If your dad was dying of a illness but you never got along with him would you still go to his funeral ?

Answer 1

You should definitely go to his funeral. One day you will realize that going to his funeral will have brought closure for yourself. Maybe you should even go speak to him now before he dies, that way there are no regrets later on when you can't speak to him. I'm not sure why you aren't getting along, that isn't my business, but my point is, is that sometimes forgiveness is more for yourself than for the other person. When you truly forgive, even when the other person is wrong, you will really feel free. But you definitely don't want things to linger because when he is gone, you will not be able to say all the things that had weighed on your heart. Good luck!

Answer 2

Funerals aren't for the dead, they're for the living, to provide you with rituals through which you can come to terms with your feelings about the deceased, whatever they may be.

If someone in your family needs your support after losing your dad, that's a good reason to be there. If being there helps you explore your conflicted feelings about him, that's a good reason to be there too.

I found this interesting article about difficult family relationships and the fact that it's not always necessary to forgive. It's kind of rough in some areas, but probably worth a read.

Answer 3

Yes, you should go. Funerals are really for the family left behind. It's being there for your mom and any siblings you have. If he hasn't passed away yet, this may be your only chance to try and make things up with him. You might wish you'd tried later on in life. If he doesn't seem to want to make things better between you at least you know you tried.

Answer 4

He is the only father that you will ever have and even if you didn't get along...yes, you should still go to the funeral, if nothing more than for respect of your mother, who married him and fathered you, and for any siblings you have who may not take it very well and could use a comforting shoulder to lean on during this time.
Also, if you have children, this is their grandfather and they deserve to know him even if it is only at hius funeral. They will at least have a memory of him to carry with them thorughout their growing up years.

Good Luck, and my condolences.

Answer 5

Yes, by all means please go to his funeral. My spouse did not go to her mom or dad's funeral and deep inside I think she regrets it. I did not get along with my dad when he died, and I did not like some of his ways but my son and I went to the funeral and grave site. My son and I visited each other last week, and one of the first things we did was to go to the cemetery to look at the grave sites.

Answer 6

Yes, he is still family. I have found that not attending family functions, especially a funeral, causes many problems, and strife in the family. You have to pay respects to not only your dad, but the family as well.

Answer 7

Yes! And to take it a step further, go visit the old man before he dies and let him know that you are sorry the two of you didn't get along better, and you love him. This is not a time for holding a grudge.

Answer 8

Yes. He was the one who enabled me to be in this world of joy.Ther might have been differences with him. But that is part of all relationships-at one/the other times. The colossal time we waste thinking what he has/ has not done will get me nothing other than remorse and repentence once he dies and I did nothing there.What is holding you there? Go, see him at once. Don't wait till his funeral.Who has seen God, the creator? These people are our Gods, veiled in the mortal frailties , we are not able to see the God.It is not what you get, that matters. It is what you do, that matters.

Answer 9

yes you should believe it when i say if you don't you will regret it big time you and your father may have had your differences but hes still your dad if at all you can contact him now and try and place those differences behind you then try because sooner or later you will wish you had of tryed and by then it will be too late i had this with my mum and every day i wish we never fought for 15 yrs and we never stoped talking we made up for it and built a bridge 1 mth before she died and i spend every day wishing i had of seen it differently and done it sooner. so i could have had more time with her but instead i held my stupid pride and lost the only women who i could proudly call my mother.

Answer 10

Yes