What does Catholic church think about becoming engaged then breaking up?

Question

Also what do they think about living together (boy girl) w/ only engaged status (but no sex!)

Answer 1

There is no sin in being engaged and then breaking up. I don't think the Church says one thing or another on this matter.

As for living together as Christian brother and sister, I can relate! Although I had no intention of living with my fiance before we were married, my roommate had somewhat of a mental breakdown. When things got to be to a certain level of *bad,* my fiancee and I went and talked to the priest we were doing our marriage preparation with. Even before I could ask, he told us, "The Catholic Church is only against sex before marriage--not just living in the same home!"
We decided because of the outside circumstances, that we would live in the same house for about 3 or 4 months before we married. I slept in one bedroom, he in the other. For us, I had three worries:
1. That living in such close quarters might be an occasion of sin. My fiancee was so good about not tempting me, that it really didn't become an occasion of sin for us. We kept God at the center of our relationship.
2. That our living together before marriage might be a scandel to others. Well, we did our best to let everyone know that we were living together as Christian brother and sister so I think we avoided this as best we can. An unforeseen consequence was that aquaintances that we did not know well could not have known this about us and I still wonder if we caused them scandel.
3. That somehow our marriage would be less special because we had alread lived together. Now, having been married for about 8 months, I can say that our marriage is not less special. I do think moving my stuff in was less happy and special than it could have been--but in a way, that was out of my hands due to the circumstances with my roommate.

If I didn't have the roommate and financial issues that I had, I think that I would have liked to live separately before marriage. But things being the way they were, I think God saw that we were striving to perserve His teachings and I beleve He blessed us for that. I feel very happy and blessed in our marriage now.

I hope that helps! God Bless!

Answer 2

The Catholic Church sincerely wants every marriage to be happy and successful.

It is always better for a couple to break up before getting married rather than after.

With love in Christ.

Answer 3

I would say living together would be a near occasion of sin. Hard to keep from doing so. As for engagement it is not a problem unless one goes and marries and then breaks up.

Answer 4

since you are not having sex, you would be questioned why you are living together. in the informational guide listed below here is one quote:
"We in the Rcc believe that sexual intimacy finds its true home in marriage: a public, faithful, exclusive commitment to each other, and an equally important lifelong commitment to the children who may be created go rm this marriage."
"Cohabitation means living together in a sexual relationship when not married."

yours is a rather unique case 0 as you say you are not sexual with each other. that is no easy challenge i'm sure. i wish i had a better answer, i would say - ask your priest for more in depth answers.

God Bless

Answer 5

Better get ready to gargle the holy water....