My boyfriend of 3 months and I broke up 3 weeks ago. He said he wanted to remain friends (we broke up due to religous differences), and he still calls me from time to time. I found out that one day after he broke up with me, he joined online dating sites, which hurt me. He removed all of my comments and pictures from his myspace account, but left comments and pictures up of his ex girlfriends prior to me. He says he still wants to be friends and was upset when I had a date last week. I do not know what to do. I received some bad news today that I have to undergo further testing to see if I have breast cancer. I want to tell my ex, but feel that he has shown he does not really care because he still makes comments on his other ex's myspace accounts but not mine. he always says he misses me when he calls and is mad that I cannot talk to him daily like we did when we were dating. Any advice?
2006-09-12 11:49:34 · 19 answers · asked by lynn02aggie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually we are both in our late twenties. He is a computer engineer so for him the computer is his way to communicate. It is just a scary time in my life that is all. I know it is dumb, but I was hurt when he has removed me from his life in spite of the fact that he wishes to be friends. He calls every week to see how I am doing and seems upset that I am out dating and he is not. He actually asked if he could stay at my place when he comes down to Houston for a football game... he lives in Dallas; I said I did not think that would be wise. I recently moved to Houston about a month ago.
2006-09-12 12:00:02 · update #1
Tell the guy to be tested for bi-polar disorder and until the results come back confide in someone who can relate to what you are going through. News like that must be devestating and you deserve a compassionate ear.
Best of luck
2006-09-12 11:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by Bridezilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him what is a personal problem of yours and he dismisses it how would you feel? You are no longer a part of his life and having been married and divorced myself it can be hard to draw the line between friendship and an past lover. The fact that he have removed your pictures from his 'myspace' means that he has all ready moved on.
Sorry to her that you are going through a rough time but it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.
It is time to build a bridge (to get over it) and rely on your family that will be with you for the rest of your life! Boyfriends, and partners will come and go but family is forever. Forget about him and think of yourself for a change it is not that big of a deal for his Ex-girlfriend to get bad news, would you care if is was one of your Ex-boyfriends...tread carefully.
Be kind to yourself girl and all the best.
2006-09-12 12:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sister Sandy (RN) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a thought - but, 3 months is not a long time...not for people in their late twenties to really know each other. His actions show a complete disregard for your feelings and you confiding in him during this difficult time in your life will only give him the opportunity to manipulate you when you are feeling down. Don't give him the chance. He clearly does not have the maturity to help you know.
Like I said, 3 months is nothing in the grand scheme of things...consult with a long-time friend for support and get over this hardship first. BE SELFISH NOW and take care of yourself. Good Luck.
2006-09-13 09:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is this:
If you feel hurt by what he is doing then you should no longer have contact with him....or you should talk to him about this. It seems to me that you want to tell him about your potential cancer (sorry to hear about that by the way and hope all is well) but you are afraid of how he will react and you don't want to get hurt again. But to me you still have feelings for him....maybe i'm wrong but its just my opinion I vote:
1. talk to him
2. tell him about the cancer possibility
3. tell him that he has hurt you
4. if he does hurt you again drop him like no tomorrow and find someone that will be there for you the whole time.
good luck if you need more help e-mail me at prettygreeneyes5604@yahoo.com
2006-09-12 11:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I hope everything turns out OK regarding your health. If you feel a need to share it with him you can try and he doesn't listen or hears your concerns then forget his ***. If he's a real friend he'll be there for you.
2006-09-12 12:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by fangstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a new man who will support you during this breast cancer time. Have your people contact mine, I'd love to support you if we mesh.
2006-09-12 11:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on for sure or he wouldn't mind you having his myspace password like you did before,and he wouldn't be deleting his sent texts to keep you from seeing them. You are not being irrational, you should confront him about the situation.
2016-03-26 22:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Janet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being his friend. It's pointless. You don't need him as a friend. He is your ex-boyfriend. Move on and talk to someone who cares about you.
2006-09-12 11:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is tough. I think you ought to tell him, cancer is important, who is on myspace is stupid and juvenile. Worry about what is real and not what is going on in cyberspace
2006-09-12 11:53:58 · answer #9 · answered by chefchip2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad. Contact me for some advice. I do not wanna post it on here. I mean it.
2006-09-12 11:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by Husker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋