an 11:30 curfew on her. is 11:30 too early as she says?
2006-09-12 14:09:53 · 31 answers · asked by Hank 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
no it's not to early, when I was 16 I had to be in at midnight. I also got into my fair share of trouble
2006-09-12 14:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal B 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You need to move your question mark or rephrase the question since some people are thinking you slapped your DAUGHTER and are not reading correctly that you SLAPPED AN 11:30 CURFEW ON HER.
That being pointed out - absolutely NOT! 11:30 on a school night is NOT too early; in fact, I agree with the 10 pm curfew at the latest! My daughters had to be in by 9 on a school night...
2006-09-12 14:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by dragonwing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a school night , that is way too late isn't there a city curfew for under age kids without parental guidance of 9 PM where U live? N she 16 come on ... wait till she is at least 18 or outta the house for that. Talk 2her it's 4 her own protection don't b that parent that is 2 afraid of being uncool that U let her do 2 much 4 her 2 handle don't b her friend b her parent just relax breath and talk calmly she probably won't want 2 understand but hang in there.
2006-09-12 14:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by Nitemuse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11:30 on a school night?!!!!
My 19 year old had a 10:00 pm curfew and when she was late, that was the amount of time she had to be back earlier the next time she went out.
No slapping though. It will just make her rebell.
tell her if she wants to be treated like an adult, she needs to act like one and be responsible and be home on time.
2006-09-12 14:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by schmoopie 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
definately not too early, my curfew was 9:30 on a school night when i was 16. on the weekends, it was 11-11:30. And remember, it doesn't matter what she says, you are the adult and you know what's best. stick to your guns and make her stick to your curfew whether she likes it or not.
2006-09-12 14:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by wunluv06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was only allowed to go out on nonschool nights (and then i had to be in at 11:00) from the time i was 16 until after i graduated. My parents were pretty strict but i still found a way to get into trouble. I don't think it matters how you handle it there's always going to be conflict with a teenager. Maybe you can try to set up a trial run of letting of her set a time ( a resonable one for your area) and the consequences breaking them. Agree if her grades slip or if she can't stick to her own rules then you will be the one to set the time until she can prove responsible enough to have more freedom in choosing. She'll want so bad to prove you wrong that she'll more than likely stick to her schedule. Either way at least you'll still have the communication open that will help you with your daughter.
2006-09-12 15:10:16 · answer #6 · answered by K C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it is a school night she is lucky because on school nights I had to be in at 10:00 and weekends 12:00. She needs to be grateful for you and grow up and maybe you need to go to counseling how to deal with anger. I understand you didn't beat her to death but what more would you actually do.Maybe go see a counselor together so you can better understand each other!
My Dad Use To Tell ME When I Was A Teenager That Teenagers Was The reason That Some Animals Eat Their Own Young!Now that I think about it I laugh my butt off!Good Luck!
2006-09-12 14:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I would have slapped more than a curfew on her I know it's hard to do but you can't be her friend and expect her to fully respect your authority on a school night 9 maybe 9:30pm on the weekend 11 maybe but really it depends on where she is going and who with. What was her curfew before? whenever?
2006-09-12 14:20:40 · answer #8 · answered by klovecalistyle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi pending on how responsible she is , I would say no later then midnight, if she is showing the responsibility of getting up and getting to school, on time, then it would not be affecting her daily schedule or how is her grades and performance at school, shame on you for slapping, I do not believe in hitting children, this only teaches them violent, and there are so many different technique to discipline a child positively, at age 16 I would suggest, starting providing her with choices and and explain to her what may happen when she make a negative choice, maybe a written contact between her and you on a list of agreements with a set of rules and terms if you or her break the agreement. I hope this helps, and good luck, hug your children and tell them you love them unconditionally
2006-09-12 14:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by soulstore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11:30 is way too late for a school night unless she's at a school activity. When did she do homework? Really you shouldn't admit that you slapped her. In some states, that's enough to get you arrested for child abuse.
She needs to be grounded.
2006-09-12 14:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by hawkthree 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
11:30 is early but reasonable. You should give her the option of calling when she's going to be late so you can decide on the new time she will be home. Help to teach some responsibility.
Sometimes hitting might be necessary but remember that it damages both of you when you use that tool. Just like your daughter, you need to be aware of the possible consequences of your actions and be sure you are willing to pay them.
When people respect the rules they are much more likely to abide by them.
On re-read I get that the slapped is the time K, fine.
2006-09-12 14:19:00 · answer #11 · answered by icetender 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋