Without going into too much detail, a week ago I relocated with my bf to another state. We signed a 12 month lease together with a landlord that is pretty understanding, seeing as though neither of us had a job when we signed it. Anyway, he has did a total 360 on me, treating me horribly. I want to leave NOW! I have the money, and my car, even though I don't have a job yet. But I'm wondering about the lease. He won't leave and allow me to be on the lease, and he won't let me leave even though he can take care of everything by himself. It's more of a "sick I love u but I will treat you however I want" mindset for him. Anyone have any advice on what I should do.
2006-09-12 11:31:48 · 12 answers · asked by mahmah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go to the landlord and tell him you need out. He may charge you a fee, but it will be worth it to pay in order to 1) get free, and 2) maintain your credit rating.
By the way, it's a 180 when someone turns opposite. If he turned 360, it means he's exactly doing what he was before (just a bit dizzy, though, lol).
2006-09-12 11:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you "both" signed the lease then later said that he won't allow you to be on the lease and there is a big difference.
If you signed the lease then you can be held responsible for the entire lease. If you leave and your BF is still there he will be the one the landlord will go after first and then your BF could go after you for the money that you owe.
If you want out, talk to your landlord first and let him/her know what is going on and see if he/she will work with you.
You also could put an ad in the paper for a roommate to take your place.
You could stick it out and try and continue to look for work but change it to a roommate situation.
If the situation is really bad, talk to your mom and dad and see if you can move home for a while. Your BF can't force you to stay there but you could be responsible for the money.
Me, I would probably talk to my folks and move home or put only my stuff in storage (while he is at work and unaware) and stay with friends. It will give him time to figure out what he is going to do and he will either pay the rent himself every month, find a roommate or try to get a small claims judgement against you. (A judge will try and look and see if the BF made any attempt to find a roommate himself.
In the future, be careful about signing a lease. You could find a place on your own but having a roommate can be a problem all by itself.
2006-09-12 19:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by demarkation_line 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're not married, He can't make you stay.
Call the landlord and tell him your boyfriend will be staying there, but you're leaving and need to be removed from the lease. Get it in writing that you're removed. Even if you have to type something saying you've given notice that you're off the lease and bf will continue on the lease by himself. Get it signed by your Landlord. Then you're free to go. Do it before he does though or you'll be stuck with the bill.
Only do that if the problems between your boyfriend can't be worked out and you don't plan to come back. The Landlord might do this once, but it gets old.
2006-09-12 18:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Julie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he is treating you bad then you don't need to stay there because nine times out of ten it will get worst. he feels as though you don't know anyone there in the state and no family around so he can treat you anyway he wants to and you will not leave( that is the take you out of your familiar area/comfort zone and she will have to depend on me and do what I say syndrome), if you have the finances and ability to leave then leave you can do bad all by yourself. so since you have not established a job yet move and start over brand new I know it is scary but it will be better than staying and it possibly turning violent. and since the landlord is so understanding talk to him/her about your situation but do not got into deep details because that my get your bf into trouble(unless that doesn't bother you) and can be seen as abuse (verbal/physical) and see if you can get removed from the lease.
2006-09-12 18:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by chocolatefancier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's as horrible as you claim he is, you'll do anything in your power to get away from him. so leave, and look for a friend or something to stay with. find a job somewhere. if he tells you you still have to pay the lease, it's unfair, but if that's what it takes to keep him away from you, go for it. (it WOULD be a good idea to see if you can get off the lease, though... maybe you could even volunteer someone else to live there... if your bf decides to leave)
2006-09-12 18:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by jenn w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and worry about the lease later. Keeping the rent current isn't going to do you any good if he gets violent.
2006-09-12 18:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy doesn't put you 1st in his life so why are you questioning it? If you're not your own best friend, why should anyone else be. Stop letting anyone use you. Do what makes YOU happy and to hell with him.
2006-09-12 18:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with the landlord while he is still there letting the landlord know the situation so most likely he will sympathize for you then stick him with it.... It works!!
2006-09-12 18:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the landlord and explain your situation or call family or hell a lawyer and get out while you can, before things get worse
2006-09-12 18:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the relationship. Let him shove the apartment where the sun don't shine.
2006-09-12 18:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by Mystress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋