i am a widower how will my wife feel if i remarry?

Question

love my wife so much and i believe that she will not be too happy to see me marry again i am feeling so lonely now

Answer 1

First, I am so sorry you lost your wife. I can only imagine how difficult that is for you, so I extend my condolences to you. Truthfully, I believe she would not have wanted you to be alone for the rest of your life, and would have wanted you to get out and perhaps meet someone special that you would eventually marry. I don't know where you are in the grief process so I won't presume anything here, but as someone who has experienced several critical losses in my own life, it is very important that you move on in your life (but only when you are emotionally able to handle it - don't rush it!), honor yourself and honor your wife by doing something she would've wanted - and what you need given the lonliness you feel now. Being alone isn't healthy for you emotionally, psychologically or physically.

Remember, she would want you to be happy and whole again. And you wouldn't be dishonoring her memory by dating or eventually marrying again.

With best wishes and support from a fellow traveler in life ~

Answer 2

If you believe that she will know or have an opinion: She will be honored that you had such a positive experience being married to her that you would want to re-create it again, and bring the same loving skills you had to create another wonderful union. I think she would be proud. What better way is there to honor her memory?

Reading Sophie's advice below is so important. Find someone you will be very compatible with. The criteria for a mate in the mature years is vastly different than those of the young and hormonally overendowed. Don't rush into anything.

Answer 3

Once a person passes over in death, they experience a whole new perspective on love and relationships, and grow in spirit in so many ways. To truly express love for someone is to let them go when the time comes. This doesn't mean that you forget them or stop loving them whether in this side of life or the next. Your wife wouldn't want you to spend the rest of your life in lonely misery. If you can make someone else feel loved and happy in your remaining time on earth, I am sure she would want you to do so.

Taliesin

Answer 4

I married a widower. I see no reason whatsover why somebody shouldn't marry after the loss of life of an improved half--not right this moment, quite, provide a year or so a minimum of--yet I unquestionably have not at all understood why a infant or all people else might deny their discern happiness and companionship of their older years. i became fortunate sufficient (on the two factors of the kin--his and mine--) to have loving help and encouragement. Even his former in-regulations welcomed me--and nevertheless do--to the kin, and we are nevertheless the two invited to their gatherings. i understand that it is not the case. I additionally understand that there are unscrupulous people who seek for out widows and widowers to marry for the incorrect motives. yet by ability of and huge, i think of the determination to remarry ought to be with the guy doing the marrying, not with others who pick to interfere for his or her very own motives or pastimes, or suspicions. i think of there ought to be kin help, rather of interference.

Answer 5

how long have you been a widower?? you can still love your wife that will never go away and no one will ever fill that spot but you do need to be happy you will see her again but now go live you are still here on earth . best of luck but be careful there are some crazy people out there....

Answer 6

She will want you to be happy and live the rest of your life the best you can.
My gran always said "dont waste money and buy flowers for my grave. Use it for living and on the living." Its a good motto and a good metaphor.
You're still here and have the gift of life and you MUST make the most of it. If you belief in the afterlife, then you must believe it is a loving, forgiving place and your late wife will give you her blessings.

Answer 7

Your wife loved/loves you. No woman who truly loves a man would wish for him to be sad and alone forever if she was taken from him. Don't live the rest of your life lonely. As much as she would have wanted to be with you I can't imagine that she would want you to be lonely. You aren't trying to replace her. You will never fall out of love with her and you would be doing nothing to betray your love for her if you got married again.

Answer 8

it sounds strange for you to refer to her as "your wife" even though she was your wife. Start calling her by her first name when you refer to her. And, in my humble opinion, I believe you should wait until a year after her demise, then take it slowly and begin dating. If you don't feel comfortable dating then just join clubs, groups and have fun until you're ready. But, if you have money, a house, nice things you will be grabbed up quickly which may not turn out to be such a good thing. Take it slow.
________ (fill in your former wife's name here) won't mind. But the new woman in your life would not want to hear about her or use her things so expect your new girl to want new things. And please hide the old pictures, and "never" compare the two.

Answer 9

I'm sure u are a good man..
your wife was so lucky to have u. but perhaps it's all about our belief that built our own self. love is about feeling & action.. u are loyal..
there's nothing wrong to be a widower.. being alone.. or to be remary again.. it's your choices.. curious bout how your wife will feel if u remary?.. of course she'll be so hurt if she's still alive.. but she's gone isn't it?... just ask yourself.. & your voice within will tell u..

Answer 10

If she loved you as much as you apparantly loved her...she would want you to be happy..... wouldn't you want the same for her if it was the other way around.

Besides if you think she was a good woman and is heaven waiting for you.... she is amongst the most forgiving population ever. I think it will be fine.... Go find someone to love and hope her love is half as much as your departed wife. But never compare them.... they are two different people.