she refuses to accept any1 dating her dad. whats the best way to handle this at least until shes comfortable?
2006-09-12 11:04:55 · 24 answers · asked by 1234567890 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Do not push her. Tell her that you care for her dad deeply and you really want this to work. Do not try and take care of her, at this point she is still her dads responsibility. You have not been around long enough yet. Do not discipline her or try and make her like you. Hopefully if you just let her know where you are coming from and that you are not leaving, she will eventually come around. Don't rush it. Whens she's ready you will know.
2006-09-12 11:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by edge 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give her time and she will eventually come around. I was about her age when my mother started dating again. Now that I think back on how I behaved I am embarrassed. I never let her have a good time with anyone and would make up reasons for her to come home. If she tried to stay home with a date and watch a movie I would be right in the middle. It always seemed to be a problem for most of the men she dated until she met the man who is now my stepfather. He would just tickle me to death or something like my dad would have done. I think that made it easier because I knew that he really like me...he didn't think it was a problem. He would also take my mom on dates where they could bring my sister and I along with them...like a family. So I guess you could try to include her sometimes that way she won't feel like she is being left out. Show her love but don't let it seem like you are taking over and talk to this man about it and see what he thinks. Good Luck.
2006-09-12 11:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hopefully by now his daughter has at the very least been introduced to you. If not then I can understand her feelings. She is 10, and around that age girls get semi "crushes" on their dads. It has nothing to do with incest it is just when the girls start thinking of their dad as the role model for what they will be looking for in a man. She likes the idea of being the only "woman" in her father's life and like any female doesn't like thinking another women is going to replace her. I suggest taking it slow and maybe you and her getting some one on one time doing "girl" things.
2006-09-12 20:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i went through the same situation when i was her age and my dad started dating. I was just jealous of her and wanted my dad for myself only. I think the first thing is that the dad has to talk to her and explain to her what is going on. He needs to assure her that bc he's dating you doesnt mean that he's not gonna care anymore about the daughter. One thing you can do, is try to get her to trust you. Take her out for ice cream, or do something fun with her, so that she can start to like you. She only needs to know you more and get your trust. Also, this is very important, don't kiss your man in front his daughter for a while until you gain her trust. That used to make me furious. Believe it or not, it is very hard for the child to confront the fact that parents need to move on.
Good luck!! and be patient, it takes a lil while.
2006-09-12 11:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you're not that guy in the picture wanting to date her dad, cause you'll have to do better than a makeup kit in a Louis Vuitton bag to make her like you. If you're a woman and that's just someone else's picture, then try and win her over by kindness and then give her time. It's a simple solution, but does the job.
2006-09-12 15:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait...So are you gay?
I have nothing against homosexuals but I know that if I were a 10 yr old girl, I wouldn't want my father to be dating a man. I wouldn't want him dating another woman either but especially man.
(The reason why I think you're a homosexual is because your photo is of a man and your other questions and answers are as a man.)
2006-09-13 08:07:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advise I can give is what worked for me. That was try not to be intimate like touching, hugging or kissing around her till she excepts the fact that he has moved on with someone other then her mother. I am and have been in a blended family and all I can say is be patient when children are involved.
2006-09-12 11:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He should only date you away from his daughter. After only 6 months you're still a "maybe" and shouldn't be involved with his child at this stage.
He should date you if he wants but you shouldn't have anything to do with his daughter. She should always come first.
2006-09-12 15:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me at this point, this is between her and her father and would be best "handled" by him. The only thing you need to do at this point is to remain calm and accepting of her feelings...its hard for some children to learn to share their moms and dads with new people.
2006-09-12 11:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by Amy B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it would be the best if u try commnicate with the daughter first....make her slowly feel comfortable with u...den she will start loving u slowly and accept u...dun date too often wif the dad in front of her as she might feel that her dad doesn't wan her and has been ignoring her most of the time jus to be with you...
2006-09-12 16:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋