I am dating the ex-boyfriend of a now ex-friend. She used to steal money out of my purse and sleep around on the guy. I had no plans on dating him he is just a really nice guy. His family is extremely professional and so is mine. Her family is ghetto and his family disapproved. We've been dating for about 4 months now and I'm falling in love with him. He treats me better than anyone I have ever dated. My family has accepted him and his has me and my son. Well, now everywhere we go if we run into the ex-friend they try to bust out our car windows and have succeeded a few times and she has also busted out my home windows. What do I do? Do I leave him? His touch is so gentle and he treats me with sincerity and compassion. I don't want to leave. Am I really wrong for dating him?
2006-09-12 15:03:02 · 28 answers · asked by LuvBug132 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have invovled the cops and they caught her leaving our home from busting his back windshield out; but she lied and told the cops that he had just came over her house and hit her and the police believed her so we couldn't file charges. Oddly enough he had been with my mom all day helping her with yard work.
2006-09-12 15:26:00 · update #1
I would also like to add that they had boken up 5 mon. prior to us hooking up and she was cheating on him then.
2006-09-12 15:33:11 · update #2
ofcourse you shouldn't leave him. Just because of her?? hell no! She let a good thing in her life slip away and now her jealousy acts up through bursts of anger (what else is an expression of emotion through means of busting car and home windows?!?!?) Stay with the love of your life and his "oh-so-gentle touch" lol that's cute. Get a restraining order for this ex-friend of yours and she'll stay out of your hair or atleast a restricted number of miles. Make your boyfriend get one as well and make her pay for the damage done.
On a different note, I would probably advise against calling someone ghetto. Some people can take that in an offensive manner and we dont want to hurt people's feelings uneccesarily especially if it is racially insensitive.
2006-09-12 15:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by Missy chandrasekar 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, you don't say if you started dating him before he split with the psycho? Not that it matters, but it would be nice to know, since it could shade the answer a little bit.
But, be that as it may, no matter how it went down, she has no right to harass or injure you in any way. If it continues to be a problem, if you have proof it is her and her friends doing the damage, file charges and get a restraining order. Then if she does it again, call the police. Do it each and every time it happens. Don't be initmidated into not seeing him if you are both satisfied with the current arrangement. She is a bully, thief and liar.
Why would you knuckle under to these tactics? If she sneezes in your direction, call the cops.
Best of luck
2006-09-12 22:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Call the cops on that girl. She's got issues.
Please note: Normally, I say don't date your friend's ex. However, this chick doesn't sound like a friend in the first place. Stealing money out of your purse?? She's a criminal.
Hop over to the courthouse and get a restraining order. If she comes near you again, call the police. She'll get locked up for the night and might think twice before bugging you again. Good luck to you, sounds like that's a really tough situation.
2006-09-12 22:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by pisceanwillow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think that you are wrong. She wasnt really your friend anyway if she was stealing from you. if this guy treats you right and you are falling in love with him dont leave!! its hard now days to find someone like that!
when she does these stupid things like breaking your windows etc..go to the cops..get a protection from abuse on her!.. she will learn when she has to sleep next to miss bubba for a few nights. i think that she is just immature and jealous of what you have, and if she was cheating on him then she must not have really appreciated how gentle and caring he was. stick with him hun and dont give up..she will stop when she finally realizes that you are a happy couple and that he doesnt want her and you dont want to be her friend!! GOOD LUCK!*!
2006-09-12 22:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Busting out windows is illegal. If this happens, you should call the police. The girl is obviously your "ex" friend for a very good reason! Don't be a doormat -- stand up for yourself!
2006-09-12 22:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong to date him. call the police on the pshcyo ex-friend. if someone is so sweet to you and if your falling in love then why give that up for some windows just turn her in to the police or ask her to stop.
2006-09-12 22:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, dating the boyfriend of an friend or ex-friend is wrong, just put yourself in her shoes. even though she did those things to you, you don't in turn go with her ex-boyfriend. its hard to find a good friend. so once you do find some one that you can call you friend, you need to make sure that if the friendship ever end then you and her both can handle the after effect. but since you are involved with him, go to your ex-friend and let her know how you feel. I understand that you didn't intend for this to happen but since it did, ask her for forgiveness.
2006-09-12 22:11:42 · answer #7 · answered by Rosa C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you did anything wrong. They already broke up. You "ex-friend" should be the one to get over the fact he is with you now and grow up. If she is a friend she SHOULD understand if she is not even a friend why care about what she thinks Someday she will just stopped harassing when she thinks she ain't getting what she wants!!
2006-09-12 22:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by twelve_dancing_princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO you did NOTHING wrong. You need to get a restraining order from her and so does he. You need to report each and every time she harrasses you to the police. Then you will have a basis for the restraining order.
Love him.. Let him love you and be happy. You have moved on obviously she has not
2006-09-12 22:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is call the police about the ex friend breaking your property....Second , dont be intimidated into leaving a relationship that you enjoy....third, givin time this will probably blow over.
2006-09-12 22:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by zeakster01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋