I have serious relation with my highschool friend from 4 years. We became more serious in last 1 year, but when I asked him for merrriage he said he want some time so that he can get his degree & become independent. I don't know why I felt he is kind of trying to avoid me.I broke up with him. IS THAT RIGHT????
2006-09-12 12:16:11 · 14 answers · asked by simran 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wrong... to hasty a decision
2006-09-12 12:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by K Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the wrong thing.. Marriage is not a series of 1,2,3..charaaaan..We're married! It is something that has to be planned thoroughly and prepared upon. You should have understand him in the first place, he wanted to finish his degree and be independent from her family because he must have wanted a perfect future with you.. I guess that feeling that you felt is no other than PARANOIA.. this goes on your subconcious because you treasure him so much that you are too afraid that he'll leave you so you decided to break up and lose him than wait for him to do it.
2006-09-12 12:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by Creine_Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked you to wait until he got his degree and became independent. That is a good thing for men to do, they want to be able to support a wife and a family. He was trying to be an upright man and you then took things the wrong way and broke up with him. It showed that you were unwilling to wait for him to let him get ready to support you.
2006-09-12 12:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 07:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you didn't break up with him I think that he should have called it off with you...Apparently you two have different ideas about your futures. I think you should be glad that he wants to finish school and get his degree before he decides he wants to commit to anything. Marriage is HARD work... Trust me...be glad that you found out now how he feels before you actually got married and had kids. Good luck!
2006-09-12 12:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he has let you know where his priorities lie, and they aren't with you.
I, on the other hand, think marriage is the way to go. You knew you made the right decision, you just wanted to confirm it with someone else.
Did I mention my singleness and interest in marriage? Oh, okay, sorry, I forgot.
2006-09-12 12:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you could go either way on that, maybe he wants to support you later so her needs a degree or maybe he is full of **** but you need to listen to your gut and not your heart, call him anyway you know you want to, make some lame excuse and see what he is up to. :-)
2006-09-12 12:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by jonni_richter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u knw wht.... i rele liked yr answer to my q.... i think wht yr sayin is correct... but i cant sto thinkin abt him... neways i hope u read this... i think wht u did to yr guy was right.. good u broke up with him.. cuz if ud keep on waitin for his ans he would just let u hang in the middle of nowher n in the end he would be the one to dump u... im glad u did it 1st (Y) ...
ans one o my q again n contact me if u wanna talk??
2006-09-14 01:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by so sick of love songs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to wait you did the right thing but he was being honest maybe timing was wrong he is trying to better himself so you can ride with it or leave it alone
2006-09-12 12:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by kandigyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you really loved him you would've waited it out and let him get his degree. the meaning of love is wanting that person to be happy. for instance if you loved this person so much but they loved another, if you really loved them, you would give your blessing and go. and let them be happy.
2006-09-12 12:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by thee wojc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did he react to you breaking up with him? is he heartbroken? crying? or did he seem to get over it fast?
you should be able to judge how he truly feels about you by how he reacted to you breaking up with him.
2006-09-12 12:18:55 · answer #11 · answered by jenn w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋