Don't know when could be any time or two weeks, depends on his condition. Also he may survive but lose both legs, he said this morning he doesn't want to live without legs.
2006-09-12 11:21:58 · 12 answers · asked by LAUGHING MAGPIE 6 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
All the answers posted so far are very good answers. I'd like to add helping both your friend and his wife maintain a sense of humor. I have Cystic Fibrosis and had a bi-lateral lung transplant two years ago as a result. I can tell you from personal experience there is a LOT of relief in laughing and the medical field has plenty of material. Also, try to make your friend feel human and not as just a medical case.
2006-09-12 13:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Newlungs2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in Canada contact the war amps, they have many programs for amputees. The VA in the US must have similar type programs.
People often think when they become disabled that their life is over and they won't be able to do anything or work or go to school , play etc. Hopefully his doctors and therapists will find him a support group to help him work out his grief over losing his legs.
Remind him about Terry Fox and what he did with a prothesis . And how in many countries of the world they still hold Terry Fox runs for Cancer.
What you can do for him /his wife. Be there for them. Don't start showing up less and less because he make you' comfortable'. Treat like you always did. Encourage your friends to do the same thing, he 's no different really just minus his legs.
You might think of raising money for a wheelchair for him if he decides not to use prothesis. Not all insurance companies cover wheelchairs and the electric ones can be very expensive. Contact some service clubs to see if they will help defray the costs.
Have a dinner dance or just a dance in his honour. See if you can get people to donate their time , maybe the hall , maybe even the dinner. Advertise it all over the place- local newspapers, radio stations , tv stations.
Any little bit helps, but just being there , helping out where you can is the biggest thing you can do.
2006-09-12 18:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just simply be there for both of them. Sit with him so his wife can have a break to shower, eat, go for a walk, etc. Do they have kids? If so offer to watch the kids or drive them to activities. Water their plants if they have any, take care of their pets if they have any. Fetch things they might need from home while they are at the hospital. People who have legs often say they won't want to live if they lose them, but after the surgery most realize that they can live. Just be prepared for his anger and possibly depression if he does lose his legs. Research prosthetics and let him know about new strides they are making. Let him know how much you and other friends and family love and care about him and how much his wife and everybody else needs him. Good Luck, you sound like a good friend, and ultimately good friends are what will get him through this.
2006-09-12 18:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I went through some major surgeries & it can be scary to face physical changes. Life doesn't end just because a person has to endure painful changes, a good support group may be helpful to them. I had a lot of ppl praying for me & it really helped! I recommend you pray for them both & just be there to listen. It totally helps to have a friend close-by when u go through something so traumatic. God bless you.
2006-09-12 18:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sheryl R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people say they don't want to live without legs, until they are faced with the reality, then they very much want to live. The instinctive drive to stay alive is stronger than most people give themselves credit for.
The hospital and his doctors are responsible for making sure he gets what he needs. But you could be enormously helpful to his wife by seeing to it that she eats regularly, and that she gets adequate rest. Offer to spell her at the hospital so she can get something to eat, or go home and shower and rest for a while.
2006-09-12 18:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you can do is be a friend. Be there to help. Offer to babysit and prepare meals. organize other friends to help. Someone should be with the wife during sugery. All you can do is give this kind of support and be there for him and his wife to vent, cry, whatever.
2006-09-12 18:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by world traveler 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be a support for the wife as she is giving all her energy to the husband.
2006-09-12 18:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by joalteeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them how you can help. Maybe just listening, maybe going to dr appts with them, maybe watching the kids...ask them what they need most, and of course, be a friend.
2006-09-12 18:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Katyana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u sould do if pray pray by your self and with the family that everything will be ok even if u dont belive in god just pray and he will help you no matter what and he will bless you
2006-09-12 18:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by lucay charm 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be there for them and support them in the decisions they make
2006-09-12 18:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋