how do i break this person from tryin to be my mom she has grounded me for like 2 months now and i havnt done anyhting wrong ive been nice respectible and ive done everything she has asked me to do plus more and i cant get out of here ive been in the same house for 2 monts strait!!! help me please and my mom is just sitting by and letting it all happen
2006-09-12 12:13:58 · 13 answers · asked by kill_me_not_realli_2009 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
okay i told my mom and she said that she feels like she cant control me and she feels that the thret of this other women can get me under control what do i do?
2006-09-13 01:07:12 · update #1
It appears that your mom has given her authorization to take a motherly type role. If you have a problem talk to your mom.
2006-09-12 12:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by sambadgerlover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to take this problem to YOUR MOM. YOu HAVE to make her listen to you and open up with her. Tell her how you feel about HER being YOUR mom and ask her why this is going on...but do it on neutral territory and while you all are genuinely ALONE.
ADDITIONAL COMMENTS:
OK, I see two sides here, but very dimly. ARE you out of control is NOT a question YOU can answer for anyone. YOU will always say, NO. But, maybe YOU are doing some things which is scaring your mother? As I see it you have a couple of choices....
STOP doing whatever it is that is OUT of control.
or
DEAL with the punishment.
The only person YOU can control is YOU. Whatever you are doing which is offending MOM is the MOST important issue YOU have right now, not the grounding, not the contoling the other woman. MOM is desperate to get you in line. She is AFRAID for you. You will have to sacrifice whatever you are doing because you love MOM and let her know she has nothing to fear...if you really love her, put her first. You will be 21 soon enough and then you can MOVE out and do as you please. UNTIL then, you are the same as a OWNED person and you must respect MOM.
2006-09-13 00:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by DA R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to piss off, you already have a Mom and she's not it. Then tell your mom to get a backbone. Much to my shame this was happening to me last year... I was working nights and didn't have anyone to help me with my girls during the day... I was so exhausted I didn't realize that bi*** was trying to take over (yet complaining if I tried to catch a nap)... She wanted my husband and my kids... My older (4 at the time) finally came to me and asked me not to go to work because she didn't want that person for mommy she wanted me! Of course I quit. (I was fortunate enough to have my time in that state ending anyway). Make your mom aware of the situation! It is possible for us to miss those things!
2006-09-12 19:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by MotherBear1975 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get into a little more detail...what's the situation? Why are you staying with this woman? What did she "ground" you for? Why isn't your mom saying anything? Have you tried to talk to your mom about this? It's hard to help without more detail...
2006-09-12 19:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by mamba 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you living in this house with this person anyways? Is she your stepmother? A family friend? If I would you I would get hold of my mother and tell her that you do not want to live there anymore. Where is you father? Can he help you out? Try talking to a school councelor about it maybe they can help. I hope that it gets better.
2006-09-12 19:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's the problem? I'm not quite sure what kind of situation you're in.
email me at fistfulofsand@gmail.com if you serisouly want to talk or something.
and i'd delete your history on the computer, too, if she's that tyranical.--she could come find this question too.
explain the situation better and I'm sure we'd all be able to guide you more!
good luck either way!
later.
2006-09-12 19:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by N/A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did she ground you? I mean...what did she SAY you were grounded for?
Is your father around? What does he have to say about it? I know people will tell you that it's most likely just you...and you're doing something disrespectful or wrong and won't admit it, but my step mother was absolutely horrid to us, with absolutely no reason...so I know it can happen.
2006-09-12 19:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she just wants the best for you.. the best thing to do is to just kindly say that you dont think its right the way she tells you to do things.. if your mom doenst find it as a big deal then maybe it isnt. i think youll realize later that shes only doing it cuz she cares about you.
2006-09-12 19:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kaitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this your Mom's lover?
What I would do is to call Children's Services and let them look into it. I would do this right away so that you can get out.
Hugs
2006-09-12 19:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your mom knows and isn't upset with it or saying something about it I'm assuming they think that it is whats best for you even though you may not understand their reasoning now.
2006-09-12 19:21:24 · answer #10 · answered by jo_jo_baby2004 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋