Well yesterday was my ex-boyfriend's birthday and we didn't talk, we just argued and we fight a lot. And it seems like sicne we brok up las week he's having the time of his life. How can I just walk away from a 2 year relationship jus like that? I gave up all my friends for him so basically we were each others best friends and we hang out everyday, and the next day how can I just deal with not having him there and just going my own path doing my own thing. it's so scary just facing everything alone because I became so attach and depended that he'll always be there for me. basically i am trying to ask is how can one day we be so loving and sh*t and at the end of the night we argue and break up and when the next day rolls around, how can I just get up and move on and live my own life now. i feel so depress and I can't even focus in school or work anymore. everything i do reminds me of him and I can't seems to shake him off. i love him and i wish we can be back together but he said no =(
2006-09-12 13:24:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
never give your life to a guy ... find the friends you had and see if maybe you can gain their forgiveness for dumping them for a guy ... be your own person in a relationship and have your own friends ... walking away from 2 years is hard but you can do it ... you'll make it through you'll see and next time you'll be more the wiser!!
2006-09-12 13:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW - I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. Believe me when I tell you it will take time. Time does help you to heal.
I was in a long term relationship that recently ended (nearly 18 years of marriage and nearly 22 of being together). My husband decided that he no longer wanted the family that we had. He wanted to have "fun" with the 2nd have of his life. We had a great relationship, didn't fight, had alot in common & love each other very much.
When he left I thought I would die. I had hoped that he would come back in a week or 2 and we would work things ok. Well, it's been nearly 5 months and that hasn't happened and isn't going to happen. He got a transfer from his job & has a girlfriend now that is going to move with him. Talk about a whole lot more shock.
He tells me regularly that he still loves me and misses me very much. I love him very much too but right not it isn't meant to be between us. I will not say that we will never be together again but at this point in time I doubt that will ever happen.
I too was like you in that I had become somewhat dependent on him and thought he would always be there for me. In the last 5 months I have had to work very hard to pull myself up from a very low low point. I won't lie & tell you it's been easy because it hasn't. It has been a LOT of work. You just have to take it 1 day at a time. Keep yourself busy with things that you enjoy doing. That does help.
It was even harder because I have 3 boys at home that I had to worry about so I had to be strong for them while I was dying inside.
It does get better and easier with time. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship. Don't try to "move on" to quick because you will end up hurt again. Take the time to find yourself again.
Good luck!
Patty
2006-09-12 14:13:46 · answer #2 · answered by PattyW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship to me is a lesson. Whatever the reason it didnt work out between me and my gf, I would just think of it as a lesson. When I do it reprioritize what I want in a relationship and what's important to me in my life. I guess what you can learn from your relationship is think twice before giving up so much for one person. Everyone makes that mistake so now you know what to do when it comes to your next relationship. No one ever gives up the hope that maybe someday you guys will be back together, but for now its not the time. So just move on, forget about the future and the past and just prioritize what you have to do in the present. Focus on school and work. Sorry to hear it didnt work out!
2006-09-12 13:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice i was given from my brother is never fall into love you must walk into love which means be careful not so carefree. I was in a relationship for 7 years and I gave it up not looking back your best bet is to make up with your friends have a F@!%&k him party and start to enjoy yourself and your life without him because if you keep wanting him back and he will not come back. Focus on you and be selfish most men come running back when they see you moved on.
2006-09-12 13:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by shunte50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way of walking away from a long term relationship. The best thing to do is to find some thing to do to stay busy. You don't want to do some thing that you both use to do you want to find some thing that you enjoy doing alone or with some one else. But trust me you want to stay busy. Time is the only true way if you really love him. Staying busy is only a distraction. Best of luck and god bless you.
2006-09-12 13:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex boyfriend was the same way, while I was crying he was partying and having the time of his life while i was crying in a room by myself and feeling so hurt.. I finally just had nothing to do with him at all it took me a long time to get over him but when i did i wouldnt go back to him for anything,
TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS
2006-09-12 13:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by *Due 8/28/09* Baby Boy!#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im really sorry to hear about that, and Im also really sorry to tell you that all you can do is try to keep busy and time is the only thing that will make it better. I know this doesnt really help but it seriously will eventually get better.
2006-09-12 13:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by CommonRider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it some time and keep as busy as you can. Get rid of any gifts that he has given you that would bring back memories and when you get depressed go shopping.
2006-09-12 13:30:30 · answer #8 · answered by sandras77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well boo let me tell you something first off me and my boyfriend broke up last week also and we been together for four it would have been five in december but anyway girl he is also having a good time at first i used to cry and stuff when we broke up temporary now al i do is ENJOY MYSELF and acting the same way that ************ is as if nothing is the matter. please email me sometime at piezone1@yahoo.com
2006-09-12 13:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by chunkydivapie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you get a new boyfriend. That always solves everything. I am sure you will fall in love with your new guy.
2006-09-12 13:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋