Would it bother you if your partner masturbated so much it affected your actual sex life? I don't have a problem with my partner masturbating (find it very sexy) but he is not able to orgasm if he has just masturbated during the day. I want to experience orgasm with him so it's starting to bother me. Any suggestions or similiar experiences? It's a new relationship and just learning about each other.
2006-09-12 13:02:05 · 26 answers · asked by Laney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have sex every night. He just doesn't orgasm and it's really starting to bother me. He tells me it's cause he masturbated during the day. I have asked why can't he wait until he gets to me. Love to watch that sort of thing.
2006-09-12 13:09:35 · update #1
New relationship - I'm 39, he's 37.
2006-09-12 13:11:50 · update #2
tell him to quit!
2006-09-12 13:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by jeanne g 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope your partner is not a chronic obsessive masturbater. Why not have sex in the morning and you jack him off for a bit first. That way he realizes how much better sex is when there are 2 people involved. If you get to him before his hand does chances of mutual climax may be greater. You could always exercise mutual maasturbation as well. Since this relationship is new there will be many bumps. If you do not think you can weather his habit though a break up may be in order. I've never heard of this self gratification problem though. Masturbation is not medically proven to render sexual desire or orgasm.
2006-09-12 13:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First a couple questions. Have you talked to him about this? And is he masturbating because he needs to, or because he thinks he's helping you? Masturbating before sex helps maintain an erection for a longer period of time during actual sex and men do it for that reason. They hear women complaining that guys get off so quick that they are not being satisfied, so in an attempt to not be labeled a "minute man", they take matters in their own hands. You may just need to explain to him what you just explained to us to assure him he doesn't have to go to such measures. If he has a problem with ejaculating too quick, then try to work with him on this. There are techniques you can both learn to solve this. Good communication is the key here.
2006-09-12 13:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by paesano2578 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, are you two married before I say anything? If so, what do you mean you want to experience orgasm with him? Do you mean you want to have an orgasm? If so, you should masturbate when you are watching him masturbate. If you want to experience orgasm with him, you should ride him and there, or let him finger you. If I did masturbated which I don't, I would definitely stop masturbating and have sex with my girl. I prefer sex with a girl more than masturbating. I suggest that when he is horny in the morning, kiss him and slowly put your hand on his penis, then go on from there. I'm sure he will have an orgasm with you if you do it like that.
2006-09-12 13:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a similar experience with someone before and I absolutely hated it. Maybe you can suggest that next time he feels like masturbating he should come to you instead. I would definitely let him know that it is bothering you though. There is always the possibility that it is the only way he can do it - so you may have more of an issue than you think. Try talking about it.
2006-09-12 13:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by angelina b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should really learn to control himself. I agree that a certain amount of masturbation is healthy and sexy. But every day? And when he knows he's going to see you that night?
It almost sounds as if he's trying to hurt you.
And another thing, a man should be able to *** twice in one day. I'd re-think this one if I were you.
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2006-09-12 14:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bugsy Groucho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For best sex do not smoke marijuana. Do not masturbate if you are male just before sex. Talk to him. Maybe some days u can masturbate in front of each other instead of him doing it alone.
2006-09-12 13:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a guy so i could tell you that if you would catch him in the act of doing so before he has his orgasm you should try to give yourself to him inorder for him to be wanting to have sex and do your stuff. youll find out that this will definately work and if it doesnt well i dont know what to say.
2006-09-12 13:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by big der 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't bother me if my husband masturbates in the morning and at night he gets a little from me or vice versa!Good luck!
2006-09-12 13:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know but u might want to find out what makes him masturbate so u can duplicate it so u can enjoy orgasms with him.
2006-09-12 13:07:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness. tell the guy you're willing to do it so much that he can retire masturbating. Tell him the reason he masturbates is to feel good. you want to feel good too, so tell him let's do it together some day.. then you do it with him then next time maybe you will do eachother. tell me how it went.
2006-09-12 13:06:20 · answer #11 · answered by stranger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋