If she finds her fufillment at home where is she failing?I do work outside of my home currently but at night. Many people presume I am "just a housewife." I plan on staying home fulltime as of January of next year. I have told many of my female friends who seem to think I am slapping women's lib and all those women in the face. Why are these women not treated equally as those who choose to work outside of the home?
2006-09-12 11:21:01 · 41 answers · asked by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
When I choose to stay at home to parent my kids my parents nearly had a stroke. "Men are suppose to WORK!"
My thinking was it is the one thing that is going to outlast me and is the most important job I can do.
So it is no better for a guy.
Pabs
2006-09-12 11:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by Pablito 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Great question! Ppl say to me all the time, "You have a B.A. and you stay home? What a waste..." This is very rude. Some women work because they need or want to. I respect that as their decision.
Women's lib is really getting quite frightening. Equal rights are important, but within reason! If a woman firefighter shows up and has to carry my 295 lb, 6'4" husband down a ladder in a fire... Is there a woman that could actually do that???!!
2006-09-15 17:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by Rapunzel XVIII 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the feminist movement messed it all up for housewives. they consider being a housewife the female equivalent of a cop out... they figure that to stay at home means that you are lazy and assume that you are of no real use to society. they value being paid in money, not the praise of your husbands or guests. they think that your satisfaction over a job well done at home is no more than a symbol of your desperation for male attention. they see being dependent on a man as a bad thing. yet i would much rather take care of my children (when God blesses me with them) than work a full time job... why, housewives could say of those who drop their children off at daycare or preschool: "what a cop out! she doesn't take care of her own children!"
don't get me wrong. i understand that there are circumstances in which a woman has no choice but to work to make ends meet. i also understand that some women just would genuinely prefer to work, and are still excellent mothers. the people I'm talking about here are the ones that get divorced as often as they change their underpants because their husbands are "not compatible" with them and never stop to think that marriage might involve compromise. it's not a cop out to love your husband, and if you express that by caring for your children, cleaning the house, and cooking dinner, then nobody should tell you otherwise.
2006-09-12 11:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by jenn w 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Some people fail to see how much work is done by "just a housewife." I work outside the home full-time and find it difficult to find time for household chores at times, so I certainly appreciate that with children, there would be even more work to do in the home. Personally, I think a stay-at-home mom is the hardest job one can have - one reason I've chosen not to have children at this stage in my life.
2006-09-12 11:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by JenV 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When I was a stay at home mom with my first two kids, I ran into some condescending attitudes at my church from women of my mother's generation. Their attitude seemed to be, "We worked so hard to achieve the right to be taken seriously in the workplace, now you go and decide you want to go back to being June Cleaver!" I am now a mom who works outside the home; it doesn't bring me any more or less happiness -- just a better paycheck! :) My answer to people is that there are many phases and stages in a person's life and it is nice to experience all the different roles a woman can hold. Good luck!
2006-09-12 11:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Chickyn in a Handbasket 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have been a housewife for 15 yrs now and I love it
I do not see it as a flaw but a joy.
I do not have no skills as I am a dietary assistant have been a CNA(in high school), as well as I am a Sunday School teacher, seamstress and writer. I also home school my 2 boys grades 5 and 8. I don't have time for a job even if I wanted one and I don't.
And as far as the woman's lib goes they can get over it. They make their chooses and I have made mine, and I will not condemn them for their decision, I see no reason why they worry about mine. I know some do not have a chose and bless them in their life, but those who do need to remember it is the chose that they fought for originally.
2006-09-12 11:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Noble Angel 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
good question deb, well i am also a at home mom, but i would love to work. only to have time for myself and get a little extra income into the home, but i am at home as a at home mom out of necessity , but being an at home mom is also work it not just sitting watching TV and cleaning the house, while the kids are at school. i work at home with a hobbiess, a hobbie i pray will later make money. a house wife has such a broad definition and a broad range of work in itself. we just don't get paid for it.
the main point is you have a choice, no other woman has right to claim those rude commits about you. those woman who said that do they have a husband to support them? they just don't see that a man in the house should be the money maker, unless they can not physically work. or if the husband choose the reverse role that fine with me too. woman's lib is by choice not a disrespect to it for choosing to be a housewife.
i just want to work for fun money, for extra help for the house and to have a job experience so that if something did happen to my hubby(god forbid) i would have something to help get that job. i would even do volunteer work to have a break from the kids and help others in the process. i don't drive(long story there) so i don't get out of the house much.
2006-09-12 11:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by angelchele 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what other people think. Do what is right for you and you're family. Circumstances change all the time and you never know what tomorrow will bring.I worked while my kids were small, and beleive me, if I had the chance to do it all over, I would choose differently. I think it's so wonderful that you will be able to stay home. I'm sure many women would if they could.
2006-09-12 11:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OH hun you and I seam to be on the same page today. I totally agree with you. I dont want to say my true feelings as why they treat us like that cause Im afraid I will upset one too many working women. I know some who wish they could stay at home and some who would rather they be the man in the family. So I can only speculate.
2006-09-12 11:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Just remind them that your children are more important to you than any political cause. That should hit home. Besides it’s only a slap to woman’s lib if you feel you are not capable of doing anything else. You seem like an intelligent woman, you’re capable of many things, and your making an intelligent choice to do this one thing for a while.
Best wishes
2006-09-12 11:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by daisyk 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
people dont understand its a hard job to be a mother and keep up the house and for some women who can afford to stay home, it's a blessing! plus you have time for your children, and a recent study shows that moms that stayed at home during their children's childhood had kids that were more well rounded, better socializers and were less likely to do drugs or drink alchohol in the future. tell your friends it's what you want and that it's not going to be easy because of household chores and things you have to get done. I know people sometimes dont understand, but being a stay at home mom is great... dont listen to them!
2006-09-12 11:26:07 · answer #11 · answered by 128333 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋