me and this guy have some insanely intense passion and chemistry together. We could spend all night wrapped up in each other. We have an amazing time and it only gets better. Plus we both are open minded and like to be spontanious.
We spend so much time together and as soon as we see each other its hard not to be with each other. We talk almost all day and night and see each other often.
but he has a girlfriend.
he tells me he really likes me and its jut hard to end a long relationships, but when in reality he has a girlfriend.
what the fuuck do I do!?!?
2006-09-12 11:32:26 · 29 answers · asked by C-BIZZLE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want to be in a relationship with him, I just don't want there to be anyone else. :) I want to be selfish.
2006-09-12 11:36:01 · update #1
yes you do. I can tell. Wait it out, I'm sure they'll eventualy break up, then would be your chance.
2006-09-12 11:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by steve 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave him. Now. Even if you two have this passion for one another, he's a rat for cheating on his girlfriend. And, who's to say he won't do the same to you? The old phrase, "Once a cheater, always a cheater," is generally true. If he really cared about you more than her, he would have broken things off with her before starting anything with you. That would have been the ethical thing for him to do, as well as the thing any decent guy would do in order to cause less pain for all parties involved.
Go find yourself someone else. Someone who is honest about his relationships and feelings. Besides, guys love open-minded, spontaneous girls, so it shouldn't be hard to find someone new.
2006-09-12 18:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Esma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG, that happened to me!!! Until HE dumped ME for his g-f!!! She started pressuring him and pushing him to be just like her (while I gave him every freedom available to be himself...go figure!). He wanted to be this version of a person that his mom and his sister forced on him. He wanted a girl who wouldn't sleep with him, or that wouldn't like it when they did (therefore demoting me to the title of "whore"). I know he doesn't love his g-f, but he's still with her because of the status-quo this girl has in his family (his sister's friend). She's older than him and waaay uglier than me. And also, not a nice person at all! But still there he is with her; I don't even recognize him anymore...God, I want to cry just thinking about it!!!
My advice would be, play it out, you know (and I know) that it won't last, so live out the last gasps of this relationship that's much more loving and truer than anything he has with his g-friend.
There's an odd chance that he'll realize this and you'll both be happy. But the biggest chance is that it'll end when his g-friend decides that it should. So start treasuring the memories and valueing your time together. Now this is the kind of passion and togetherness that songs are made of and books are written about...and you got to experience it, athough briefly. If anything else, when it's over, he'll realize he had it good with you and proceeded to just f*ck it up.
In a relationship, there's always someone who loves more than the other; you got to be that someone in this case; Congrats!! You know you're capable of giving yourself passionately and completely. When things end, yes, you'll take most of the pain; but he'll take ALL of the guilt; and guess what? Guilt has a much, MUCH longer shelf life than pain.
2006-09-12 18:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by cleo715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You my dear are been used not only sexually but he is also drain you emotionally. When you least expected you are going to realize that you don't have nothing ales to give, lets just hope that your right man dose not come to you at this moment of your life. The good thing is that you are getting some. For him this is only fun, he has two p.u.s.s.y.s. he is provable having as much sex with her, when men are unfaithfull they try to make it up with more sex with the girlfriend/wife. You are geting played with the worst excuse ever, i really likes me and its jut hard to end a long relationships. the lover is the losser all the time.
2006-09-12 18:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Classica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in your position before and i know it's hard when you really like the guy..my advice is get away from that guy because if he cant even be faithful to someone that he has been with for so long how do you know he will be faithful to you and he likes her because no guy is with a girl unless he likes her...he just wants to have you on the side because he likes you but he also like his girl, so he is probably thinking why not have both if i can...dont let him do that you because when a guy likes you he will be with you no matter what...let him know your better than that and if he wants to be with you then do something about it if not then you go ahead and find another guy...
2006-09-12 18:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by GotAnswers? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously he likes u and his gf.. did he tell u tht he loves u? how long has he been going out with his gf? and how long has he known u? if he told u that he loves u while he was going out with his gf, then that ttly mean that he was cheating on u and his gf. but if he hasnt done that much with u even though it sounds like u did, when he was going out with his gf then that means he isnt worth it. even though u 2 sound like u like eachother alot, i mean he obviously he likes another girl 2. if ur cool with him liking u and another girl than thats a whole nother story. does his gf even know that u 2 have some chemistry? did he even tell his gf? this guy isnt very responsib;ethen that also means that he doesnt trust his gf either!
wut i am trying to say is, is this boy worth it? r u willing to b just frenz? and if u guys r dating do u like him cheating on u (hiley doubt that!)
sry 4 all the ? this is a good ? add more details 2 ur story! nice though and good luch with chemistry boy...lol!
2006-09-12 18:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by samayy_xo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demand the respect you deserve. Who in there right mind wouldn't be happy if you were always there. It's not hurting him none-it's hurting you. Even if you thought you could handle it-you can't-and he can. Back off-don't let him have you and her-you deserve better than that. I used to be that girl - and I have come to realize that I subconsciously became that girl because it was a "safe" relationship. Be bold and take a chance on you. As scary as it honestly is-You deserve to be the one-not the other one.
2006-09-12 18:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well u guys are just starting so ofcourse is gona be like that all good. but what makes u think hes not gonna do the same once u guys are together 4 a long time relationship.
2006-09-12 18:57:24 · answer #8 · answered by jose m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a sidedish and make sure he sees you as a main course. Find yourself someone else. If he really loves you and means to be with you, he'll let go of the other girl and get you back. Good luck.
2006-09-12 18:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mystress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. You're his girl on the side. He would have broken up with his girlfriend before he even met you if he was really done with her. He's trying to feed you garbage. Don't eat it.
2006-09-12 18:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by medellia1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. He has no intentions of leaving his girlfriend or he already would have. I'm sorry to tell you this but you're just his fun. And I do feel sorry for his girlfriend.
2006-09-12 18:35:05 · answer #11 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋