I can't take it anymore if I see one more 14 year old asking if they should be or how to have sex, if they should go out with the cute boy in class or whatever else I'm gonna lose it!
I mean wtf makes them think they are ready for that? Do they not think of the consequences of their actions, what if they got pregnant, or got a disease? They don't know the first thing about what is involved in all that!
I was like 20 when I lost my virginity and started dating b/c I knew that I had to finish school and just having a crush was hard enough and difficult to deal with. I mean if I had to deal with a relationship on top of working and going to school I would have gone nuts.
I was very mature for my age, but I never was thinking about sex when I was 14! I could have, but knew better.
What is going on?!?!? I am not trying to preach or anything, but do they even think of the responsiblities involved in relationships and sex and all of that?
Does anyone have any insightful input?
2006-09-12 12:37:27 · 16 answers · asked by secret t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know not all are like this, but look at how many questions are on here from young kids asking how to kiss and give b!0w jobs, etc. It's sad.
2006-09-12 12:46:31 · update #1
I had friends with older brothers that showed us magazines and talked about all that crap, but I didn't rush out and say hey I want to do that too. I agree that our times now show more and they are exposed to a lot, but I think something is wrong with them KNOWING the difference of BEING an adult and ACTING like one.
Being an adult includes bills, and jobs, and whatever else. Acting like one is completely different.
2006-09-12 12:49:23 · update #2
=) I preach on here all the time. If i can change 1 young person's life.. I'm happy. they don't know what they do. The cause of the problem is so big that I don't think you and I will ever be able to change. We live in a corrupted society. Brain washing.. Parents who are never there to raise them properly.. Mimic the people in the media.. etc etc.
You should stop doing it yourself, don't you think its more special to do it when you are married?
24/Los Angeles
"premarital sex creates broken families, broken families creates broken society - a vicious cycle only you can stop."
2006-09-12 12:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my virginity when I was 14 and I think it was probably one of the better decisions in my life. The girl I lost it to was not a virgin and she was the same age I was so she must have had sex when she was even younger.
The reason I think it should be done when you are young (14-15 sort of young) is that at that age you don't have fully formed ideas of what love really is. You have had sex ed classes hopefully so you do understand about what precautions you can take and what various dangers are involved. It is possible for you to explore your body and your partner's body in a relatively comfortable and friendly environment. I distinctly remember not being anxious at all about my first time because we did it so matter of factly.
As people get older, they do not behave more responsibly about sex. It just starts meaning so much more. You miss the chance to realize what it really means and what it should be. It's the same as not falling in love till you are in your mid twenties. Once you are that old, you can no longer fall in love properly. You start thinking about "grown up" things like whether the guy has a job or whether he wants comittment. It is no longer possible for you to get lost in his eyes and wait for his gentle touch to bring you back to this world.
If you have never read the book "The LIttle Prince" you really should. It is very good at pointing out how much we lose when we grow up and mature. Many of those things we can never find again. Blessed is the person who manages to stay young in their heart into their old age.
I know my opinion is just one of many, but I hope it helped you understand why just a little bit better. We are never as open to new and wonderful things as when we are children. Cheers.
2006-09-12 13:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets start by pointing at our youth being exposed to more sexual images etc. in the media (TV, videos) etc. Combine it with the government and religious organizations refusing to include anything but abstinence and basic anatomy in sex education classes so the kids can't learn anything about sex other than not having it (except for the misinformation they learn from their friends). Add to that an era of permissive parenting where parents don't say no to their kids and want them to have everything they didn't have as kids (so not as much supervision or discipline). I am sure there are lots of other factors involved but those are just some of my personal pet peeves! Pretty much everything around them is sexualized but they are given pretty much no helpful information about what it all means.
2006-09-12 12:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
television, the internet, and international media customarily have unfold out the international to many little ones. Older generations lived in smaller communities the place each and every physique had their very own little area of interest in society. Now youths are being swallowed in this new international-sized society. Many have faith they have not anyplace and that they sense they does not be neglected in the event that they weren't around. As for the disinterest in international affairs? For some human beings my age the international revolves around them in a manner, and that they are too busy determining their very own very own subject concerns to have an interest interior the the remainder of the international! of direction, this in in hassle-free terms a generalisation. lots of right this moment's youths are quite interested in cutting-edge activities. yet there are a number of who stay of their very own "teenage bubbles" and don't notice plenty with regard to the international around them!
2016-10-14 22:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are the ones to blame because the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
Where is the: "please, thank you, boundaries, respect, togetherness of siblings, unity, and moral and upright values."
The parents must instill this in a child. Don't always blame the child, because sure enough the parent is the one NOT doing their job.
Mom took me to store at 13 years old, and said look at the price of diapers, Enfamil, and baby clothing, and the rate of day care prices. Minimum wage was 2.75 back then, and she asked me could I hold a job with a baby and these high prices of maintaining a baby. NO. I didn't get pregnant. This was taught to me before I entertained any thoughts of fooling around.
Good scare tactic, and it worked.
2006-09-12 12:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you single?
Im saying this because you are the first woman I have seen around here who really has her head on straight and knows whats up these days. It amazes me to no end to see how many kids think they are ready for that crap. I don't think anyone could ever be "ready" but at least mature a bit for crying out loud!
Your words spoke volumes I believe... to say the least
2006-09-12 12:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by benh316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree there are alot of consequences when i was 14 which is a long time ago for me i didn't think about sedx i was in high school with a boyfriend that i didn't get one of till i was 17 . i d idn't think about sex then either cause he was in utah at the time but he started to think about it more and more and wanted it but i said no i want to wait . i figuire wait till you are old enough like 18 and on cause then you know how the consequences workj i am 22 aomost 23 and a engaged to be married women and a college student full time and i am responsible enough to use condoms that is why my man and i have them...
2006-09-12 12:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. i am todays youth, and i don't think about having sex or anything yet, well at least i know i'm gonna wait a while. On the other hand i see completly what you mean, some of my friends are just like that, but hey not me. I am also pretty sure i'm more mature then them, as well as you, and hey, don't judge all of us from the behaivior of those desperate some of us.
2006-09-12 12:42:21 · answer #8 · answered by because7_8_9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the parenting these days.......or should I say lack of. People don't raise their kids to have self-respect or to earn things. Everything is handed to them and they are treated like adults at early ages, so therefore they think they can act like adults.
It's not like that in every family, but unfortunately the majority are.
2006-09-12 12:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
secret 1, be prepared to get slamed from the very youths you asked this of. i commend you for telling the truth, sad kid's have nothing more to look for answers than a screen. hang in and give your advice, they may not like it sometimes but when it helps someone, its just a smile to your face(chill in your heart) they tell you the difference you have made in there lives. its pretty sweet. im no pro(and dont claim to be) but if you feel the calling, go for it! there young adults, and need guidence just as we did . love you all.
2006-09-12 12:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by cycodad69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋