I found a bunch of sex partner search stuff in the history of our family's computer every day for the past month. My mom does not use the computer so it has to be my dad. I don't know whether to tell my mom or not. Please help!
2006-09-12 12:30:03 · 23 answers · asked by Steve-O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just because he's looking don't mean he is touching.
2006-09-12 12:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, don't tell mom. You may be jumping to conclusions. Is there anyone else in the house, like a curious sibling of yours, or friend that visits often? Maybe mom uses the computer more than you think. BTW, why were you looking? Personally, I'd look closer at the history to look for identifying information. If you think it is in fact him, then tell your dad what you have found, and be prepared for him to be defensive. He will accuse you of invading his privacy.
2006-09-12 20:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very tough call. I would have to say, based on the health risks alone, you need to alert your mom. Having random sex extramaritally is not only abominable, it is DANGEROUS! I would go directly to your mom with the information and let her investigate. You should not confront your dad alone! That is not a conversation for parent-child. And, if he convinced you to believe some BS and your mom was never told, you are responsible for consequences to her, if it turns out to be true. Any pain caused to your mom is not your responsibility. You would have done NOTHING WRONG by telling her the truth about someone else's actions. This is all on your dad's shoulders unless you help him hide it!! Please be a man of integrity and do the right thing! Check back in, please. This is soooo awful. My heart goes out to you.
2006-09-12 19:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by georgia b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what your dad is doing with these sights. If he is just browsing, then No. But if he is using them to meet other people, then Yes.
What an awful discovery you have made. It must be a burden on your shoulders.
You could ask your Dad about them quietly and see what he has to say. Then take it from there.
2006-09-12 19:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are getting into stuff that is none of your business. did you stop to consider your dads partner just might be your mom? if you cant stand it anymore for real have it on the screen and ask mom what is it?
2006-09-12 19:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by plgbw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your Dad first and see what the deal is. If he avoids it or threatens you tell Mom. But before any of it you may want to print the screen so you have proof. You may also want to talk to your Mom's parents or other member of her family before you do anything.
2006-09-12 19:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
something must be missing at home but they're the adults in this situation and its between them.children shouldn't be getting into an area that is very private and personal. maybe your dad is just curious..no harm in that.its between the two of them and if n' when your dad feels he has to tell your mom then so be it.....let it be.....
2006-09-12 20:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by ggmsixer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO do not tell your Mom.... Unless you want to cause problems before you know what is really going on... Maybe you should talk to your Dad first....
2006-09-12 19:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by levita45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I know it hurts because most likely your mom is great and most likely is incapable of doing something like that her self. But odds are your mom already knows that but us women keep things to our self. You probably don't know this because you are too young but your mom is a women and women's intuition is pretty strong.
2006-09-12 19:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by Irene A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's pop ups. But you should have a close eye on your dad though.
2006-09-12 19:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by hurshey k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can ask him in a wondering way...you know, hey dad, i was checking the computer and this strange stuff came up, can you help me get rid of it? see how he reacts and then you'll know what is going on.
sorry.
2006-09-12 19:32:05 · answer #11 · answered by City slicker 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋