I think he's sleeping with alot of other women, and I think my mom has no idea.... should I tell her? Should I talk to him? He can be violent.... what should I do?
2006-09-12 13:40:28 · 43 answers · asked by cruachanmusic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
nope is it really worth breaking up your folks ?
sides im not married but i sleep with tons of women.
2006-09-12 13:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
You can't just think, you really have to know he's sleeping around before you tell your mom something that drastic.
Violent as in verbally abusive or as in throw you against a wall abusive. Again we have no idea about how old you are, if you still live at home etc. If you still live at home and you know for sure that he is with other women talk to an adult ( mom's mom or dad, brother or sister that you are close to and maybe they can figure out what is best to do)
2006-09-12 13:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would warn mom and the other women if you know who they are...
He sounds like a total loser.
No one should be subjected to a man like that. Between you and me..I think mom suspects but is so intimidated by him she just lives with it. Rather be miserable then alone.... Unfortunately thats the way my mother was with my verbally abusive alcoholic dad.
Put a picture of dad on the bill board.... it should say..."If you see this man run for the hills..he's married, he's mean and he's a Cheat" Pass it along!
2006-09-12 13:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by john s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've noticed, then there's a good chance your mother has as well. She's probably in denial, or ignoring it for reasons of her own. If he's sleeping with lots of women, there are bound to be signs and he probably wants to be caught. Just let your mother know that you will always be on her side, so that she knows it's okay to break up the family unit if she wants to. Not everything is black and white - there may be a lot of reasons why your mother doesnt want to break up her marriage... just try to let your mum know you support her and hopefully she'll make the right choice.
2006-09-12 13:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom probably already knows--but I think you should Tell Her..Thats your MOM, and if you dont protect her and help her in life--who will? Your mom is at risk for HIV & AIDS, and all other STD's. She should know this...Tell her that you want to have a long talk--and tell her..Also, you need to Forgive your Father. He is still your father, and remember that he is a Human Being who is making mistakes..But if you are a male yourself--you need to remember all the pain your Mom is going through--and you should Never cause any woman to feel that pain. Dont cheat on your wife--and dont hurt your children by having affairs. If you dont want to be married--then dont get married. If you dont love your wife anymore--then get a divorce and move on. But dont lie, cheat and decieve your Family and cause pain.
Peace
2006-09-12 13:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm... take him out for the day - somewhere public and talk to him... (that way if he was to get violent there are other people around)... tell him how it makes you feel... tell him that its wrong and if he doesnt tell your mum you will..
She has a right to know - but it would be better coming from the source, not hearing second hand - so try to encourage him to do the right thing......
2006-09-12 13:46:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say deep down inside, Mom already knows it, but just doesn't acknowledge it. Sometimes that's how people deal with the pain that comes with adultery in a marriage. She needs to know if she truly isn't aware, because she could end up with AIDS, and many other STD's... I would probably begin by talking to Dad. Let him know how you feel about it, and mention to him what I stated above about how it's unfair not only to Mom (he's putting her at risk) but to you also. He might get mad at first, but your words will linger in his head, and eventually he will have to face the truth.
God Bless......
2006-09-12 13:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by granny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know for sure that he is, then by you not telling anyone, you're just being an enabler. you're allowing him to get away with it. of course, tell your mom. tell your dad too. if he's violent, call the cops. you can even call the cops before hand, let them know of your situation just in case something goes terribly wrong. but just don't sit around and keep such a thing to yourself...cuz it's gonna wear you down, and your dad is gonna keep doing what he's doing.
2006-09-12 13:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should that is ur father cheatin on ur mother and cheating her and u out of a happy life and family and she needs to know and she needs to put him out if she must have the cops there then so be it..no one deserves that not even u and ur mom no matter what u think u r gonna start by tellin her ..u r doin what is best for u n her to have a good happy life so do it..and u help ur mom thru this..good luck hun
2006-09-12 13:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a marrige couselor is in order.
Or you may have just misunderstood your dad saying things...
There was this one tv show where these people thought that their dad was cheating on their mom but he was just talking to a lady about getting a new job. so I'd double check before you do anything.
2006-09-12 13:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Nathan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always tell her. Even if you just suspect it. Then the parents can hash it out. It shouldn't be your problem. The parents have to be honest with each other in order to give you the stable happy home you deserve. If they loove each other, some of that gets passed to you. Everybody benefits.
2006-09-12 13:44:01 · answer #11 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋