How to make a long distance relationship work?

Question

I am currently talking to a guy who lives about 2 hours away from me so as a result we don't get to see each other very much..we dated 3 years ago for four months..but my love for him has grown deeply over the years..I just want him to know that long distance relationships are possible.If anyone has any suggestions on how to make this relationship work..please let me know..Thank u very much.

Answer 1

You know.. Long distance relationships can be a blessing but they usually don't work.
I can list 3 reasons why long distance relationships can actually be better than normal relationships:

1. It takes a lot of commitment from both parties to make it work. But, it’s because of that commitment is what makes the relationship so good. E.g. driving those extra miles to see each other, knowing they are worth it. Actions speaks louder than words and this can act like a constant reinforcement on why you are here.

2. Distance is good because people don't fall in love when they are together, but when they are apart. Give each other the gift of missing one and another.

3. Lovers tend to lose their identities when they are together all the time. They are always around each other and no longer have time to take care of their own business. Relationship will suffocate, no longer growing in a positive way. Instead they should be focusing on achieving their dream. I think it’s important for couples to learn how to give each other space to grow when apart and also grow closer when together. The distance factor naturally setup the relationship for this.

We are constantly changing. I think it is wonderful to find someone you can grow through all the stages of life. Instead, I see most people hop from one person to the next.

Listen to your gut though, if you feel like it isn't working or going anywhere, you might want to cut him loose.

I'm currently involved in a relationship and we are also 2 hrs away. I believe it can work because my feelings for her is so strong. I don't mind driving from Los Angeles to San Diego every 2 weeks to see her.


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Answer 2

Two hours? Is that all? Before we were married my wife and I lived 850 miles apart. As in any relationship, what you put into it is what you will get out. My wife and I invited God into our relationship. We prayed together, talked on the phone every single day, held devotional studies and made arrangements to see each other at least one weekend a month. Today we are married and couldn't be happier. If you haven't already I would advise that you purchase a web cam. That way you can see each other everyday. If my wife and I can make it while living 12 to 13 hours apart, I know for a fact that you guys can make it. I will be praying for you guys! It most certainly can work. Peace and God bless.

Answer 3

2 hours is not bad at all.
it is veryy possible for you guys to see each other very often.
to make it work, you will probly need to see each other at least
once a month, more if possible. and of course talk to each other every day and keep each other updated on your lives, since you do not see each other everyday.

i am currently in a LDR and have been for 9 months.
we live 1000 miles away...
and only get to see each other over breaks and summer.
but we are going strong!
we talk every day for at least 2 hours.
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS CAN WORK!!!
they are very hard and
both people need to give 100% to the relationship,
but if theres a lot of love and trust, it CAN DEFINITELY work!
GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING.
i really hope all goes well for you.

Answer 4

i met my fiance online. We started dating long distance in january 2005 when i lived in ohio and he lives in arkansas. Well in may 2005 he took a bus up to ohio to get me and bring me back to arkansas and we have been together 1yr and 9 months. So when people tell you it can not be done they are wrong it can. You just have to trust either and talk to each other everyday on the phone or every other day. If you have any questions feel free to email me at [e-mail] or u can im me my sn is seansfiance20.

Answer 5

2hrs is just about perfect.
Its just far enough away that you can see each other on the weekends, but not be all up in each others mix.
He won't pop over to your place, and say SURPRISE.
Let the relationship breathe a little, see how it goes, and if it looks like things will develop, you can talk about that later, but dont put any more pressure than you need to, on the situation right now.

Answer 6

it will work my sister who is 31 years old btw see's someone who is 1 hour away which even 2 hours isnt bad long distance relationship are really 5 hours and over in my book.But it will work she see's him on the weekend though see goes and picks him up!

Answer 7

To be honest, they are very difficult to make work, because it requires alot of compromise from both parties. Having good communication is important. One big piece of advice is that there needs to some physical contact (seeing each other) to keep the spark alive.

Aside from that, don't let jealosy get to you, because it only gets worse.

Best of luck

JC

Answer 8

Well actually 2 hrs away isn't much. It gives you time to miss him if you really love him. If he really loves you the time you have apart is nothing. It's the time you spend together what counts. Hope it works out.

Answer 9

i agree, i dont fink long distant relationships cant work, i was also in one for 11months only for it all 2 end in heartache, u cant build a strong enough relationship threw words n text, i fink if u 2 r really inlove den one of u would move to be wid da other, 2hours is nufing 2 move for a loved one.

Answer 10

um...work hard and when one of you have enough money move next to them. or one of you could live with the other for a while and get to see each other more often. that probably one of the best ways since you live two hours away.