My bf broke up with me about a month ago(we go to different colleges, we are long distance) with very obsecure reason. Then I went to his place two weeks ago and stayed there for a week. He was really sweet to me and we were back together. For the past 2 weeks, we webcamed a lot everyday and he did seemed pretty tired from all his coursework and stuff. Then last Friday, he was cleaning his fraternity house for an entire afternoon and during that time I called him like 5 times but he didn't call me back until 9pm. I was kind of annoyed. I don't like being ignored. Even if he was cleaning all the afternoon, he could've given me a 2-minute call telling me he's gonna call me late that night. But he just ignored my calls. So I kind of got upset when we talked later on. And we broke up again. My thought is he was probably exhausted at that time and I shouldn've controlled my temper. So do you think this is the reason? If I'll just be sweet and supportive to him again, does he want me back?
2006-09-12 11:28:27 · 12 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do you know that you'd just be sweet? Denying your feelings will only end in tragedy. Try a few calls then give him some space. DO NOT EVER DOUBLE CALL! Call once leave a message then let it go til you get a call back.
2006-09-12 11:35:25 · answer #1 · answered by mymadsky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might if you, just let him know that you're truly sorry about poppin' off like you did, he prob'ly was tired, some of those frat houses're pretty big, especialy if he's in one of the top ones.
Yeah he coulda called you back for a quick 2 min call, but he prob'ly had a deadline to get the place clean and wanted to make it, he prob'ly wasn't ignoring you, just trying to handle his business and then call you.
because I hate it when my friends call me 4 or 5 times in a day, it's just really annoying. thy're lookin for me and I'm doing something like cleaning my apartment for an upcoming inspection, I have to stop to see if it's important and that wastes time that I need to get finished so I can call them to hang out or go do something.
and then on top of that, don't try to call him too much 2 or 3 times is pretty good unless it's really really important that you talk to him, you need to give him his space, just as he should do the same for you.
Try to set a time during the week, preferably during lull days when both of you don't have much of a class study load so you guys can talk without getting on each others nerves or havin' to rush through the call, and give you two a little more time to catch up on what's been happenin.
it's tough but it'll work out for the better for you both, plus if you do call and leave a quick message just to say hi or that you miss him, it'll be a sweeter return later.
just be upfront with him and apologize for actin like that, because there may be atime that he calss you and you can't get right back to him.
good luck
2006-09-12 18:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by quiksilver8676 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You called him 5 times? Couldn't you call once and leave a message?You sound a little clingy to me. College is suppose to be fun- having a girlfriend that gets upset because you don't call after a couple hours is not fun. I would give him some space, date some boys at your college and see what happens. You sound like you are being desperate. Step back a bit and let guys meet you half way, you're worth it!!
2006-09-12 18:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound kind of controlling. He is in college same as you and has the same pressures you have. That is not good girlfriend behavior. I bet you want understanding at times. You should have been happy he called you back instead of getting angry. He has other duties besides running to answer your every phone call. If you really want to be back with him send him a letter apologizing and give him the same consideration you would want him to give to you and good luck.
2006-09-12 18:35:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so clingy - you'll just drive him further away.
You sound a little obsessed/stalker-ish/paranoid - I would avoid you too!
Isn't there anyone else in your life besides your bf? How would you feel if your bf treated you the way you treat him? Give him a break will ya - your life should not depend on him.
Seriously, men hate women like you...
2006-09-12 18:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a barrel full o' crazy. Go take some time to be okay with yourself before you try being in a relationship again.
2006-09-12 18:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by medellia1984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not want you back and the only reason he keeps taking you is because you keep insisting. Sorry. I know this because I did it to a girl once when I was too young and too stupid
2006-09-12 18:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he wasnt cleaning. he is in college....he's doing college things. parties, girls, drinking and so forth. though i dont recommend underage drinking. you should be doing the college thing to. if ya'll decide to get together after that, best of luck.
2006-09-12 18:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him alone. If he wants you he'll contact you. If you want him...that's the question. Don't waste your time on someone who may not be into you.
2006-09-12 18:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont really think so move on.
2006-09-12 18:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Brad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋