Prejiduce from people you don't even know? I am white and he is black. We are both well mannered, well educated, well dressed individuals but we still get dirty looks and wierd stares from people... like when we are in the grocery store or something. One woman even told me to " leave them to thier own kind" right to my face!!! I couldn't believe it. I don't care what other people think but I was wondering how other people have dealt with a problem like this. You would think in this day and age it would be no big deal (wich it really isn't anyway) we are all human right!
2006-09-12 09:31:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I applaud your intelligence and open-mindedness. I agree that you would think that in 2006 there shouldn't be this type of prejudicial behavior...but then that would be a perfect society and we are far from that.... just read some of the statements you find on yahoo answers. That reflect the true mentality of people.... I too date interracially and have for years. I think it was still a crime in some states back when I started....lol.
Who we are attaracted to is not an exact science. But we just need to make sure it is the person on the inside that we are attracted to instead of the outside. You don't mention your age. If you're an adult just live you life. If you are underage... well you have to live with your decisions. But I would recommend talking to your parents. There is a lot to consider. Being subjected to hate is just one of them. Cultural differences and family are others. Best wishes... and have a happy life.
2006-09-12 09:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by john s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say my ladyfriend and I have the same problem, but there are some similarities.
We both have attractive caucasian faces, but I have quite an athletic build, while she is a pleasantly plump BBW. Whenever we are out together, we often get the rudest stares and I know many people believe its just not right for us to be together.
She has a hard time coping with the sneers, but I am in love with her, so have reached the point where it doesn't bother me at all.
I'll tell you what I often tell her: "If we let the thoughts of others bother us, How far will we get in this life?"
We are all the same under the skin.
2006-09-12 09:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in this type of relationship but my mom is white and my step dad is black. My mom went through this a lot and it used to bother her. But she knows now that these people are just not happy themselves and are just trying to ruin your happiness. Some people are just really ignorant minded and will say things just to piss people off. I think it's great that you and your boyfriend are making things work despite the negative feedback. Just keep on going on with what you are doing.
2006-09-12 09:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by peek a boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't experienced it yet, but I will be dating interracially pretty soon. And I say to out rightly ignore them. Because they are the dumb a**es that are making themselves look bad. There are a million things in this world bigger than race and if they are so stupid as to point it out every 5 mins then by far they are the saddest ppl of all. You know that you are happy and that is all that matters, screw the ppl sipping hateraid.
2006-09-12 09:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are in a relationship that is not 'normal', even in this day and age. You can therefore expect to get these reactions. You will get them the rest of your life unless you move to a nation that has a different history then ours (i.e. - where that is the norm). Sad but true.
Good luck.
2006-09-12 09:34:39 · answer #5 · answered by Billy! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who discriminate by the color of people's skin are so stupid. It's just a color, my God. My whole family told me I better not date or marry anything other than white, but I'm married to a Mexican. They don't say anything about it now, but I know they think things bad about me. I always told them I'll marry whoever I fall in love with no matter what race they are.
2006-09-12 09:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I know how u feel with the comments from the different ppl bc the couple is 2 different colors.
How did i deal w/ it? Not caring, and living through it. As long as him and I didn't care that we were different colors-it doesn't matter what other ppl think of us... Don't let other ppl chose your love life. As long as ur in love, nobody else and their opinion matters...
2006-09-12 09:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm white and dated a Pakistani woman and several other "colours". The relationships were great, but you have to learn to put up with a lot of comments. Learn to live with the comments, they're not going to go away.
2006-09-12 09:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by Flying man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a mixed man (half black half dom. rep.) I am also white and yes I got a little racism... not too badly but still more than you would expect. More of it for me was men coming up to me asking why I was with him not so much women, i got lucky.
Sad that this is still around.
2006-09-12 09:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why people care. Black guys aren't my preference, but that's just because...they aren't my preference. I would go with one if he was really nice and I liked him. And I don't understand why anyone would say something like that, i's none of their business anyways.
2006-09-12 09:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Amilucky0707 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋