I have had a boy friend for a year. In the beginning I was told that some other chick held his heart strings. The more I learned, I found that this chick was with another guy and was having sex with both of them. Anyhow, here is the thing, for our ENTIRE relationship, she has tried to butt herself back in the picture. She has made it known that she wants him back, even though she is still with the other man, (wants her cake and to eat it too.) She calls him, or he waits to call her when I am not around. I tried to tell him how bad it hurts me that she is still around, and no matter what I say, he INSISTS they are still friends and he doesn't want to lose her. Anyhow, he went to where a huge group of his friends were camping, and she was there. I knew she would be but I tried to trust him. He gave me no details at all of that night. His friend PMed me today to tell me how she tried to pull him off in the woods with her, alone, and he didn't tell me about it, but he insists he didnt go.
2006-09-12 13:52:27 · 19 answers · asked by Cutelilminxy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What has me so upset is I was not told about her plans to do whatever she had in the woods with MY bf. He just kept to himself and said nothing. I am also upset that she has in the past broke us up, because I couldn't take the fact that she was always trying to talk to my boyfriend. He wouldnt answer if I was around. So, we tried to make it work again, and here we are, same problem as before. Do I have a right to be mad? What should I do?
2006-09-12 13:55:08 · update #1
About the trust, I TRIED to give the trust with him wishing to go to the woods with all his friends, knowing she would be there. THIS is what I get.
2006-09-12 13:56:04 · update #2
you have every right to be mad, i would be.... he should of told you, and if he knew she was coming he should of invited you... i agree,he shouldn't talk to her, expecially when hes not around you, honey, do you believe his friend, when he said your bf would not go? if he don't want to lose her, he will do anything in his power not to, and if this has happened before then you should leave him, cause if he truely wants you, then he'll try to make it work. I know that you should have trust in your man, but sometimes there's reason not to trust them, and you have the reason, the only reason i would let my man talk to a ex like your man does, is if they already had a kid together, but then i would want to make sure she wasn't just coming around because of them, honey, no one can tell you what to do, but follow your heart, it's gonna hurt, but it will get better, best of luck
2006-09-12 15:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by miss.d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be your boyfriend's responsibility to distance himself from this girl. I don't believe it's always wrong for a person to remain friendly with an ex when they are in a new relationship, but in this case it's obvious that this girl is, well, a hoe, and your boyfriend doesn't seem to mind. He is still emotionally entangled with her, if not actually sleeping with her. You should tell him to break all ties with her or you're leaving- then follow through. You deserve a healthier and more respectful relationship.
2006-09-12 14:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have a right to be mad, but relationships are not easy they do require a lot and a hell lot of effort to make them work.
I would say put a little more effort in it but be sure that you know where to put your foot down and not to loose your self-respect. You have to tell him that you cant live like this if there has to be something between you guys then he needs to stop or you will have to let him go. But before all this make sure you are ready to forgive him if he stops.
2006-09-12 14:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you DO have EVERY reason to be mad. This is no way for a guy to behave if he's in a relationship. He should give you your much deserved place. It seems as if he still wants to see if something happens with her. He can't help if she's obsessed with him, but he shouldn't lead her on by still calling her too. The part of not wanting to lose her is awful. Sorry but that is not good. I have a friend who was in a relationship with one guy, but still said that she didn't want to lose her exboyfriend...later on i confirmed my suspicions, she was still in love with the ex!
2006-09-12 13:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with a guy who says "some other chick held his heart strings" . Dont you deserve better? Let him go and quickly! If he wants that kind of drama in his life let him have it on his own!
2006-09-12 13:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by Maa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate answering a question with a question but in your case there is nothing else to be said:
What do you expect from this sorry of an excuse for a man?
He cares nothing for your feelings, is cheating on you and does not care if you know it or not.
How many knockbacks do you need to write hime off?
2006-09-12 13:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by flugelberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on, babe...he has no consideration for your feelings, worries more about the other girl's than yours. Say ta ta and be off. And don't look back. If she wants him let her have him..this is no prize. And guess what, as soon as she has him, she won't want him...he will come running back..and if you take him back, you have no self respect. Good luck
2006-09-12 13:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of reasons to be mad,hurt and to not trust him or her. Dump him now before you get hurt even more. Go on with your life you don't need game players in your life.
2006-09-12 14:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a fake and phony thank god you only put one year into this ...if your man knows that something hes doing is making you uncomfortable then he should want to stop doing it....she had her chance and if he knows what she wants and he is still insisting they are friends than there is a problem he want his cake and eat it too also ....it will hurt but let him go b4 you end up with an STD ***** around with him
2006-09-12 13:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you with this guy? he could get rid of this other girl if he wanted to. he likes the attention of having 2 girls fighting over him. dump the guy and dont talk to the other girl. life is too short for this drama. find a guy who doesnt have these issues.
2006-09-12 13:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by richard457 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋