Why do women love to change men's behaviour later in the relationship when in the beginning they accept it ?

Answer 1

Its Insecurity.

They want to change how you dress and act because they want other girls to perceive you two as a perfect couple. Girls grow up fantacising about the perfect love and perfect this and that, so its sth engraved in their brains since little.

Also, changing their bf behavious gives them security knowing that they have somewhat control over them.

But then, guys do the same thing.

Changing someones normal belief or behavior to conform your own is a form of power, right?

Answer 2

Because we establish most of our romantic relationships when we are young and stupid.

The behaviors we later may try to change don't bother us in the beginning, in the flush of infatuation, and those that do, sadly, cause us to think things like, "My love will change him."

If I were a man, and had the knowledge I have of women, I'd insist that my new partner clearly state those things about me that she wants to change. Then, if I felt that she really thought it was her job to fix me, I'd run like hell. Of course I'd also do all the "sharing and acknowledging emotions and feelings" stuff that would keep her in a perpetual state of infatuation.

But do take note that when, for example, "cool and aloof, but charming" turns into "isolates and belittles me," we often hear the same complaint. "She's trying to turn me into someone else!"

Women are taught, by the mere fact that it is usually women who are the ones who mold and shape children the most (I mean that they spend more time, as a rule, teaching and nurturing kids and helping them develop, than men) that it really IS our job to fix others. So, "No, no, Mary, don't hit!" Becomes, "Why don't you ever do what Alice's husband does?"

And by the time we figure out how screwy that is, the body is way past its prime! Ah, youth, it is wasted on the young!
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Answer 3

Guys do that too.
Some examples I've gotten:

You'd be so pretty if you cut your hair short.
wouldn't it be great if you went back to college?
How about you lose 15 pounds?
You know you shouldn't bite your fingernails all the time.
he'd you like to go blond/red/black?
Want me to buy you a tatoo?
I like my women to eat meat! (this was a very angry argument three weeks into a relationship...He knew I was a vegan when I met him)
You have a peirced WHAT?! can you take the peircing out for me?
Youre too smart for your job..why don't you try to look for something more your level?
Wicca is NOT a real religion, you can come to church with me and see what a real religion is.

This is leaving out the running commentary on, my lateness, my organizational skill, my home decorating techniques, my favorite colors...the fact that I wear specs....and on and on and on...

Why do they do it? I dunno...I guess some people just don't have enough to do on themselves and feel changing you to suit them would be easier than the other way around. or maybe some people are just picky bastards...

Answer 4

Sometime when a woman meet a man. She be so desperate that they would take what every they get. Later on in the relationship they want something different. So, they try to change the one their with hoping everything would work out for the best.

Answer 5

Well NINJA777...

It's not just women. It is a well-known fact that the same qualities that attract you to that person in the first place, often turn out to the be qualities that drive you crazy later on in the relationship. As for trying to change people, men can be control freaks too. ;-)

Answer 6

i'm still trying to figure that out. but i do know we can't change men and nor should we want to. i was very very hard on my ex husband. and now he's my ex husband lol but if i may say something that alot of women won't like, but i do believe feminism has changed the "modern man". i am a feminist, and i love the movement and it's rewards, but will ALL things there is a backlash and i strongly feel that woman's strong character over the past 30 years has made some very wimpy, needy, weak men. whether they were raised by a feminist, or dating one and he didnt realize it. but the more powerful a woman becomes in society the more weak a man appears to be to her. and we want our place in society we just dont like that men arent 'growing' the way we are. so in the beginning what ever you did was "cute" but at some point you need to grow up. and change for yourself. women can't understand why men aren't constantly "growing" in life, maturity and wisdom like they are. you guys are emotionally stagnant. socially speaking, in the whole world of man you dont seem to be evolving. i find that ironic. and by the way a feminist doesn't have to be some power player in teh corp. world. even teh 17yr old co ed who dresses like she wants, and dates who she wants and doesnt settle for what her parents and the old society hand her is a woman who has feminist qualities. eventually she will grow but her bf will grow increasinly intimidated by her. and because of that he wont grow. see the backlash?

Answer 7

of direction, not a guy, yet my co-worker said me on the following and needs to respond to... his call is Johnathan and he's 23 love capacity willingness to do something and each and every thing for that individual have self belief and honesty make or destroy a courting certain no certain a fairytale

Answer 8

Only speaking from my past reletionships... I think I found the need to make some adjustments to my man as I myself adjusted. I think when women change they expect that there man will too! Also in the begining you were single she may be trying to change you from single man mind frame to attached man mind frame.

Answer 9

They didn't realize at first how painfully immature he is
They see room for improvement and believe it will in some way make him a better person.... they were physically attracted to begin with

Answer 10

Women are our "balance" in the universe... they keep a check on what we do in life...

Yes, they mold us from the day we are born (our mothers) and later in life when we get married (our wives) and even later when we get bored (our mistresses)...

I was kidding about the mistresses... I swear

But you get the picture. So to the lovely ladies I say "Mold Away"