Specifically for all the parents that beleive in "Child centered parenting". When do you take the time out for you? Do you eat when you are hungry? Do you drink when you are thirsty? Do you pee and poo when you have to go? Do you just suffer through these basic biological necessities and devote 100% of your waking hours to your offspring?
I'm not trying to sound smart this time. See, this has been the purpose of my 3 previous questions today. To try and understand your method of thinking so that I can be more educated. I personally have found it dangerous, and next to impossible as well to drink a hot cup of coffee while holding a baby. Same principle with hot food.
I personally give you women 2 thumbs up if you truly devote 100% of your wake hours to your baby/kids, and are still of sound mind and body while doing so. I'll proudly accept the title of being a lesser mother than you based on this virtue because I need some me time daily, and I will take it as needed.
Thanks.
2006-09-12 10:38:16 · 10 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
There is no way that you can devote 24/7 to your kid/s. You can't do it. It wont hurt that kid to be by itself in its crib/room/timeout chair/ for 10-15 minutes a day. Get a baby sitter--- treat yourself to some ice-cream WITHOUT the kid/s. Its not going to kill them. You're not a bad mother because you take out time for you. Half the people in the world wouldn't be, if their parents didn't take a break when they needed one.
2006-09-12 10:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by Zephyr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very glad and so proud of you, that you will be the next president of the United States, Madam President no one on the face of the earth can devote 100% of their wake hours to any person baby or adult, so you can save your 2 tums up,When I am hungry I eat, I also drink when I am thirsty,I also pee and poo when I have to. I drive and drink a hot cup of coffee, Madam President it is not impossible to walk and drink a hot cup of coffee, I agree with you that it may be dangerous to some people to walk and drink a cup of hot coffee if they are not wearing their bullet proof vest.
2006-09-12 11:05:46 · answer #2 · answered by boy_jam_arch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids. I drink coffee in the morning. When they were infants I would put them down to drink coffee. Obviously coffee is hot. Now they are 4 and 2 and in to everything. I no longer have privacy at all during the day. If I need to use the bathroom and my husband is not home, they come with me. The only time I have for myself is when they are in bed. I am a stay at home mom because I want to be with my kids. If I need a break I say ok lets sit down for a few and relax. Every mother needs some time for themselves.
2006-09-12 10:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always some time during the day or evening for you. Babies do take naps, take one too, or get things done that you need to. Don't worry about being called a bad parent, every child and every mother is different. You will survive. Have some patience.
2006-09-12 10:54:10 · answer #4 · answered by valerie t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one final answer for now. That's a bunch of cra..p. If you center your life around the child, then you end up childish.
Same thing applies to schools: lock up a 5yo kid for 8 hours a day with 5yo kids, and what he learns is how to be a 5yo kid. You have to live an adult life that is real, and the kid's job is to follow you around and bother you and learn how to be an adult. You let them play and explore up to limits that change as you learn to trust them. Give and take, learn and live.
It isn't all that complicated. You seem to have the inkling of knowing bull when you see it. Go ahead and say so, you are probably right, since you are the one doing the thinking and not raising your child according to a binder.
2006-09-12 10:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! I believe that a lot more women want more time to themselves, but feel guilty so they do nothing about it. I think in order to have a happy home, your first priority has to be YOUR happiness. Then should come the relationship with your wife/husband. If you are happy yourself, it will make it easier for the relationship between husband and wife to happy. And last but not least is your kids. I know I'll get crap for this becuase most women live their lives completly the other way. But if you are happy, which helps make your marriage happy, that will in turn affect your children's happiness. Good for you for taking you time. If you didn't who knows if you would be able to take such good care of your kids?
2006-09-12 10:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sera B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real life does not revolve around you or your child. If you are with your child 24/7 he/she will likely have separation anxiety or attatchment problems when they need to go to school. Children need to learn how to play by themselves, how to enter into play groups of their peers, etc. on their own (social development). They need to learn how to sooth/settle themselves, and how to play by themselves - it's part of growing up/developing skills.
Make sure you set boundaries/limits for your child - when you don't they will push you until they are set - they will test you to see how far they can get. All children do this. When no limits are set you will see tantrums and very negative behaviour.
Read the book "Dare to Disciplin" By Dr. James Dobson. It's an awsome book.
2006-09-12 11:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by snowy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt devote 100% attention to my son. You have got to have time for yourself. Your child does not need you all of the time anyway.
2006-09-12 10:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by ~~ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bravo!
I've seen enough women completely lose their self identity because of kids, they neglect themselves, neglect their husbands, and the end results were not pretty. BALANCE is the key.
2006-09-12 10:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you answer my question and i have only asked my question once thanks 4 the 2 pts
2006-09-12 15:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋