almost everyone at my schoolhas already lost their virginity. I have no direct pressure to do it ,but really want to is it wrong to give it away to my best friend (and former boyfriend)
2006-09-12 10:00:46 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, terribly wrong. Everyone at your school is insane, or brainwashed (as is anyone here who agrees with it). And you too, if you believe it.
How DARE you tell her go for it.
2006-09-12 10:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very very wrong. Anyone can "love" you for the ten minutes it takes to use you for their orgasm. Besides, the first time is awkward, uncomfortable and you will not have an orgasm. You won't even come close. You need to share that with an adult (your own age!), when you have established a clear identity, and fallen in love with someone you see as suitable for marriage (or after marriage, I don't care). When you fall in love, really in love, you will regret having put your virginity on the "Clearance" rack. To even suggest giving your virginity away under the circumstance you've described, means that you have some serious soul-searching and maturity to do. That is a GOOD thing; enjoy your youth! You need to elimnate complications wherever you can, because growing up is tough enough. Don't pollute your mind and soul with junk that has no place in your life right now.
2006-09-12 10:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by georgia b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No 13-14 years previous isn't a sensible age to lose your virginity. this is better to save it for the destiny once you get married. Your husband/spouse might want to take care of you significantly better, they'd sense extra chuffed and pay you with extra understand. 13-14 years isn't something. in case you've been a woman, what in case you acquire pregnant? WHAT IF? I recommend, the probabilities are intense really intense in case you at the on the spot are not on birth control or something. And plus, do you concentration on the consequences? some childrens do in basic terms not care, and what outcomes? nicely, something not pleasant. if you're asking this, you at the on the spot are not waiting for it, you at the on the spot are not waiting to face the outcomes. i'm 16, and that i have not lost it yet, and under no circumstances going to each and every time quickly. in case you develop into pregnant, what are you going to do? I recommend heavily, provide up college? this is going to smash your existence. 13-14 is unquestionably not the right time. Too youthful. Too risky. Too immature.
2016-11-26 20:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex will never make a man love you. Wait until you´re married, even if you´re not religious (I´m Catholic, but that´s not really the reason why I´m waiting). Think about it this way. What´s the best gift you can give your husband on your wedding night? YOUR VIRGINITY. He will feel sooooo special that you haven´t been around and slept with other guys. He will admire you for your self-respect and high morals. I´m not putting anybody down who has pre-marital sex because most of my friends have and that´s a personal choice, but only 3% of the population waits until they are married to have sex. By waiting, you will also show that you are unique and you don´t fall into peer pressure. Any man who can´t understand this isn´t worthy of you. Most people regret not waiting for "the one" (notice I said MOST, not ALL), and by "the one", I mean the man you´re going to spend the rest of your life with. Forget about the whole, "I need to test-drive the car before I buy it" stuff. How can you compare a woman to a car? Your husband, whether he is a virgin or a non-virgin, will have his whole life to teach you about sex. Why not learn it from him? Trust me, he (your future husband) will be honored.
2006-09-12 10:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're going to get a lot of negative feedback on that, like "wait until marriage!" or "don't succumb to peer pressure!", but it's not going to be from me because I am about your age and see the same thing happening all the time.
If it feels right, do it. He's your best friend and most of the kids are age who do it are pressured into doing it or do it with someone they don't truly care about, and won't for a long time... but if he's still your best friend after being your boyfriend, than you guys definitely have a special relationship and should go for it. Losing it to someone you don't care about would be a huge mistake, so it's better to do it now and not regret it than in your first week of college with someone you don't care about. I'm not saying sleep around, of course, lol... but if you want to experience it and your relationship is that special by all means go for it.
Good luck.
2006-09-12 10:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Justine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think thats the mistake that the whole world makes,i lost my virginityvery young just so that I could be loved, but i regret it, because I just jumped in to it without thinking whether me or this person were gonna be a long term thing and we werent ( so it was a waste of my virginity LOL LOL) no it want that bad but I would have liked to given it to a person who thought that it meant something, rather then a quicky, think carefully!!!!
2006-09-12 10:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES it's wrong! That is one of the biggest most personal gifts that you can give someone. Your body is precious and worthy of being important enough to respect by you or a guy. Trust me, giving it up will not and I repeat not bring you love. Love eventually will bring you to gift someone special with the honor. Giving it will not get someone special for you. Don't disappoint yourself by throwing that opportunity away. You WILL be disappointed if you do.
2006-09-12 10:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by justme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, what's the big deal so everyone in your school is a ho, are you a lemming? Be yourself. Don't give it up to please your friends. that's not being very smart. Love and losing your virginity are not connected, you will lose your virginity by f*cking, love does not enter the equation at all. Be yourself, you are very special, not just one of the Ho's at your school.
2006-09-12 10:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
KATIE, YOU SHOULD NEVER GIVE A PART OF YOUR BODY TO ANYONE JUST BECAUSE EVERYONE IS DOING IT! AND YOU SHOULDN'T DO IT BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE LOVED! THAT'S SOMETHING YOU SHOULD GIVE A MAN BECAUSE HE ALREADY LOVES YOU AND WANTS TO BE WITH YOU FOR YOU!! YOUR BODY IS YOUR TEMPLE AND A MAN SHOULD RESPECT YOU FOR YOU!!! DON'T LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY TO ANYONE JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE INFLUENCING TO BECAUSE THAT'S SOMETHING YOU CAN NEVER GET BACK! HAVING SEX HAS SEVERAL CONSEQUENCES SUCH AS AIDS, STDS, PREGNANCY, AND IF YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND AT THE LAST MINUTE, IT COULD POSSIBLY LEAD TO RAPE!!! DON'T PUT YOURSELF IN THAT TYPE OF SITUATION!! YOU SHOULD HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF AND ANY MAN SHOULD HAVE RESPECT FOR YOU AS WELL!! BEFORE YOU GIVE UP YOUR VIRGINITY TO ANYONE, BE SURE TO THINK IT THROUGH AND TAKE EVERYTHING INTO CONSIDERATION!!
2006-09-12 10:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by angellove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because they have tried it doesnt mean you have to.Have fun first girl before you get too serious with anyone.You can still have good relationships but true love takes time.Ever hear about kissing alot of toads to find your prince?You will be glad that you waited so I hope that you do.
2006-09-12 10:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong is that you think sex is the only way to express love. Love can be expressed many different ways. Sex is not the way to do that at 16. There are so many more meaningful ways to spend your time. You will love many people in your life, and you will not have sex with most of them.
2006-09-12 10:03:51 · answer #11 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋