my gf has had a hard past and she crys about it alot and i have no clue how to make her feel better. i can only get her to laugh for like 3 seconds by telling her something stupid like i dressed up like a girl then she cryes more.
please give me some ideas how to make her happy
2006-09-12 15:04:46 · 14 answers · asked by blah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be there for her whenever she needs you. Hold on tight and don't let go until she's ready. She clearly needs to heal before she can move on and you just need to be patient.
2006-09-12 15:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Becky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a total sweetie. Here's my suggestion. First--just listen to her if she cries or wants to talk about it. Tell her things like, "That must have been so hard for you." or "I'm here now, baby." You know, stuff that helps her understand that you're listening and that you love her and all that.
Then, try to romance her if you can. Buy flowers, take her out for a picnic in the park, dance with her, stuff like that.
Ultimately, though, remember this: you are NOT responsible for her emotions. It's so sweet that you want to take care of her, but remember that she's the one in control of her own emotions. It's awesome that she's got you for support. A lot of guys would walk away from her. Just be there for her, and if she needs to cry, let her do it. Hugs to you, Sweetie!!
2006-09-12 22:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by pisceanwillow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs more help than you can give her. She needs to talk to a professional. If she can't or won't, there isn't much you can do that you haven't already done. If she does, she'll get better and you're relationship will get better. I hope it works out for you both.
2006-09-12 22:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make her happy. She needs counseling, the help of a professional, and then you can give her the encouragement and help she needs to make peace with her past.
2006-09-12 22:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to heal herself ther else nothing you can do. She probably needs to talk to a professional. Just be careful how you bring it up you don't want to offend someone who is so delicate. But it would be for her own good if she did.
2006-09-12 22:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and she loves you then help her through it and make her forget about her past. Let her know that your there for her and everything is going to be okay. Tell her thats its time for her to move on and forget about her past and focus on your realtionship. Good Luck!
2006-09-12 22:11:13 · answer #6 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you understand that she's in pain...hug her when she cries, give her your jacket, something like that to let her know. Hold her hand and say its okay...don't ask her to open up to you-yet. but eventually, she'll want to open up...letting it all out might make the tears stop...but till then just let her know you care. there's nothing you can do except love her.
2006-09-12 22:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by aerie anna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
like i know its prolly hard to see her cry, but i think when someone tried to get me to stop crying i cry more, just hold her and let her cry, letting your emotions out helps alot i think so yeah
2006-09-12 22:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make her happy until you take away what is making her cry, SO ask her why she is crying, tell her you want her to be happy. she may need to see a doctor for help.
2006-09-12 22:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she needs more help than you can give her. She should see a professional. Good luck!
2006-09-12 22:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋