have respect for their country and leaders. I wish all parents would look and see the harm they are doing by allowing their children to rule the roost and do whatever they want. God help our world!

Answer 10

I am white and I do discipline my child.I am not afraid to in public. Allot of people I have seen do not cause they are afraid the cops will be called. I would rather see a parent discipline there kids then to let them act wild in public. They are some I would like to have a talk with. Cause you know they have no discipline at home. Do not get me wrong my son shows his bottom at time in public and he gets called on the carpet right there and then. I know if it was me when I was a kid I would have been busted in front of everyone.

Answer 11

I think we discipline our childern more harshly and publicly and so we view that as better or more discipline. When in fact, it could be viewed as abuse. Verbal abuse. I've seen childern of any and all races behave badly. Sometimes it's the reflection of the parents, but not always. It was a racist generalization. It's stereotypical as well. My mother is white and she disciplined us with a firm hand (we are biracial). It's more of an individual thing and not necessarily a race issue.