Not too serious a question: Do you EVER for even a moment think that the feminists have ruined it for us?

Question

I mean we women did not trade on set of duties for another, We still care for the children, the home, and now we must work too. I for one would prefer if I could afford to be a stay at home wife and mother. I like doors opened for me, heavy packages carried for me, and all the deference that men in the South still show ladies.

Answer 1

I do not think it has ruined us. I have worked as a heavy equipment operator. 13 hours a day in the hot sun, I deserve the same pay, I did the same job, and did it as well if not better than some of the men.
I myself am a southern girl, when the dirt is washed off, doors are still opened for me, packages carried.
The problem I see is that many women do not behave in a manner that encourages men to want to pamper them. (JMHO)

Blessings )O(

Answer 2

I don't think the feminists did that... place women in the workplace in that sense. It's our economy that has done that. Though, the more fanatical feminists have definitely given the rest of "feminism" a bad name. Being feminists used to mean wanting to vote and have equal rights as the men... for which I am glad those women fought for it. I also agree with paying a woman the same as a man, WHEN she is equally qualified for the job. But not just because she's a woman... which is what a lot of this modern feminist movement is about.

I have never worried about someone opening doors for me or carrying heavy packages (unless they're too heavy...). ^_^

Answer 3

Women work very hard raising children and caring for the home without the added pressure from work. My husband works two jobs and goes to school... I work, go to school, and take care of our children and feel like I have two full-time jobs. So I agree that it is a wonderful feeling when a doors is opened for you... and when someone offers you help with a heavy package.

My sister-in-law stays home with her children and even homeschools them. I would give anything to be able to do that. If I could stay at home and concentrate solely on caring for our children, my husband, and our home, I would be the happiest person on the earth.

Realitsically, yes, I do think the feminists have ruined it for us. Not only are we as women expected to go out and work and support our families, but we get paid significantly less than men to do so.

Actually, I hate any group of people with a name that ends in "ist"... communists, fascists, extremists, feminists.

Answer 4

My wife had an interesting point on feminazis last night. She said "why is it always the ugly women who devote themselves to thinking like that?" I never thought of it like that either, but was surprisingly on the mark. I know I didn't answer your question, but then again I am not qualified because I am a man (gasp). Oh, and I open doors and carry all the bags. I even do that for strangers (well, I will hold the door open, but not run up and open a car door, you get the idea). And I am not from the South. Manners are almost dead though. Quite sad :(

Answer 5

Abso- flippin- lutely!!!!!!!!

I am lucky enough right now to be a stay at home mother. Not that we can afford for me to, but because with 4 children day care is a bit expensive. BUT......

1. It has changed the roles between men and women. Alot of women have taken over the role of being the "head" of the house. Calling the shots. (with this being said, I am not at all talking about women who have no other choice because their is no man in the house. Single mom situations)

2. Our divorce rate is greatly higher since the women's lib movement. Women got tired of being the housewife. They got tired of the husband being in charge of the family. They got tired of being "ladies". There is a difference between being a female, a woman and being a LADY.

3. It has also hurt the mind frame of men who grew up during that time period until now. Disagree with me all you want, but I am right. 50 years ago, men were quite content with being head of the house. The "bread winner". Now the majority of men have been taught that the bread winning should be 50/50. And he has the mind frame of " Well if I have to work, then so do you". Either that or, makes the woman get a job while he becomes a dead beat.

4. It took away from the morales that women should have and did have at one time. You don't have to get married. You can just live together. You don't have to keep yourself for your future husband. (I'm not naive enough to think that ALL women 50 years ago were pure when they got married. But let's face it, pure women at marriage anymore is almost unheard of)

So yes, I do believe that for the most part, the feminist movement ruined the society of women.

Answer 6

Totally agree. I am not one of those live in the dark ages kind of women. I am all for my husband helping with the kids, cooking, and cleaning. But, I believe that my role as a wife and mother is important and taking care of my house hold is my most important job.
I just quit my 50+ hour a week job in May to go back to being a stay at home mom, (can't really afford it but could not afford not to). I am not ashamed to say that my place is in the home. I know what it is like for my kids to have to keep up with my busy schedule. I know what it is like to send my kids to school when they are sick so that I would not miss an important meeting. I want more than that for them. I can tell you first hand since I came back home I have seen a significant improvement in their behavior as well as an improvement in their grades. They help out more and are happier. It was selfish for me to try to do everything and juggle our lives....it was not working. I hate struggling financially but when we asked our kids if they would rather me go back to work so that they could have the things that they wanted they preferred me to stay home and do without.

Answer 7

Yeah, that's definitely a mixed bag. On one hand I'm really grateful that I can get work, and that I was able to get an education, that I can have female doctors, and all of that.

On the other hand, it has created a culture of a two income household where the woman still somehow ends up taking care of everything in the home, and it's really exausting.

My husband and I are truly hoping that we can get to the point where we can afford to have me stay home with children. I'm saddened that that sort of thing has become a luxury.

Answer 8

In all honesty, I still believe we're better off working for equality. The sexes don't have to be the same to be treated equally in dignity and rights. Men can still hold doors open for women, but we should also help cook, clean, and parent our kids a little more often, too. Women can still be women without losing their right to be treated with respect and receive an equitable wage.

love the lord wrote: "I think a woman can be equal and still choose to be a Wife and Mother first then a career when her children are raised if she chooses."

I agree completely. Women no longer have to simply accept the roles thrust upon them by society. They are playing an active role in shaping those roles. They at last have some freedom of choice.

Answer 9

Amen sister. I wish this generation would see how important a mother is to the family. I wish that values from the past would be taught, so women had a true choice on how she wants to live her life. A fulfilled homemaker and mother supporter of her family. Or a FULL time Homemaker and worker outside the home. I believe our child would be better off if we could be with them while they need us.

TO PALADIN. I think a women can be equal and still choose to be a Wife and Mother first then a career when her children are raised if she chooses.

Answer 10

Most women do in fact tend to prefer the lifestyle and attitude of a woman that you describe, but not all, so it is good that feminism has given the ever-increasing minority of women the choice to be themselves.
However, today's more advanced cultures like Europe and America have taken the ideas of feminism too far, making women's' right to choose as or even more important than women themselves.