Assume a couple has had a few dates (where the guy paid) and the guy says that in the future, they should split the bill. The majority of women would say, the guy is being cheap. However, if it's bad for the guy to want to pay half, isn't it worse to want to pay nothing (or very little)? When both people pay, that seems entirely fair, since no one is taking advantage of anyone. If a woman wants to be paid for most or all of the time, it's reasonable to think she's taking advantage of him. So why is the guy a jerk in the first case, while the woman is not on the second case?
2006-09-12 13:46:26 · 6 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea it is
cuz society is corrupted
2006-09-12 13:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Guy is not a jerk in the first place and girl is not a jerk in the second place. It depends on the situation. Its customary for the guy to pay during "Courtship". If the guy is done courting and they are already a couple then why would he pay for everything. If the courtship is still ongoing and they are not a couple, then by all means the guy should continue to pay as per custom.
Guys if this seems unfair, stop and think about how much girls pay to look hot on dates that you take them out on and id be surprised if you come out ahead after the end of the night. A style and cut can easily run a girl a hundred bucks and we didn't even start to talk about nails makeup and clothes. Remember her shoes alone probably cost more than your whole outfit
2006-09-12 20:55:26 · answer #2 · answered by david k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a couple. IMO, it's in extremely bad taste for a guy to suggest such a thing. I hate to sound sexist, but I spend a lot of money on nice clothes and make-up, and on looking nice for my guy; what I'm looking for in a man is ultimately a good husband and provider; if he's THAT worried about splitting the bill in the beginning of the relationship, and is tacky enough to bring it up, what kind of husband and provider does it make him? All I can say to that - NEXT!
2006-09-12 20:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its all in how you approach the subject of splitting the bill. Not to mention that any woman with any amoutn of class will offer to pay her half or all of the bill. If a guy expects her to pay then that certainly makes him a jerk for not discussing it before the date.
2006-09-12 20:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is cheap to not always want to pay the bill, you must use the date services matrix which states that the man should pay the tab if he is getting some, if he picked the restaurant, or if he previously states that it was his treat
2006-09-12 20:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by MT 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is just a matter of both people agreeing on who pays or if they pay for themselves. All you need is a mutual agreement. In most cases the man does pay just old fashion courtesy.
2006-09-12 20:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by Linda R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋