I'm nineteen, we've been together for two years. He proposed. We're not planning on getting married until I'm out of college (two years)...so I'll be 21/22.
I've always wanted to get married around that age. And I love him, so I said yes.
Is a two year long engagement weird?
2006-09-12 14:42:56 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the congrats guys :)
I definitely just want to wait until I'm out of school. I guess I just thought a 2 year engagement is weird because most people I know are only engaged for about 6 months to a year.
Just curious if it was normal.
2006-09-12 14:46:22 · update #1
Oh heck no!
There is no law or folkway in society that dictates how long an engagement should be.
2006-09-12 14:44:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think cause im 19 too and my b/f proposed after 1 year f us being together
as a matter of fact it was my graduation present lol
but i don't wanna get married until im 21 or older so we'll have a 3 year long engagement
i think u should put an engagment of for a year or more so u can plan and u can really think over if its going to be right and so u can see if it works out and that you truly belive u want to make that commitment
u don't wanna get married and then like a year later get divorced
i think yuns r makin the right decision waiting til ur out of college
2006-09-12 14:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by stangracer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your life. It doesn't matter what everyone else did. You have to do what is right for you. Not all of us, did it the right way.. that's why we some of are divorced. I say.. taking your time is the best way. In two years you will be in a different place then you are now. You will be on your way to a career, and more mature. You will have time to go to the bars if you wish, and will not feel like you are missing out on something you never got to try. I definitely think marriage is hard enough. In my opinion.. you are better of starting a marriage after you have established your education, and a career. You are adding to a marriage instead of making it an obstacle. Unfortunately love is not enough in a marriage. It takes maturity, constant work, and money. I say go with your heart.. but always be thinking with the brain. Good Luck. Invite us all-you will get lots of presents that way. Just teasing!!!!
2006-09-12 14:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by junebug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not. A lot of people have long engagements. It's smart to finish college first. You will still be very young to get married. But if you still love each other and know you want to get married when the 2 years is up, that will be a good test. Good luck.
2006-09-12 14:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My FIRST engagement was when I was about your age. I have a cousin who has been married for 25 years to her high school sweetie - they got married after college. It can and does work - it takes commitment. I finally got married at age 20 - over 20 years ago. I was definitely not ready at 19 but that was me, not you. Also, when I DID get married, he proposed after 3 weeks, and we were married a few months after that. At your age, a long engagement is a good thing. Congrats and good luck!
2006-09-12 14:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by hausfrau31557 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think there shouldn't be an anniversary of an engagement without being married or in other words, you should be ready to get married within a year of engagement or not be engaged. I also think that if there is no engagement ring at the time of the proposal, you're not engaged.
2006-09-12 14:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're rushing things. And the fact that you're asking total strangers isn't a good sign either. I think that you should wait and see where the relationship goes, if you don't get engaged. If you're still together in two years, have him ask you again.
IF he really loves you, he will be happy to give it a wait. He should understand that though you love him, there are things that you have to think about in your life first. If he understands and will wait for you, then he's the greatest. If he refuses to wait, you might have to rethink your relationship.
Hopefully he will wait for you and you'll get married in two years and have a wonderful life. Good luck.
2006-09-12 14:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Samwise Potter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be stupid. 50% of marriages fail, and people that get married before turning 25 it fails 75% of the time. If hes the one, then theres no hurt in waiting. WHats the rush? Dont make a dumb decision, youre only 19 and you barely know yourself. Both of you have a lot of growing up to do. And dont think that your relationship is special and you will last forever. All couples feel that way but they still get divorced. Dont become a statistic.
2006-09-12 14:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by juju 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have your priorities in order. Use this time not to plan the most perfect wedding but to build a foundation for marriage. Too many brides dream about how beautiful they'll look and all the frills and they don't get to know the groom. Two year engagement sound very mature.
2006-09-12 14:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! No, a two year long engagement is perfect for your situations. Congrats for realizing that you want to finish school first.
Good luck - it means you'll have two years to make your day perfect!
(I was married when I was 21. I don't regret it all)
2006-09-12 14:47:55 · answer #10 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God no take your time 2 years is fine! My parents were engaged for 5 years before they got married and now have been married almost 50 years!
2006-09-12 14:47:18 · answer #11 · answered by Concerned Mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋