I am having trouble potty training my kids?

Question

I have a boy who is 2 1/2 and a daughter who is 1 1/2 and i am having trouble potty training them. I bought a little potty I have tried to sit them down on it for them to go but they refuse, I have tried to leave them with just underwear to feel the difference between dry and wet and I have tried to reward them for going but nothing has worked. Does anyone have any advise for me??

Answer 1

Your one and a half year old will have trouble with potty training but I'll bet once your two and a half year old gets it, the little one will get very interested. I'd focus on the older one right now. I think it's important to make it a no-stress thing. You're experiementing with what works right now and that's good. The same thing won't work for every kid. My two and a half year old will only go to the bathroom if she is completley naked and then gets a gummy bear right away. She's not getting the connection with feeling the urge to go and letting me know she has to go in time. Just keep trying and make it a positive experience for your child. Use rewards, or a special fun bathroom song. Make sure you really talk it up. "mommy and daddy always go to the bathroom on our big potty, you're a big kid now and it's time you started going on your potty. There's a book about getting your child potty trained in one day, it's called "Potty train your child in Just One Day" by Teri Crane. I haven't tried it but I've read about it and it sounds good. Worth a try.

Answer 2

Leave it for another month, then try again. The girl is still a bit young. Leave your son to wander round the house with no pants on so he can see what he produces. Dont shout at him just encourage him happily to try the potty next time if he pees on the floor. But dont force him to sit on it and dont make too much of a big deal My boys were all potty trained this way within a week. My youngest son NEVER sat on the potty. He stood at the toliet to do his pees. He was only 2 years old. He refused to sit on the potty.

Answer 3

Everybody tells me that boys take longer so both of your kids might still be too young. Does your son indicate to you when he is wet or has pooped in his diaper? That is the first sign of being ready for potty training. I think you should give your daughter at least a few months. As far as your son, if he's really resisting it then give up for a few weeks then try again. Buy him books about going to the potty, they have them for boys and girls. My daughter loved reading those books when she was potty training. I would read them to her then she'd take them to her potty chair and sit on it and look at the pictures in the books. Don't worry, it will happen. Just don't be surprised if your girl is potty-trained before your boy!
Oh, and here is what ultimately worked for me, it is called the Dr. Phil one day potty training method or something to that effect. Try typing that into a search engine. (It really worked for us, it took my daughter 2 days instead of one, but that's of little consequence, I was just so happy she was potty-trained). Good Luck.

Answer 4

Do you let them watch mommy and daddy go to the big potty too>> My son was always intrested in the potty, even at 1year I would clap for myself yeah mommy went potty! ( number 1 only..)
and he would get so escited for me so when it came time to potty train, he was done by 1 1/2 and out of pull ups and everything, by 2 and almost a half he was out of pull ups at night! hes almost 3 now...

This was just my experience,

Also go to Dr Phils website, he has supossably a full proof way!

Answer 5

The key is positive reinforcement versus added negative attention when they don't show interest. In addition, your children should be ready physically. Are they waking up dry? If not it's difficult to potty train a child who can't hold his or her urine through the night. Suggest you make a big deal of continually showing your oldest child how many other people he looks up to use the adult toilet. A potty chair in my opinion causes additional dependence. You won't have that when you are in public so why get your kids used to it? I let my son face the back of the toilet versus balancing to defecate and he had a step to urinate standing up. He often watched his father for role modeling and time shaving, brushing teeth etc became father/son time. Encouraging your children's natural desire to mimic adults or other children will take you a lot farther than attempting to force them to use the toilet.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

The 1 1/2 year old is WAY TOO YOUNG and the 2 1/2 year old still isn't ready. Why are you pushing this? Give them both a couple months off - especially that young one!

Answer 8

first of all i want say is if you having a promblem potty trainning you kids just put them either in diaper for a day or just Pampers easy-up or just pull-ups but still change them or just having them be in a diaper for all day skip potty tranning all the way

Answer 9

i am going through the same thing with my 18 month old girl.
good luck!!!

maybe you could buy one of those potties that play music everytime you go. it worked for my other daughter.

Answer 10

I potty trained my 22 month old in 2 days following a technique originally developed to teach retarded adults to toilet themselves. It is totally positive. The psychologists that developed it, Foxx and Azrin, have you use every positive learning technique there is and combine it with "making the opportunity." That means pumping them full of liquids at all costs so they have multiple opportunities under your direct supervision. Meaningful, concentrated training time. Meanwhile you enumerate all the benefits of dry pants, etc.

There are rewards, but you phase them out so the only reward is praise for having dry pants by the time it's over. I've also faded out using the little potty and faded in using the big toilet. The authors provide a readiness test btw.

The training period is supposed to be 4 hours. I tool 10 hours over 2 days. 3 weeks later I hear a flush and "yay!" from the next room and it just makes me smile. I ask her if her pants are dry and tell her she's a big girl and hug her. She asked for a treat initially but I glossed over it and she forgot by the end of the 3rd day. Incidentally, my daughter was on the longest end of their training time. When I simplified the messages even further and cut practice runs from 10 to 3 she was more receptive and got it.

When I say potty trained I mean she runs to the toilet on her own, pulls her pants down, pees or poops, "wipes" (check at night or naps. but mostly unnecessary), pulls up her pants and flushes. Then she runs to tell me proudly that she did all the steps and her grandparents and Big Bird will be so proud. It's amazing, but then again aren't your kids always amazing you? In the training period they carry their pot to the toilet and dump it. Amazingly, that was easy. This technique breaks everything down into manageable steps and uses a pee-pee doll to show the approval a/o disapproval that awaits. A child is capable of each step it's just daunting, of course, to think how to teach it all! Also, they must not dwaddle between the steps. Otherwise, they'd get distracted.

About a week after training she slacked a bit - or maybe got too confident in playing or getting there? - and my impression of the accidents was "Oh that was fun but do I really have to do this the rest of my life?!?!" The answer is yes, so we stepped up glowing approval calls to the g'parents.

She wears pull ups at nap and diapers at night. As the psychologist point out, training them for pee was sufficient because poop is nearly always accompanied by pee. She didn't poop during the training session, but this was a really easy jump to make.

They say the youngest to train is 20 months. They have you do footwork in advance like teaching certain words and how to pull pants up and down. I wish I'd spent more time with that before hand but I was on a deadline of sorts. 3 weeks later my daughter pulls her pants up like a champ.

Here's the scene: just her and I sitting at the dining table - potty in the corner - chatting it up, coloring, reading books. I'm steadily telling her how her heros are dry and use the toilet, how she won't have to wear diapers, etc. I pepper her with Are You Dry (the doll having taught what I mean)? And since the answer is yes I praise her, offer her a drink and maybe a favorite food if she slows down. Or, if it's yes, we color together or read another book. This was most effective because our new baby had been very demanding of my time in the first few months and having my undivided attention was great. Since you are right there together you can see when she's about to pee and you can educate her on the feeling and start connecting it to using the toilet.

Someone took care of my 4 month old the first whole day and the next day it was just lucky timing with his naps. The first day I had successes all morning but failures the rest of the day. She second morning I was about to give up after a double accident. Then I shortened the approach as mentioned above.

Our rule is that *everybody* - parents included - try to pee before leaving. After 2 weeks she accepts it as part of leaving and hustles. Another rule: pee when we get out of bed and before the bath. On entering restaurants we show her "where the ladies potty" and point out how far it is and how to get there from where we're sitting. She has peed and pooped in public several times.

Biggest obstacle: sitting quietly so pee would come. With so much liquids you'd think the urge is irresistable. Nevertheless my daughter held it. I taught her to sigh a few times. I let her take her blankie to the toilet (yucko) during this period. I insisted basicly. Playing and peeing, conversing and peeing do not go together when you are learning. Really ... it comes when they sit quietly. When the phone rang she peed because she was distracted from resisting me and let her guard down. Later the big problem was defining "trying" before leaving. She'd cry because she didn't have to go! She also melted down the first few accidents because she thought she wasn't a big girl and that all the people wouldn't be 'so proud'. This is a useful belief but we softened it by saying don't give up yet.

I understand there are many take-offs on these researchers' methods, but I can't see how any change would be an improvement. Potty party not necessary ... just basking in mama's approval and attention is plenty exciting.