Uhg. My friend thinks that she is giving her boyfriend sex for his birthday. I mean, hey haven't been dating for a week! His birthday is in December. What should I do? I warned her about pregnancy and stds and stuff. I asked if she is ready. She kinda avoids those questions. I'm afraid to ask her much more because her father used to abuse her, and she kinda got that habit, so she'll jokingly hit me... hard! What should I do?
2006-09-12 11:27:52 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, do I need to repeat this: HE IS A GUY! HE TOTALLY AGREES! I ASKED HIM IF HE WAS PRESSURING HER AND HE TOLD HER!!! Uhg!!
2006-09-12 11:30:45 · update #1
If you're 13 also then that is a big problem. What I suggest is to talk to your friend and if she doesn't want to listen then there's really nothing else you can do about it. Unless you want to tell an adult like the school counselor or something like that. It will most likely come out that you were the one who said something though, and you will probably risk your friendship over it, but if she's that naive then she may need someone making her decisions for her for a while until she wises up.
2006-09-12 11:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bridezilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that millions of people on Yahoo! Answers have said that sex at 13 is WAY too young. I will bet that 99% (probably 100%) of girls who lost their virginity before the age of 18 regret it. It's something you can NEVER get back. If she has a history of abuse from her father, then she definitely has some problems and is probably looking to this boyfriend as security. She probably feels that she needs to have sex with him to keep him around. No one is worth that.
I would tell her parents, at the risk of her getting mad at me, but she may find a way to do it anyway. Maybe write a letter without your name on it and send it to both her parents and her boyfriends' parents about what they are planning on doing.
Good luck! If there's anything you can do to stop it, do it!
2006-09-12 11:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by J B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she is being a sIut. At thirteen you are not ready to decide that you are ready for sex. In ten years she will say "damn, why did I put out for that nerd when I could have waited." She will break up with this guy before the year is up, and then what she did will mean nothing to her, and be a bragging point for the guy. If she will not listen to you then I would tell her mother. It is something that she will regret.
2006-09-12 11:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sex at 13 is way to young. If her father used to abuse her, you don't want him to know what she is thinking about, because that will just give him another excuse to abuse her again.
If it means that much to you, ask her the questions that you have been asking her, but don't let her avoid them, try anything you have to to get an answer. Then try to change her mind, you may not be able to change it, but you can try.
2006-09-12 11:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by bmoline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is absolutely not okay. You need to sit her down and talk to her about waiting until marriage so it means something. If that doesn't work, then you really need to talk to her parents. I know that sounds like a pissy thing to do to her, but it will be better for everyone in the long run. She might be upset for a while, but she'll get over it.
2006-09-12 11:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lis 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats horrible, u cant change her now thats shes this age, shes already got it in her system, and aboutthe hitting, tell her! and ask her to stop, and ofcourse sex in this age isnt ok..especially if theve only been dating a week! and plus i think its too young to have a boyfrend at this age, i my self am 14, and im waiting till im sixteen, its the proper age, and sex is only appropriate wen u do it with some one u REALLY trust, and kno, and someone u love, not a crush. if she does, she will regret it, he will probably tell ppl that ur frend is a slu t
2006-09-12 11:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by Dragonfly :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a tough one. It's hard watching our friends fall isn't it? The only thing I could know is too nonchalantly place a book in her presence to read about first. Hot lines for these things are made for you (the friend) as well as her. Try calling one up. Sorry couldn't give any references.
2006-09-12 11:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
join in for the ride! btw im sure theres a health manual in ur school. print out the section about sex and slip it in her panties before she leaves. that'll break the mood! and then she wont have sex. either that or attatcdh the fart button to her pants and every 30 seconds or so make it fart. ah yeah.
2006-09-12 11:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask I think you already know the answer....
Geesh.... babies trying to be adults. When they ever learn!?
Tell her MOM...anything you say will only create a problem between you and her... Tell a Teacher... but don't just do nothing. If you are a friend, make it count.
2006-09-12 11:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhhh...........she should wait till shes at least 18 to do that stuff i would tell the boys parents about it and let them handle not the girl shes alrady been abused by her family so what makes u think if u tell the girls parents they wont abuse her again.
2006-09-12 11:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by comediankid4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋