i am going to be in my third year of college and have a three year old son dylan that my parents have been raising for last two years he just turned three and my parents decided to move away and send him to live with me full time. my bf of a year has no idea i have a child . my son know lives with me so it might be akward because my bf has a key to my apartment and i dont ant a suprise? how too tell him and my son?
2006-09-12 09:32:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am afraid of the reaction the relationship has been really good thus far and i love my bf
2006-09-12 09:38:21 · update #1
i was afraid my bf would not be intrested in me anymore how do i introduce him to my son?
2006-09-12 09:39:51 · update #2
kinda never thought of it since my parents cared for him for two years
2006-09-12 09:41:50 · update #3
Why did you let the relationship go on that long and not tell him you have a child. From the moment you realized that the relationship would possibly be long term, you should have mentioned it. I think at this point, you should tell him before he gets there and not just slap it in his face. He would be very angry and just leave and you might never see him again. Maybe if you have a talk with him before he goes back to your place, he might find it easier to grasp the idea of a child being a part of your relationship. He would have time while he is alone to think about it. If you wait until he gets there, he might react a lot differently than you expect as it would be a slap in his face and he might even scare the child with his reaction. That is not fair to the child either. Hopefully, you will learn from this experience that your child should come before anything else and anyone else, so you should not be ashamed to tell anyone you have a child. If the child realizes, as he is growing up, that is what you are doing, he will hate you when he is older because he will feel that you were always ashame of him. That is just wrong, wrong, wrong.
2006-09-12 09:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by killerlegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are a selfish little brat. I have heard you say you love your bf but not your son! Grow up you little snot and do the right thing for a change and raise your child and think of your life second.
2006-09-12 17:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3rd year of college?? That's scary.
Did you use "Check Spelling"? Do you know how to use capital letters?
A boyfriend for a year... and you don't tell him you have a child?
What the h*ll is the matter with you?
You seem to care more about the boyfriend than you do your own child.
I feel sorry for your son.
2006-09-12 16:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Pat K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is interesting, but the only way to get around that is to tell him the truth, but you should have already did that. A lot of guys that I know, including me, love kids and it wont phase him. But to make it sounds a little more sincere, tell him you didnt know how to tell him, because you were afraid of what he might think. But i have one question, how could you keep something that important, a secret???
2006-09-12 16:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by traveling_soldier6784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell him. I can't believe you could have a child and have omitted this fact from this guy. I would say that your relationship is probably over b/c you have this huge of a secret and you didn't tell him, he's going to have some trust issues.
2006-09-12 16:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have told him to start with but you cant go back. so move foward and you need to tell him the truth. and be honest with him about why you didnt say anything. he may be upset that you lied ot him but you have to tell him. it may be hard for him to trust you afterwards but at least you wont be living with this huge lie. besides your son should be important enough to you and you should not be ashamed of that. be happy that you have him. well good luck
2006-09-12 16:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by daddyslilgirl12385 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a loser. How and why would you hide something like this? You don't deserve a son or a boyfriend. You are a sorry excuse for a human being.
2006-09-12 16:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rakin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys would feel that you've been lying to them because he hasnt been informed that you had a kid...
You should tell people these things upfront.
I would tell him that there's something about me that he didnt know and then ease him into that i have a young child and i hope that he can still see me while knowing that i have split responsibilities
2006-09-12 16:37:57 · answer #8 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um..for one you should've already told him because you knew this day would come...he is YOUR son...just do what you gotta do ...and if ur man decides to leave do NOT put him in front of your son...u can always find somebody else who will love u and ur child
2006-09-12 16:38:37 · answer #9 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's more important, your son or your boyfriend? I were your boyfriend, I would dump you because you weren't honest in the first place, not because you have a kid. Grow up!
2006-09-12 16:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by jamfact1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋