i "ditch" my friends to go hang out with the girl i like
i would ask her to come hang out with my friends but the problem is that she doesnt like any of my friends
what should i do
options
-keep ditching my friends to hang out with her
-tell her that she either hangs out with me and my frineds or we cant hang out at all
plz advise me on witch to choose
2006-09-12 13:50:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she has said flat out that she doesnt like my friends so really i cant get her to hang out with them even if her friends are there too
2006-09-12 14:13:59 · update #1
ya i think the best option is to make time for my friends as well as time for mi girlfriend thanx to all that suggested it i wish i could give u all ten points
2006-09-12 14:15:35 · update #2
i have a school dance coming up wat would be the best way to ask her even if shes my girlfriend she likes me to ask her and not count on the fact that shes definatly going with me and u think i should get her sumthing aswell
2006-09-12 14:18:22 · update #3
This is a very common problem. It's nice that the two of you spend time alone, but she probably needs to learn to compromise and try to get along with your friends too, at least sometimes. Don't ditch your friends too much though. Girlfriends come and go, but friends are few and far between...
2006-09-12 13:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, don't ditch you friends......Make an schedule, organize your time, decide when you can be with your girlfriend and when you can be with your friends, you can keep both sides happy....But it's not fair for you to ditch your friends, probably they have been with you all the time, and it doesn't look nice that now that you don't need them you ditch them.....Just make time for them as well! Good Luck
2006-09-12 21:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by hey_amt95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither.
Make time for your friends and for her. If your friends are true friends, then they will understand that you need time with your girlfriend. And if the girl you like really likes you back and really wants to be with you, then she will also understand that you need "guy" time.
Maybe she doesn't like your friends, but maybe she just doesn't like the idea of being the only girl thrown into a bunch of guys. If you two get together and its working out for you, then incorporate your friends slowly - I would say one at a time or with one who has a girlfriend as well. Give her time to adjust to your friends - you probably will need time to adjust to her friends too you know.
Good luck!
2006-09-12 20:57:41 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about hanging out with your friends part of the time, hanging out with the girl part of the time, and see how things develop?
2006-09-12 20:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iim a girl and i would rather have the guy tell me to choose eather to hang with him and his friends or not hang at all cause friends are forver and girl friends are like a month or so
2006-09-12 20:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by kill_me_not_realli_2009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need more options than that.n on the other hand she do have to make a sacrafice in the relationship.so tell her u can't keep ditchin ur friends for her
2006-09-12 20:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a nice girl, she would try to get along with your buds for YOUR sake. If she makes no effort, I'd be a little suspicious of her!
2006-09-12 20:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really sucks to have to chose between these two options... how about you ask her if she would like to hang out once in awhile with you and your friends, if she really does not want to, then she needs to let you hang out with them by yourself once in awhile. she should recognize that you've atleast invited her; it's not your fault that she doesn't like your friends... good luck.
2006-09-12 20:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is really important to you ditch ur friends to hang with her. i mean if you guys are really into each other then you should make that sacrifice with your friends. if ur friends don't understand then they're not friends at all....
2006-09-12 20:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
schedule some time for your friends and keep it, dont ditch them for her, and schedule some time for her and stick to it. then make time for all of them, if she cant deal with your friends find someone who will.
2006-09-12 20:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Craig M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋