We had both decided to terminate the relationship due to our age difference and remain as friends. But he cheated on me and came home with a love bite. This happened days before we officially separated.
2006-09-12 09:55:22 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on. You have enough friends.
2006-09-12 09:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Melia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard question to answer.If you two were so in love, age is not for the act of cheating on that special person in your life! It's so hard to love a person sometimes, but it is harder to let them go. Was love for both? It's like holding his hand and you could feel each others heart beat. Friends are true to you and never lie to you! Friend is a strong word and should be 4-life. The question is how do you feel about calling him a friend ? Will it bring back the old times or can you start new ones in your life?
2006-09-12 12:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by touchofgrey35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up with my bf who was 13 years younger than me after a year and a half together. He also cheated on me. We have been back and forth and tried to be friends but as hard as it is to accept it's just not a good idea to be friends with someone who betrayed you. You said that you are hurt which means you are still emotionally attached to him and probably care for him. I feel exactly the same! It seems that I'm never going to get over my ex but time heals all wounds and I think not seeing or talking to him will help you. Remember how he wronged you friends don't treat friends that way. He crossed your path for a reason and taught you something you needed to learn but the right person for you will meet your emotional & physical needs in a healthier relationship. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-13 03:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by denico91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all 13 years is not a bad thing. I'm 41 and my bf is 28, most people meet us and think we are around the same age. (32-26). I would find it very difficult to remain friends with him should we ever decide to split, only because I would have to accept that he is going to see other women. We too have talked about separating due to our age difference, but always decide to heck with other people and are still together. Good luck and I feel for you.
2006-09-12 10:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be dependent upon what his definition of a friend is before making the final decision. Some men want to be friends with their girlfriends to make the split seem better to them in the long run. Also, odds are he will cheat again on a future girlfriend, and it could bring back all those hurt memories again. Also, you remaining a friend could make a future girlfriend uncomfortable once she discovers that you were once a former girlfriend. Overall, I think the best decision in the long run is not to remain friends with your ex boyfriend.
2006-09-12 10:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can it be cheating if you already agreed to end the relationship, at least on a romantic level? Apparently you felt you should have exclusive use of his equipment until he moved out, and he violated the terms of the "rental" agreement.
But if the equipment suffered no damage in the process, what was the harm to you? Remain friends - it was his wish. And perhaps he had in mind making use of your equipment as a friendly gesture from time to time. Don't pretend you didn't have the same inclinations.
2006-09-12 10:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say "days" b4 u officially ened it. then obviously it was alreadt over at that point, should be a big issue. remaining friends should depend on if you two can remain friends after a relationship...some people can some cant...i suggest u ride it out awhile and see what gives, you can't ever have too many friends, but at the same time, don't concede to a friendship, if that love bite really troubles you then distance yourself from him completely for awhile, and mebbe with time the friendship could redevelop
2006-09-12 10:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by mbm052969 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 21:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's young and immature, find someone your own age who will treat you the way you should be treated, like gold! If you want to be friends with him, its hard, both of you would have to work at it, and if there are any hard feelings on your part, its going to be even harder. Honestly I would just move on, it'll get better sooner that way. It'll be really hard for you, I think, when you see him with another girl, you know? I wouldn't bother putting alot of effort into a friendship that probably not going to last, you know? All the best in whatever decision you make Hun
2006-09-12 09:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Hannah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow that is like alot of diffrence. how old are you and how old is he?? because if hes like really young then that explains it because guys are just immature (not all) at that age. soo yea. but the best way to get over someone is to go party with your girls. find a new guy and you will be feeling better in no time. and you should talk to him andtell him how hurt you feel. get your feelings out and you shoould feel better :)
2006-09-12 09:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 13 years younger than you and you can't handle this? What, is he 4 and you're 17?
2006-09-12 09:57:45 · answer #11 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋