i am a mother of a 2 year old who will be 3 next month her name is Isabella and i love her too death. I honestly never thought i could ever love someone this much. But i am afraid my parents did most of her raising for me this is my last year of college and my parents have decided to retire not too far still in the tri-state area. I have an apartment (rented)and my parents covered my tuition thus far and still do. I have a job part time i make about 800 dollars a week it pays for my books and anything else i may need but am concerned this might not be enough. The area the apartment is in does have frat houses and the like one is next door. For the most part they keep it down. My daughter has been with me living for three days and crys a lot today i was called out of class to go pick her up from daycare. How can i help her adapt better?
2006-09-12 10:43:44 · 10 answers · asked by cassandra h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am trying my best and my boyfriend of almost a year would like to meet her but i am not sure how she will react ?
2006-09-12 10:46:06 · update #1
Before this i saw my daughter on the weekends when i came home and the summer.
2006-09-12 10:47:37 · update #2
yes i really do make that much the small buisness i work for is owned by my aunt.
2006-09-12 10:49:50 · update #3
When youre with her, show her as much attention as you can. I think she'll calm down and get used to where shes at soon. Make her as comfortable as you can. Itll get easier for you. Dont worry.
2006-09-12 10:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little hard for me to answer this unbiased. . . but I will try.
I hope that by asking this, you really are wanting to figure out what to do, because this is not good that your daughter is nearly three, and she's been taken away from the only things she knows as home and a family. Even though you're a student, you're more importantly a mom. It sounds like up until now, you've been a part-time mom. I also don't understand how you've had a boyfriend for a year, and he's never met her. It sounds like you've been spending time with him when you could have been spending time with your daughter. There have been many mistakes that you've made, but that's okay because that's how you learn.
Good for you for going to school and not letting your being a mother get in the way. But don't mistake me . . . you need to stop allowing school of getting in the way of your being a mother. Your child's life has been altered, although you may not like it, she doesn't really know you well. You need to spend as much time with her as possible. Plan things that will be fun for her, play games with her. And if you want to keep this boyfriend, introduce her to him. You shouldn't be scared as to how he will react because this is your life. He will either take it or leave it. And, make sure you don't let him think he can have you, but not the kid . . .you are a package now.
Good luck
2006-09-13 11:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sera B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will adapt it may take a while she is used to being with her grandparents at there house right? She needs her time to adapt her way. My son used to say he wanted to go home when we moved to a different house, he didnt realize this is his home, he got over it in about a month. Just give her time and do fun things around the house with her so she adapts well. Do you have some of her things that she had while she was there that might help to it may make her feel more at home.
2006-09-12 18:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shoulda thought about how you would impact an innocent child's life by abandoning her and giving her to your parents.
She's crying because she doesn't know you. You aren't her mother. You may have given birth, but you didn't take care of her when she was scared, you didn't give her a bath at night, read her a bedtime story or any of the other things a mother does.
Give her back to her real mother before you screw this kid up even more.
2006-09-12 17:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by ChemGeek 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She'll get better as she gets more comfortable with you and the apartment. Not alot of children deal well with change. The best thing you can do for her is to be patient and make sure that there is lots of contact with your parents so that she understands that they are not gone altogether. As for finances, there are alot of parents who make do on alot less than $800 a week.
2006-09-13 13:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by lynnca1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing you can do for your daughter now is to love her. Sounds like she needs a routine and to stick with it. I'm sure she misses her grandparents too. Make sure you let her talk to them on the phone. You probably don't want to let them visit just yet because then she'll just have separation issues again. Tell her how much you love her and how much her grandparents miss her too, but she'll be living with you now. I have a 4 and 7 year old myself, and I'm never exactly sure how much they understand but I think they feel better knowing what's going on.
2006-09-12 17:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by leonacary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean, but have you considered adoption? Perhaps you just arent at a stage in your life where your child can take first place. Also, going from one boyfriend to another to another is really not good for a young female child's development. Perhaps you have issues you need to sort through.
Search your heart and decide what is right for Isabella.
2006-09-12 19:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by pbintoau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you have your hands full. But any mother does, right? You have to treat this situation like you would if you had a new born because you don't know each others habits and likes yet.
Just take the time to get to know her before you introduce her to anyone new because she is probably scared. Just think about how you felt your first few days away from your parents for the first time.
And yes I know that she isn't away from her parents but she is away from her comfort zone. I agree with leonacary, she just needs to have a routine and stick withit.
2006-09-12 18:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
juz imagine, if u r ur daughter, do u tink u will cry? wil u b afraid of someone everyone ask her to call mummy n yet she arent with u at times u need her? i tink its time for u to do something..
children at young age tend to b dependent on those bside them.. u arent spendin enuff time with her.. u n ur bf may consider taking days off to bring her out a day or two..spend sufficent time with her.. let her noe that u wil b there for her whenever she needs u..u may tink that kids doesnt noe all these, but u r wrong..
2006-09-12 23:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have a part time job and makin' $800.- a week??????? ok i believe ya lolol
2006-09-12 17:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by ★HigHTƹcH★ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋