My Mom hates me?

Question

I was wondering if my mom hates me. Every time I see her she says mean things to me. Like my car is a piece of **** or I'm a droput and then asked me If I had a real job (I work for corp comp 10,000 employess). She never has anything nice to sa. When I was a child she was never nice never brought me any clothes to wear to school had to get a job and when I do I would make 150.00 she would take 50.00 she never put it aside only in her wallet. I moved to another stated to clear my head of her but she called and came to visit I asked her if she wanted something to drink and stated that no b/c my house dont look clean. I was very hurt when she calls I never answer the phone


What should I do I was planning on blocking her number and never talk to her again but I have a little sister and brother 10 and 9

I need serious answers only

I have spoken to her about this but nothing has changed and she always says that my father was a liar and a cheater but thats not my fault she has a very good education and was collecting SSI when my father passed away when I was 7 and she used to same bad things about my father mother making me want to hate her

Answer 1

I completely agree with blocking her out...you are an adult now, and have that ability. As a child, you were forced to put up with the abuse...but now that you are an adult, you are charged with the responsibility of protecting yourself and your best interests. I call these types of people "toxic family members", and I have been happier once I didn't allow them to hurt me anymore. Sure, visit her on holidays, call her if you want...but on your terms. If she starts to get abusive, say "Well, I gotta go...I don't need to hear that, the world beats me down enough as it is, I don't need it from my own mother." Something like that....have you tried telling her how much she hurts you? If not, try telling her...everytime she starts up with you, start criticizing her faults...it may sound childish, but some people need a taste of their own bitter medicine to understand. Honestly, what is the worst that can happen? It's not like she could be meaner to you than she already is!

As far as your siblings, try your best to keep in contact with them, b/c they are probably going through the same types of things you went through. Just stay as positive as you can around them, they most likely need that...and try to avoid bad-mouthing her to them, even though she may do the same to you. In time, they will realize who really is "right".

I wish you well and sorry you have to go through this. Stand up for yourself like the adult you are and you will feel a lot better. Good luck and God bless!!

Answer 2

WoW thats pretty deep. Your mom doesnt seem like the ideal type. I think you need to go visit her and talk to her and ask why is she treating you this way, and how you feel. She might not kno that she is acting this way or hurting you. or she might was very troubled at a young age and maybe her mom treated her that way. If that deosnt work you guys should go to a counsiling session together and try to work things out. If not then just stay away from her if she is not treating you right, because called emotional abuse, and you can be scared from it and not even notice.

Answer 3

well...
the only one would tell you whether your mom loves you or loves you not is your mom her self
but i believe that there is no mother on earth that hates her child
even in different societies and countries
if you have the dare to talk to her about it instead of crying
i mean you cry and eventually ur emotions never heals
but what you have to lose
if she loves you and there is some issues that arent solved
you can sort it out together
if she really hates you...and i hope thats not the truth
you will get peace of mind
and wont bother and think about it again
unless you turn out to be that good person
and try to make things out between the two of you
and about your brother and sister
in case things werent good between you and your ma
if they love you they will search and look up for you
even if they are yet at this very young age
and good luck with it and hope to know things are good soon enough

Answer 4

She has the problem not you just keep the door open for the other kids and when MOM gives her advice of you Say thank and go on.
And when she is gone do something special for you , a walk , meet a friend for a chat just get out a laugh not about her anything.
She needs help and may never get it Your sister and brother will need you so just be there for them .

Answer 5

You know the sad thing about it is we can't pick our parents.Now that your older you need to realize that you are a good person and what she says doesn't matter. By now you should know what type of person you are and don't let your mother or anyone esle make you feel different. Your an adult now so tell her that she isn't welcome in your home if she can't keep her hurtful opinoins to herself. That you are doing your best and if she doesn't like it then she needs to keep it to herself. That all you can do is your best. I would keep in contact with her due to your bro.& sis. You need to make it clear to her that you are an adult now and you wish to be treated like one..You can say these things in a respectful way. Remember she is still your mother. But she can't belittle you in your own home.Good luck hon

Answer 6

okay here is my seriousness...your mom sounds like she needs God in her life and if you have God in your life you need to be a witness to her and if you don't have God no wonder it sounds like your life is going so bad find God and when people let you down he will be there...Tell your mom how you feel like she is never nice she always has bad things to say she is really rude and if she wants to visit again she needs to come into your home with respect and maybe your car and job isn't a Cadillac and isn't a lawyer but you are trying and tell her that she could at least respect you trying.And really do in force the God thing I promise it will help your life.Get a bible. Love ya and God-bless.

Answer 7

always think about your brother and sister no matter how bad it is or gets between your mom and you. it seems to me your mom maybe jealous of you . You have your whole life ahead of you and she has two children to care for . you are free and having fun, working and be independent . you don't need to be dependent upon her any more . and as for treating you mean as a child she may not of been ready to have you , she got pregnant but didn't really want children so soon

Answer 8

humm....
well you already know what its like to be independent so I wont give you that lecture.
I think at this point its best to stay away from your mom, not in a mean , i dont ever want to see you way, but just realize that she is not the woman media makes mom's out to be.

you and her are individuals, that all to it.

I always warn parents that one day they will realize how miserable they are when they in fact get old and realize their adult children want nothing to do with them, simply because they could not get a grip on their life and leave their kids outta their troubles.
It looks like she will have to learn this the hard way.

Answer 9

It sounds like your mother really needs Therapy. She has a lot of baggage to unload. Treating you badly is just her way of getting back at your late father. I really don't know of any good way to tell her that she needs therapy except to just come out and tell her that she needs to talk to someone about her problems.

Answer 10

I am so sorry that you have had to deal with this! I think your mom has some serious emotional/mental issues...she needs to get help! How does she treat you little brother and sister????? Dont block her out...at least for their sake.