Ok, I'm a muscular girl and I'm pretty smart (a+ average). My friends and peers say i'm pretty but no-one asks me out. most girls say its because my short hair (its an assymetrical bob cut, light brown w/ highlights), bright green eyes, my height (I'm 5'10")and my mature attitude intimidate them. what can i do to make them feel better if it's true? is it true?
2006-09-12 13:59:47 · 17 answers · asked by horsecrazyinky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is nothing wrong with being in shape! there is nothing wrong with being smart, either. probably nothing wrong with your hair too (but since there's no 'real'picture, i can only guess that it's short-ish and cute...not like a "butch lesbian" cut or something haha! no offense!--you choose to be an individual. and you also seem pretty chill as a person. :)
i think green eyes are awesome! everybody and their-mom-on-a-hard-roll has either brown or blue eyes...so green is refreshingly nice. :)
as far as how tall you are...i'm only 5'4"...so sometimes i can feel a little intimidated by anything bigger or taller than i am haha...but most guys are like that tall anyway, right?
most guys are also not that mature--if they are, then lots sure don't act it!--(a friendly challenge, gentlemen?). it's nice to see a girl who has heart...i have also met and dealt with girls who also don't act mature either (to balance out the playing frield here), so you get kudos in my book.
i'd say, as hard as patience can seem, try and be so. the right dude will come along soon enough. (just make sure you aren't kickin the shyt out of a deserving snot-nose guy when you see him lol j/k! but if you are, finish him off, and smile to the nice man! then walk over casually and say hi!)
;)
2006-09-12 14:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by j-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet one,
I don't know if your intimidating or not, but you know what. It doesn't matter. Your a stellar performer. An A+ student and muscular. Keep doing what your doing and use these talents to do what you really, really, really, really want to do in you're life. Trust me, my friend, as you focus on what you desire to do in life and to be and keep that humble loving attitude, then the right relationship will occur in perfect timing. Don't force anything and especially listen to your inner voice early in the morning for guidance.
God bless you
2006-09-12 14:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by watersprings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...unfortunately, people are having difficulties hanging out people that they think are smarter than they are...juxaposing how in competent they are...they are like "herd" mentality or group thinkers...constantly looking for people that they can inject their point of views into...obviously, I think you are right about looking for some more different kinds of friends, friends that will appreciate and admire your presence...instead of trying to talk you down to do something you don't like.
From my opinion, try to give them a lot of complements...encouraging things to let them recognize that they are at the level group with you(if you really want to)...Praising them for things that they say...Saying things reflecting the way they say it in a humorous way...
Try reading those...
ABC's of Relationship Selling - With CD
Edition: 9TH 07 • Futrell, Charles M.
Consumer Behavior and Marketing Strategy
Edition: 7TH 05 • Peter, J. Paul / Olson, Jerry
I know that you are a good salesman waiting to try your skills...
2006-09-12 15:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by Pete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kinda guys you want to attract. If you want cocky guys, act stuck up. If you want nice guys, lose the attitude. If you want an average guy, just keep waiting, cuz average doesn't exist. Don't change the way you act, just try harder to find a guy who's right for you.
2006-09-12 14:08:24 · answer #4 · answered by Smirx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you described yourself,,,,yes you probably do intimidate guys. Al tho you sound like a really nice gal.
2006-09-12 14:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea if you're intimidating seeing as how I've never met you. It probably depends on your age and the way you act around people, how you dress, and who you hang around.
2006-09-12 14:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your trying to hard to find someone. you don't say how old you are, if your young theres no hurry if your older then you still need to be patient. to me you sound hot, but then i like tall, fit pretty women with green eyes and a mature attitude. what more could i guy want
2006-09-12 14:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Scott G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating guys that are older than you.
Probably you scare off the kids, but that's coz they're young and easily scared.
2006-09-12 14:03:12 · answer #8 · answered by Cormac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have some tomboy in you you should try acting more girly change your hairstile grow your hair out and if you exercise dont just loose wieght most guys dony like girls with muscles just act mroe girly you should be able to get alot of boys then
2006-09-12 14:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by demetri c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date losers.
Find a good man.
2006-09-12 14:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋